Many women have a bit of a martyr complex, and they feel tough, and capable, and strong because of all the things they do for others. And all the things they sacrifice for themselves.

Aside from the psychological aspects, this can have some pretty serious consequences for most women.

While you’re busy being super mom, and thriftily not having your hair done and buying “sturdy” “sensible” clothing and shoes, saving money rather than “wasting” it on dinner out or a vacation..

Maybe he misses that beautiful, outrageous, just a bit silly girl he married. Maybe he even feels that “you’re no fun anymore”..and, like clockwork, you’ll answer, “but I do this and this and we have that responsibility and this bill and..and..”

It is good to be tough and strong, and every parent should do a bit of self sacrificing in the name of the kids. But that should never be who you are. There is room in life for you to be practical, strong, and happy. Needless suffering has no value. It does not make us strong, except in the face of more suffering.It does not make us morally superior to anyone. And it usually just makes us grumpy.