Okey heres the deal. You all know I started work yesterday and that I am over 4 months pregnant. Well, I was going to tell the owner this week, but then after what I found out today I think I should wait at least an other week or so until I am at the store I will be working the most at (The one I am at is the busiest one so I am only training there.)

Today another girl was suppose to open and when I got there is was the girl that was suppose to close instead. They said she was dealing with some stuff and if I thought I could handle it that it would be just us for the day and they would tell her just to take the rest of the day off when she got done making her "arrangements".

Turns out she was arranging a funeral and picking out a headstone for the baby girl she miscarried at almost 7 months :( apparently the cord got wrapped around the baby's neck (this has alway's been a fear of mine).

So now knowing this info and knowing that I will be working with her the next 3 day's, I don't think I will be able to tell them (at least not at this store).

They know I had a Dr.s appointment yesterday and that I need the next 2 weekends off, so I thought about waiting at least until I am away from the store where this other girl works.

What do you all think. Should I take the owner aside and tell him or should I just wait another week until I know that I won't be working with her. I don't know her, but I don't want to mention it after what she just went thru.

Thanks ladies.

How sad.:(
It's a tough one. I guess I'd wait a week but if the opportunity to talk with your head boss came up and it was a private meeting I'd tell him sooner. You are being as thoughtful as you can.:hugz:

i think it is very thoughtful of you to not want to hurt that poor gal. i don't think waiting a week will make a difference for your boss, but should he ask why you waited i think he would understand if you told him you didn't want to hurt the gal that just lost her baby.

:hugz: Kat

I'm so sorry that the other lady lost her baby and I'm sure that is scary for you to hear abut also. I think I'd wait another week or so also and then tell your boss in private. It would be really hard for this lady to be around you if she knew you were pregnant when she is dealing with her own grief right now.

Thanks everyone. I just feel so bad. I can't begin to imagine what she is going thru.

Here's a little advice on the flip side - I once had a job while I was pregnat (I was only 10 weeks along) and I didn't tell them yet because I wanted to make it past that critical 12th week - well - she was p.o.'d when I told her and said it was too late to fire me for it but she could have if I had been in my first two weeks probationary period that employers are protected by. You might want to wait a little while to say anything - I just wouldn't let them know exactly how far along you are til later - there can always be "miscalculations" so that you don't feel so guilty.

Kimmee...
That is what we plan on doing. I told him that I was going to have a class reunion sometime this fall and I would probably need a Friday and Saturday off for that. Well I didn't want to have to take 2 day's off in one week so I made my next appointment for the Friday morning of my class reunion. I figured I would wait until the end of this month or first of Oct. tell them that I am a pregnant and that I have an appointment on Oct. 22 to confirm and see how far along I am.

Good girl : I 'm not really trying to tell you to be dishonest but I didn't know they had two weeks to let go of you for any old reason - and its getting way harder to recognize people's motives and intentions. I hope your pregnancy is very smooth and you enjoy working as long as you can. It seems to make the time go much faster til you get that little bitty one!!

Kat, I think you are a wonderfully thoughtful young woman. It's the little things like this that make us what we are. :smooch:

I agree with the ladies, if the opportunity presents itself to have a private meeting with your boss tell him, otherwise I would wait until you get to the store you will be working at.

Oh Kathryn! I hope your plan works. This is so awful for that woman and for you to hear.

I am now at the store I'll be working the most at and after this weekends scare of me ending up in ER with slight cramps and spotting I told the manager as soon as I walked in Monday morning. I haven't seen the owner to tell him but his wife knows so I am sure that he knows by now as well.

As far as the other employees at the other 2 stores he owns I don't know if any of them have found out yet or not.

The owner will be by tomorrow to drop off pay checks (unless his wife does it) so in case she didn't tell him, I will.