Well my DH is an alcoholic he has been well forever I suppose. Last weekend he went out with friends and lets say came home so plastered that he was talking craziness. Now I must confess he truly scares me when he gets this way. About a year or so back he actually kicked in my wrought iron security screen(wow what a false sense of securlty those are) in one of these rages. Ok well after last weekend he actually scared himself and has decided its time to stop drinking. We went to a funeral Thursday -friday with his family who all drink heavily and he drank water and soda. I am so proud of him. Its gonna be a long road but we are trekking it together.:fence: Wish us luck!

Wishing you all the best!

Good for him for taking a step in the right direction. :clap:

Best of luck to both you and dh!

It's a long hard road, but it can be done! One day at a time....he can do it! :)

Wishing him the strength and determination to make this positive change. Hope he'll ask for help if the going gets too tough from people who can give him whatever he needs to make this a change that sticks.
Hugs to you. :hugz:

Good for him for taking that first hard step.

wishing you the best!!!

Wishing you and your DH all the best. :hugz:

Good luck..wishing you all the best.

Sending hugs and positive energy to you all! Every day is a victory!

It is a difficult road. Take it from an Irish Catholic family. I think they all drink in my husbands family. But the first step is admitting there is a problem and then the courage and support to change. You must remember that he must do the changing and you sometimes will feel so lost. I don't know what your religion is, but my nephew just finished rehab for drinking and he learned alot through the aaa book. Maybe try to find one and read it. It was very interesting. Also be sure to look up on how family factors into the recovery. These are just suggestions and I know you don't know me, I was just being helpful. I hope that I didn't offend.
Good luck

Good luck to you and DH.

That's great news. :hugz: to you and I wish your dh all the best throughout this journey.

Wishing him good luck

:applause: For your dh. I hope everything works out for you both.

:clap: I applaud anyone trying to improve themselves. He must have gotten sick and tired. Positive thoughts going out to you on the road ahead, and with your help I am sure he can find healthier outlets or substitutes for his old habit.

Wishing you the best!

I wish you and your DH the best of luck!

From experience iI can tell you that it will be long road but a trip well worth it
My DH got his 5th dui and faced 2 1/2-5 years in state. With my help and a very good attorney he only got 6 month and house arrest. Of course he is still on probation and we just go the fines paid off. When he was drinking it was nothing for him to drink 24 in an evening and still be able to go to work in the morning. He would get very obnoxious at times.In the middle of all this his dad took his life and things with his 12 year old started goinog down hill. But as of Aug 3 we got married and got custody of his daughter, March will be two years without alcohol.He still gets the urge once in a while but is able to say no. Sorry this is so long but I wanted you to know it is worth it.

wishing you and your DH all of the best! Al-anon is another great resource for those dealing with an alcoholic.

Wishing you and your DH all the best.

Good for him! Wishing your family the best as he gets through this.


--Michelle

Best of luck to your family!

Good for your husband and I know you will be suporting him all the way. Drinking in excess is never good and I hope and pray your dh can kick the habit for good..Blessings...Kathy

:crying: well so much for that. We had an argument Saturday and guess where he turned...yep and has been back to the beer all week.

:grouphug2 The hardest part is realizing you can't fix someone's problem for them. And the disapointment.

:grouphug2 I'm so sorry that your DH turned back to alcohol. He has to know that this is tearing you apart.

mom23boyz I am sorry this is happening to you, just remember that you cannot change your DH but you can be there to support him, God Bless and keep your head high.

:hugz: Speaking from experience....I never realized (until I stopped drinking) how hard it was on my loved ones....mainly my DH. I kept it very well hidden from my family & friends and they were shocked (to say the least) when I entered treatment. Late last spring I hit my rock bottom. My DH had had enough and without my knowledge called around and found me an awesome 5 week outpatient treatment program. He said it was up to me to decide whether or not to go. It was definitely the best decision I've ever made. The Drs and therapists were the best! I can't begin to tell you how it has changed my life! I truly am a different person. The treatment programs are not cheap! It cost over $10,000, but thankfully our insurance paid for almost the entire bill.

Before treatment I was ashamed of myself, depressed, etc. But after treatment and all that I learned I no longer am :) I learned that just like heart disease, diabetes, etc.... alcoholism is also a disease.

I'm not saying things have been easy everyday, but I have learned to take things "one day at a time" :)

If a treatment program isn't something your DH is willing to do or isn't an option.... would he consider going to AA meetings?

You and your DH will be in my thoughts & prayers :hugz: Please feel free to PM me with and questions you may have.

I'd also like to add...this is a very hard disease to conquer. Most people do not manage to do so on their first try and have relapses. For me....some times I would go a few days, weeks and even a few months without a drink, but something would always "set me off". Treatment taught me how to cope with these triggers.

My hubby drank beer for years, and years. After a vacation of drinking beer and not eating for a week, he started getting terrible pains and a back ache.
After a trip to emergency room and being admitted for hospital stay...with pancreatitus. He spent the next 2 weeks, hoping it wouldn't kill him. The first 3-4 for days were very scarry and I could smell death in that room. He very slowly got better and it has been 2 years and 2 months since he has touched alcohol. He will always remember the pain and being curled up in the fetal position...crying in agony. I'm not sure he could have done it without the wakeup call, so I'm glad it happened.
Good luck to you, and until he is ready..there really isn't anything you can do. It's sad to sit back and watch someone destroying themselves, but I know that kind of love that makes you stay with them. Best of luck to you and hugs of understanding sent your way.

Wow thanks all for the support. I honestly cann't remember if I actually updated but he started drinking again I'd say maybe a month ago. I as always continued to stick by his side but Easter eve we had another serious problem..... he had been drinking for a good part of the evening and night and got a bit obnoxious. Long story short we were at families house and at about 12:30am he disappeared in my car to find out he went to get food. When I asked for the keys he refused, he then insisted on driving myself and children home for the sole purpose of "making me mad" he said at 3:30 am. I left the kids at families house so I could get my car to get the kids. He blocked my car in the driveway and locked me out of my house. After about 30 min I got in the house only to be confronted and find damage inside. I got the kids Easter stuff and left after a lengthy confrontation and numerouse accusations. I retrieved my kids, waited 2 hrs and came home to find the door locked with key broken in the lock and keyless entry to garage destroyed. I have decided the alcohol is more important, stronger than me too. After 17yrs of "problems"directly related to the alcohol I cann't deal anymore. He called on Easter at my moms and asked us to come home. I agreed on the condition he would get professional help in quitting drinking. He agreed and I am trying to find someone to see him under our insurance. Ok so not so short but I am struggling here and cann't seem to find anyone willing to "see" him. If anyone has personal experience with this and wouldn't mind... PM me with any advice. Thanks again friends

They have been where you are right now and can refer your dh to AA, as well as offer you advice. It is free. My father was in AA for 23 years before he died. It works (as will any treatment) if your dh wants it to work. Maybe knowing he will lose his family will prompt him to get the help he needs. It worked for my father.

Your dh sounds like he gets physical. Do NOT be afraid to call the police or just leave. You owe it to yourself and your children. Keep us posted and stay strong! You cannot control your dh, but you can control YOU and how YOU act.

Wishing you all the best

katy

You are a better woman then me. I would have left him long time ago. I can't abide a drunken man who refuses to get help.

Please do not get in the car with the kids when he is driving drunk. I lived with (and divorced) an abusive alcoholic. You deserve better than this. I hope if he can not get help and stay sober that you have the strength to leave. I know how hard that can be.

Sending prayers your way. My girlfriend speaks highly of Al Anon and the information and support they offer not only to her husband but to her as well. I wish you all the best. Perhaps he needs to hit rock bottom a little longer before he realizes that he needs to want to change. Please be careful, don't put you or your kids in any danger.

Instead of just calling around, try calling your insurance company directly and ask them which programs they cover. They will be able to give you names & numbers of treatment programs, etc.