I am a bit embarrased to even mention it! But since our DD was born and breastfed for her first year she has been in our bed!She just turned "2" and we are now expecting our #2 baby and we are ready for her to go into her bed but she is not! Now we have a problem I am not sure how to do this. She cries and gets up I dont want her to feel unloved either!! Any suggestions how to make this transaction easier and not mean???? We have loved her with us and will miss her in there but we both know it is time especially with wanting to breastfeed again! She is such a SWEET LITTLE GIRL!!!! :angel:

I haven't had this problem BUT here is a suggestion,

Why not get a youth bed and place in in your room next to your bed (or her bed in your room next to your bed)
so she can still be close and gradually move it farther away from your bed and then in the hall way and into her bedroom..

Good luck maybe you will get some better suggestions..
Eileen

Eilleen has a good sugestion. That`s something we did.

We did the family bed too! I had even bought a king size bed at some point in our lives because even if my older son, then 2 and half started the night in his bed, he`d end up in ours. Then we had child number 3 and both older boys would join us in the middle of the night.

Personally, we tried to make them sleep through the night in their own beds around two, but they always came and joined us. Since we were sooo tired with a new nursing baby, we wouldn`t bring them back in their beds in the middle of the night simply because we didn`t wake up when he`d joined us and we`d be too tired to get up and put him back in his bed.

I had installed a mattress on the fllor beside my bed, eventually to make the transition for the oldest one.

Well, that all I can tell you. The thing is, your 2 yr. old might still wake up at night and whether or not she will spend the whole night in her bed, depends on the energy you will have to bringing her back in her own bed and making sure she feels fine. Like I said, I was too tired to get up so we did the family bed very long! LOL! :D

How long did you do the family bed???...lol Also our bedroom is pretty small and there is no room for her bed...I wish!! We do have a toddler bed in her room along with the crib for the baby I dont think she spent much time in her crib!...lol Good suggestion though! TY!!!

You know what? LOL! We the second baby slept a few naps in his crib, the third and 4 th didn`t even have a crib! LOL! It was useless for us...and it took space.

We started a small family bed about a month after my first born...my dh found me asleep with our son on my knees in the rocking chair and I woke up in a suprise, I could have dropped the baby on the floor! :surprise:...so that scared me alot and so, then on we started sleeping with our son. Then my second son born 2 years and 7 months later, we continued. Like I said, before, we tried to get the toddler to sleep in his bed, but he was always in ours very early in the night until morning.

Then I gave birth to my third, My eldest slept more in his bed, the second slept with us and the new baby. This went on until the 3 rd one was 4. Of the older oldest stop coming in our bed around 5 yrs., but the 2 nd came for a long time!!!! We stopped all this when I was about to give birth to my 4 th. Then everyone else would stay in their beds, except the 4 yr. old, who occasionally came early in the morning. So for the first three it lasted all in all about 9 years and the last one slept with us until he was two. After that I had no the energy to bring him back in his bed once or twice a night, because I didn`t have any other baby I was nursing and caring during the night and day. It didn`t take a few weeks that he stayed in his bed all night.

That`s my family bed story! LOL! I sure know it`s not for everyone and personally, today if I had to do it again, I would have insisted more in my 4, 5, 6 years olds always coming in our bed in the middle of the night. Back then, I was so afraid to *traumatise* and I was a very giving parent * all the time* so much at a point that I became exhausted after my third was born and I had experinced a long post partum depression...needing therapy...

Well, I don`t know if my experince has helped you, but all I can say is that I would still sleep with my new baby if I had another one instead of getting 3, 4 times a night to nurse him. :)

If you have more questions, I`ll be happy to answer you! :jabber:

My Children have always slept with me .....when they wanted to that was...My first son never wanted to....from the day I brought him home....when he was tired he just wanted to be put down and left alone!! LOL....so BOY was I surprised when the next one came along...and NEVER went to sleep on his own! DS #3 also slept with us right up til about last year...when he was three....and he still comes and gets in the bed with us occasionally....#4 doesnt like sharing a bed.....but he likes for me to lay down with him til he gets to sleep....
I dont know...I guess Im just a sucker.....I cant stand the thought of them being scared at night and needing me.....its my job to be there.....so if having them in my bed gets them to sleep better....(and consequently means that I can get some sleep) then so be it.
My husband hates it....he was raised to NEVER get in his parents bed...they would yell and spank him if he even tried....so he thinks it ought to be that way now for HIS sons......yet he cant sleep if Im not in the bed with HIM either!!! LOL...so who is HE to talk about how they need to sleep alone???

what it all comes down to for me....is whatever arrangement gets the most rest for myself....thats the one we go with..lol,,,I know thats lazy....but I cant function any other way..

Thank you all! Atleast I dont feel all alone in this! Another thing that is not going to well and I am not sure if its because of her sleeping in our bed, she doesnt want to nap by herself always on my lap or DH's! Never in her bed or the floor, occasionally she has fallen asleep to a video on the floor but after about a 1/2 hour she wakes up crying and once she is picked up she goes back to sleep. I love holding her in my arms to sleep but with another baby on the way I dont know what to do!!!! She rarely will nap alone I am not sure if she will nap with the baby and maybe that would get her in her room since the baby and her will be sharing the room??? She is interested in the baby being in the crib saying thats the babies, we laugh thinking well it was never yours!...LOL Being she is only 2 I am not sure how much napping she needs but if she has no nap then she sometimes will fall asleep on the couch late though around 7 or 8 then wakes up after about a hour then is up even later!...LOL

Well, maybe you can start now when she takes a nap and she wakes up, just be there for her, tell her to go to sleep, mommy`s there but I can`t take you in my arms...etc.. She will cry, but you will be there and with a soothing voice and gentle strokes on her back, you are consoling her of her sadness of not being picked up. It will be hard for you not to take her in your arms but you will be there. There will come a time when the new baby this will happen because you won`t have a choice. Of coarse you can always nap all 3 toghter but sometimes you won`t be available for her, so it will be part of her growing up a little...she should eventually be able to take naps alone. All you can do, is do your best and don`t too hard on yourself and don`t feel guilty...I did when my 2 nd was born. I felt sooo much guilt and pity for my 2 yr. old who cried in his bed(he went by himself to cry) because I was not always available as before and I was nursing the baby...I learned then to confort him as best I can in his little sadnesses of growing up.

I don`t know if this makes sense...If you have other questions I`ll be happy to try to answer what I think.

Take care... :)

I like the suggestion Eilleen had I have a little diffrent one!!
How about letting her fall asleep in your bed and then move her to her bed while she is good and asleep!!
We do that with DD now and she usually sleeps through the night that way!!
I hope this helps you out!!

TY both I will try the nap by herself rubbing her back and maybe the letting her fall asleep in our bed and moving her I thought about it but thought maybe it would make her upset if she awoke in a different room br herself. I know this is going to be VERY difficult she is such a sweet little angel!!! I love holding her too!!!!

Snowy... know how you feel.....my Daniel was only a year old when I got pregnant with Jimmie....and Daniel was always such a clinger...he never slept..had to be attatched to my body at all times of night and day...I was racked with guilt at the thought of another baby taking his place.....but at the same time I knew I couldnt slight the new baby any attention!.....I was soooo worried...and then when lil Jimmie came...I was sooooo amazed at how much smoother the transition was than I expected....Daniel really adjusted well....looking to his father a lil more when he knew I was nursing or otherwise busy with Jimmie.
The three of us DID spend a lot of time napping together tho!! LOL

My DD is a definate DH's girl!!! And I also wonder how he will even get to bond with the new baby!!! Maybe it will be ok, she does have a interest in babies and seems like she understands there is a baby coming she knows baby is in my tummy!...lol Maybe she will want to nap with the baby!...lol I am so lucky she is a easy going girl!!! Just hope that is the same way!...lol :cat:

I dont know how you feel about it.....but I also watched the Having a Baby show on the Discovery channel every day.....Daniel really got the idea about having a new baby ..lol