Would you date someone 20 years older than you?

20 years older is a bit too much for me personally but who knows? Dh is 11 years older than I am and with some things it sometimes it feels like it's too many years between us then others it's just peachy.

I don't know, I might. It would depend on how young they seem to me and if there is an attraction there.

Dh is 17 yrs older than me. It is never an issue for us.

Although I am very happily married, I told DH if I were ever (God forbid)single again I would most definetly seek out someone conciderably older than myself.

I don't think I could comfortably. I am currently dating someone 7 years older than me and though we get along great I can already see that he's less flexible than I am and we both think it's due to age.

My last SO was 17 years younger, and remember the age gap problems we had, I would not date someone that much older. Besides, I'm 55, so they would be ANCIENT! LOL

Well, I might DATE them, but I wouldn't get into a relationship with them.

My DH is 10 years older than me and while I dont have a problem with dating anyone 20 years older than me, I would make sure he isnt such a fuddy duddy when it comes to certain things.

What I am saying is I sure would try it but before falling I would see his habits, etc..

I'm 52, so that would mean the gentleman would be 72. Hmmmmm----yes, I think I would if he was a "young" 72.

As I get older age is more and more just a number. It doesn't mean what it used to mean to me.

Yes, I would.

Actually, when in my mid 30's I dated a rew men who ranged from 18 to 33 years older than I, and one who was only 25 and had never lived away from his parents - he's the one I'm embarrassed to remember! The older men were all intelligent, charming, interesting, active men. Those matter a whole lot more than age to me!

maybe its because im only 23, but wow.. no way. im sorry.

maybe its because im only 23, but wow.. no way. im sorry.

ROFL I was 24 when I met my current husband. He was 41 :toothy:

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I would gladly date a man 20 yrs my senior if the attraction is there.... and I have. He was knowledgable about the world and more importantly himself so he wasn't still "discovering" who he wanted to be. He was financially secure, articulate and intelligent to boot. He knew enough to talk and when to LISTEN. I'm very happily married to someone 4 yrs my junior but he has all the qualities I admire in a man.... well most all of them.

There is a vast difference in experience if you are in your late teens or early 20's so perceptions and goals for your lives may be very different. The older you get the smaller the experience gap becomes.

But if a great relationship is there, age has no meaning.

Lordy. . .Lordy. . .Years ago I dated a guy who was 40+ years old than me. On the other side of the coin, I dated a guy who was 22 years younger than me.

one who was only 25 and had never lived away from his parents - he's the one I'm embarrassed to remember!


Your statement reminded me of the guy who was 22 years younger than me that I'm embarrassed to remember. The last time I went out with him, we were at a Japanese restaurant where they cook the food in front of you. We were waiting to have our orders taken and he got tired of waiting. So what does he do??? He picks up his fork and knife in each of his hands and starts banging them on the table yelling, "I want to eat. I want to eat" and he won't stop until the waiter comes over. Well. . .I about died of embarrassment. I refused to see him after that!!

Age never really bothered me, though both my ex and :smooch: are younger than me! :smirk: But I don't think I'd have a problem dating someone that much older. :smooch:'s friend/sous chef is 19 years younger than his wife!

I dated a guy that was 16 years older than me, so I don't think 20 would be that big a difference. DH is only 4 years older, but sometimes it seems like a decades difference.

Lordy. . .Lordy. . .Years ago I dated a guy who was 40+ years old than me. On the other side of the coin, I dated a guy who was 22 years younger than me.

Ahhh, you're my hero :) :hat: Older men can be so mysterious and secure with themselves, younger such fun!

That said, never dating again! Honestly I've even told hubby "I love you DEARLY, but after 17 years training you and just about getting you where I need you I'll be DAMNED if I'd start all over again!" :)

kj

Frugalhousewife. . . .You just said it all in a nutshell!!!! That was priceless!!!!

No, I would not.I would not date someone 20 years younger either.

Yes I would.

They say males mature more slowly! :laugh: Having said that, my DH is 11 years older than me and I think it's a good fit. In fact, I never had a serious relationship with anyone in college, many reasons for that, I will not bore you with. But if it was meant to be....

That's so funny that this question was brought up. Some of my favorite people at work are 20 years older than I am. If I was single, I would definitely date someone 20 years older.

Personally, No, I wouldn't. Mostly because I want more children. Also, I want to grow old with someone, not be the 20 yrs younger spouse taking care of him. My limit is within 10 years older, preferable 5, and No more than a year or two younger.

20 years younger maybe but not older!

I couldn't. I think for me there would be too many things that were not sharable. example music, growing up memories, TV shows, etc. Guess I enjoy sharing with my dh the memories of past things that we shared growing up. I wouldn't have that with someone 20 years older. Besides I'd always think he is old enough to be my dad, that would weird me out. But I know plenty of people that is does work for. By the way, dh is only 7 months older than me.

I do not think I could. Not now. Only because if he had kids they are probably close to my age! Maybe when I get older, and my kids get older it wont be an issue. I wont date younger than me though! The maturity issue. I guess 5 -10 years good right now. :D

I wouldn't have a problem with it if there were things we shared in common.

My dh is 10 years older than me and the man I dated before him was 19 years older than me. Obviously, I don't have a problem with it. :laugh:

Inneedofhope nailed it. My dad was 20yrs older than my mom. No problems until he hit his 70's. Didn't want to travel, go out to dinner, visit friends, fish, camp ---nothing. My mom was 50 and wanted to do all of the above. Then his health started failing, dementia set in and so after kids, she spent 17 years taking care of him and resenting it.

So date maybe, but not marriage/commitment for me. DH is 3 yrs older and sometimes that seems huge.:shhh:

Nope I wouldn't be able to, but maybe that is because I found out today that my biomom left stepdad #5 and moved right in with a 22 year old. So her boyfriend is 11 years younger than me and just 9 years older than her oldest grandchild.

Date maybe. Maybe not though because it would be like dating my Dad and that's just *EWWW!*

for me it wouldnt matter. i dated a guy that was 10 yrs older than me and he had the maturity of a teenager. he was really lucky that a friend/coworker didnt bring up sexual harassment charges. with someone younger it would really have to depend on thier maturity. jason is 22 and im 25. even when we were going out in high school we both seemed more mature for a 15 (him) and 18 (me) yr old. with zack (merrick's dad) he seemed like a teenager.

yes i would..
i am 25..and i am interested in someone that is 43 but honestly he doesnt look his age..i thought he was in his 30s till someone told me his age i am like NOWAY..but i have a thing for older men to so maybe i dont count lol..

ROFL I was 24 when I met my current husband. He was 41 :toothy:



Same here. My husband is 18 years older than I am. I was 23 when I met him, and he was 41.

We don't even notice the age difference....

Except that every once in a while it hits me that I will most likely outlive him by a good many years... I try not to think about it.

Would you date someone 20 years older than you?

No. My upper bound is 44.

That would be like dating someone as old as my father and I'm not looking for a father figure...I personally have issues with such a age difference..so my answer would be NO!

Gripey is 6 years older than me and it's never ever been an issue for us but I don't think I could ever date anyone who is 20 years older b/c of quality of life issues in that later years (being completely selfish here but at some point you have to be, kwim?).

hopefully I'll never BE single again
but if I were, I could absolutely see myself with someone older
maybe moreso than someone my own age
I've always been in "the wrong generation"

I've always been in "the wrong generation"

I have felt this way, too! I think I was born about 20 years too late, and so do a lot of my friends. As far as age of a partner, it wouldn't matter at all to me in most cases. The connection is what is important, and if you fit and have that spark, I say hold on to it because it doesn't happen everyday. I'm 34, and I guess I couldn't really see myself dating a college-age guy, unless he was unusually mature. As far as dating somebody 20 years my senior - no problem whatsoever in theory. I've always dated older men, sometimes much older. DH is almost 6 years older than I am. I like the experience and wisdom that older men can have, the diminished ego that can also go along with age.

Probably not. I am married now but when I was not married I was not attracted to men that are old enough to be my daddy.

Not in this life...