Would love to be a stay at home mom, but with me being a single mom that is impossible. I save my paid time off hours for the summer time so I can have more time with the girls in the summer. Does anyone who is single just get tired of working and seeming not to get anywhere. When I look back the last seven years I know I have accomplished alot. Such as buying a house, haveing an EF, savings, getting a nice car that is reliable (used of course), no debt, and never being behind in bills. It's just that with the economy and the dollar bill not what it used to be I have to continue working. Don't get me wrong I love my job, but I wish I could be home more and do things around the house, volunteer more at the girls school, etc.,. Doe's anyone who has to work feel like this at times. I guess I just get tired of running home after work cooking, trying to get things done around the house and doing the things that are necessary that by the time 8 pm rolls around I am exhausted. Seems like I'm not really accomplishing anything. I know I really shouldn't complain because I have a job that I don't have to worry about being laid off and excellent insurance (another reason I have to work for the insurance). Just venting. Thanks for listening. :) Renee

Renee,
I give you all the credit in the world for being a single Mom!!!!
No advice for you but hun youve accomplished more than alot of 2 income couples!!:D
You should be very proud~!

I personally think that single moms are heros. :)

I completely understand, before my divorce (this is my second yr of being single) I was a stay at home mom. I could always be there for my kids, ball games, school parties etc. The house was perfect, had time to cook a real dinner, even time to do some crafts or read. Now life is so difficult, I never have time to do anything. I'm so far behind on homework and finals are in two weeks, my son has a play at school tomorrow and though I have so much else that needs to be done it will be put aside so I can be there for him, the house is a disaster, the laundry is sitting everywhere waiting to be folded or put away and the hamper could stand to be sorted again for more to wash and I never cook, the kids are at mom's most of the time because of my bouncing work schedule so though they eat good well balance meals I ususally grab some easy mac or something quick. And I worry constantly about making ends meet.
I know it takes time to get there but what you have accomplished is amazing and I hope I can do as well. This is only our first month of living alone the first year we held up at my parents till I could get a job etc. I hope so bad to actually be able to own a home one day for me and the kids.
It's so hard but I bet anything that your girls will one day look back and be amazed and grateful for all that you have done for them. Your bond with them will be set in cement. It's small but when I want to sit and cry because of my situation I always think they say "God doesnt give us more than we can handle" and at times I think he's got me confused with someone else but I know what I have to do and do it and think with each hurdle it only makes me a stronger person. This is mean but I know one day my ex will fall on his face in debt (when he's not active duty in the military anymore) he doesn't realize how hard it is in the real world the military finacially has babied him. And while he will be just starting over once he's out, I'm hoping by that time the kids and I will be well on our way to being well established with a home, my education, nice car for me and Brittany, college, savings etc. It's vindictive I know but that alone drives me to keep going no matter what. Last Feb he charged 800.00 for one trip in hotel bills alone for 3 nights for him and the girl he met on the internet that he left me and the kids for :dunce: . I can't tell you how much he has charged on his credit card, seriously the last tab I had (july '04) was around 5000.00 plus the new car he had to have instead of having the old one repaired, all this just to impress her. My point is he's being finacially irresponsible now and won't be any better when he's out of the military and isn't responsible enough to know that he will need to be prepared way before he gets out to be looking for a job.
Keep your chin up I hope it gets easier for you soon :hugz: :rose:

Thak you everyone for the compliments. Singlemomof2 hang in there you can do it. I used to feel the same way about the girls dad like you did, but he really mellowed out. He does help me when the girls need something extra or at holiday times, BUT the biggest problem I have with him is that he likes to override me when I discipline the girls. He see's them about 10 times a month and thinks he knows what is happening in the house. Sometimes I resent that he likes to tell the girls how to be disciplined when he's not here 24/7. We both think differently on discipline. He's way to lient. I used to feel the way you do, but I got over it after a couple of years. Sure, sometimes I get that feeling about him once in awhile, but I shake it off. Only feel that way when I get mad with him, but it's not worth it. I can understand where your'e coming from because I felt the same whay you did when we broke up. :mad: You have done a wonderful job in the last two years. The best thing is that we have our children and that we are there for them at all times.:smball: Also, I agree with you that God doesn't give us more than we can handle, it does make us stronger. I also wonder how much he thinks I can handle, but we have to trust him. I also agree with you that he must be confused with another person!;) Good luck!

Renee, I don't actually know how you feel since I am not a single mom, but my mom was. I know how hard it was on her and exhausting. I think all single moms need lots of respect for working, taking care of children and running a household alone.

Like Michelle stated above, you HAVE accomplished more than families with 2 incomes. I admire you!