Hi Everyone,
Just a question. mt b/f called out sick today cause i have a migrane that wont quit. and a 3 month old son that has some major medical problems. i couldn't safely take care of him, am dizzy and been up since 2 this morning. His boss calls him and tells him that one guy has been out all week last week with food poisoning and will be out all this week so he HAS to come in. B/f fought with him saying i couldn't safely take care of Nick. My son stops breathing at no given time. Waiting for an apnea monitor. And terrified that if i lay down i wont hear a thing if he cries. my son cries 20 hours of of a 24 hour period. My b/f got a little pissed that when his boss called here he was quite rude to me. and I basically yelled at him told him not to call my house and YEll at me in that tone of voice. Was I wrong? Mind you i have no help at all with the baby. no relatives around. and have never asked him to take a day off even when i had the baby and had him by emergency c-section. I don't know must be loosing it.
Thanks for letting me vent Donna

You're not wrong. Some men are just STUPID!! Your son's safety is more important than his staff shortage.

I'm assuming that your b/f is your son's father. If that's the case, he is entitled to paternity leave if the company has 50 employees or more. Your b/f could have taken up to 12 weeks off after the birth of your son. Tell your b/f to tell his boss that, he's lucky that he didn't take that time off!

Stupid, stupid man!

As for the crying, my ds was the same way. Is he on formula? My ds cried constantly until we switched to Alimentum formula, it's already partially digested, so it's easier on little tummies. You might want to check with your dr and see what he/she thinks.

((((HUGS))))

Hang in there, girl! I know how you feel; I get migraines too. I can remember being so tired (two babies in two years!) and having a killer headache. I had never asked my neighbors for anything, but I HAD to get DH's check to the bank and had slept only 12 hours in THREE days (total!). I asked my neighbor to watch them just long enough to run to the bank. She did and, when I got back, told me to leave them with her and to go take a NAP. I took her up on it and hit the bed face first. I slept for an hour and a half. My point? Ask your neighbors! Let them know just how frazzled you are and that you really, really need a hand. There are many people out there who will drop everything to help a new mom out. As for BF's boss? WHAT A JERK. I would like to tell him to... oh, never mind. I guess you will have to grit your teeth and remind him, ever so gently, that dads need to be around for their children and their parnters!

Take your baby out in the stroller for a walk. The crying doesn't seem so bad when it's not echoing off the walls! Also, sometimes the movement will lull them to sleep. Vent some more if you need to; that's what we're here for!

Hi,
b/f is the father. They told him he could leave at 12 yesterday and when he tried to they said he couldn't was to busy. Let alone they made him work until 8 last night. Nick is on nutramagin now for formula cause he has acid reflux plus a breathing problem which he is having surgery for next thursday....
As for asking the neighbors they are elderly and fragile, So i don't feel safe leaving him with anyone around me. Plus nick stops breathing at anytime. And my mom had a stroke on friday night, so can't leave him with her. And I still have the headache today. Told b/f that if it gets any worse that he is going to have to leave work and come home so i can go to the er...
I did try the almentum formula and didn't give much of a change.
he's been on so much. he's on 3 different meds right now and only 3 months. Thanks for listening Donna

Hi Donna! I hope this will make you feel better:

One day, the different parts of the body were having an arguement over which one of them should be the boss of the body. The head felt it should be boss because it does all the thinking, seeing, talking etc. The heart felt it should be boss because it gives the body life, by being strong and pumping blood throughout the system. The legs thought they should be boss because they help the body move from one place to another.

Then the asshole spoke up saying IT hould be boss. The other parts of the body was in hysterics laughing over that one. So the asshole let out a raunchy fart- the other parts could barely breathe. So they all gave in "OK, OK- you can be boss!"

So what's the moral of the story you ask? The asshole is always the boss. LMAO!!!!!

Laura

Milach,
what part of nh are you from? my b/f boss is an asshole
he just called em to see what he can do for me! h a said send b/f home so he can take care of nick. Fat chance that will happen but thanks got a kick out of that one Donna

Originally posted by milach
So what's the moral of the story you ask? The asshole is always the boss. LMAO!!!!!

Laura

Hi Laura!

This is hillarious and soooo true!!! LOL!!

Thanks for the good laugh! :)

Good luck with everything! Just remember it does get easier. If your not able to leave the baby with someone else, you can try a mommy's helper-either a senior citizen or high school kid for an hour or two a week while you are in the house. You can rest, clean, whatever while baby still has someones undivided attention.

Donna! Are you in NH too? I'm in Gilmanton, just moved here from Manchester. What a huge difference!!! I'm about 3 miles from Lake Winnepesaukee.

Laura

Laura,
i'm from mass. i live in lowell. come from boston though.
b/f and i are thinking about moving to nh though.
not the best of cities to live in
Donna

I also get migraines and have had some real doozies, the kind that land you in the ER. When you have a bad migraine it is not possible for you to take care of your baby, your bf did the right thing in staying home to help and you did the right thing in telling that moronic piece-of-poo boss of his to buzz off!

hello donna- i wish i lived closer to you...i would surely help you out. i have been there & done that. hugs & prayers!!!