He sent me his proposal, and it was so idiotic as to be laughable. You ladies that said he was trying to maintain control were completely correct, he does not even want me to leave town without my cell phone with the children without his WRITTEN permission! Here is a list of things I would need his written permission for:

Blood work for the children
Educational assessments of the children
Leaving the city limits with the children
Changing their school
Changing any childcare situation
Visiting my family
Counselling for the children
Going across the border to go shopping with the children
Changing the visitation schedule in any way unless HE requests it:bs:


He also wants me to forgive 100% of the back support and base new payments on his alledged 2006 income of $7000. Yes you are reading correctly. How frugal he must be!

Not a single solitary chance in the depths of you-know-where. The money for the lawyer is arranged and I will see his whiny little butt in court!

Glad you stuck to your guns, he will continue to try to control whenever possible. Glad you are dragging him before the judge. WTG!

Hold him accountable for all the back support he owes.

We are here for you!

Keep us posted.

Sounds to me.. that it is a control thing. But also the list of stuff, is like he is trying to make sure you don't up and run. My mother used to say that when people hint around, they are usually the first to contemplate that.. I would keep an eye on him...

Wow I pity him, lol He is still trying to control everything, take his BUTT to court! :) and keep us posted.

Karen,

Yeesh, so sorry about all the drama. But I am glad that you have the lawyer part under control......Maybe you should have your lawyers investigator interview the other guys that work at his establishment and find out what they make a week in tips, wages ect.......

Just an idea.

leezza

Sorry for the drama....but he wants you to forgive 100% of what he owes you....as if!! You can tell he has no lawyer but the wacky proposal he came up with. Sounds like a real control freak. Good luck with getting this behind you.

Hope he earns alot of $1 bills to pay you back !

The whole situation is almost laughable, it's so ridiculous.

Get as much $$ as you can from him. After all, they're his kids.

Keep us posted.

Good luck when you go to court. Keep us posted.

What is he smoking and where can I get some?!?!?

I would think any judge is going to laugh at his proposal, too. Good luck in court!

And now that i've stopped laughing.....

Good Luck in Court! and WTG!

can't...reply...laughing...too...hard...peein....pants!

phew, what a moron. Good luck in court. let us know what happens. this bozo (haven't gotten the satisfaction of using that word in a while. but it fits...no?) will get his comuppins before the judge.

I am so sorry you are still dealing with this. I'll be thinking about you all. I would say "good luck" ,but I don't think you will need it!

Go get em sister!!! Sigh, where DO some of them come up with these silly ideas anyway?

NAIL HIS BUTT TO THE WALL!!!

We're here for ya :)

hugs.
kj

OMG! That is just unreasonable!

Oh my stars! He is insane. How could he even have the gall to put them on paper :yikes: . I hope when you take him to court that they make him pay you all the arrears and the intrest on it also. I think that any judge that sees that he is leaving the girls alone without proper supervision while he is out stripping will not think twice about any visitation restrictions that YOU want. If he can't even afford proper child care, he does not deserve any overnight visits, JMHO.

Don't forget that we are hear for you.

Good luck and hang in there!

He must be nuts!!! Daisygirl keep strong and go get the little bugger!!! Why does he only make $7000 a year? He could work here full time at minimum wage and make double that!!

Buckeye, he makes far more than $7000 - somehow he cooked up his books to show only that income. He showed that he was operating his business at a loss. My job is to prove that.

I'm not fooling around. It is all-out war. Thanks as always for backing me up!

I hate exes, makes you wonder what you saw in them in the first place--good luck!!!!:lemon:

OMG! Is he on drugs? LOL I would not forgive any debt, it will only bite you in the butt. As far as his permission, are you allowed to feed them without an approved menu from him? That is all so absurd. Good luck in court :hug:

Daisygirl it is time to play commando. You need to find someone to call his "stripping" number and see how much he charges for a show. Have someone follow him around for a week and see how many shows he does. That will give the judge a wakeup call.

If you're gonna go that route... I'd highly recommend you hire a private detective, so the evidence collected will be admissible in court. If that works... I'd also highly recommend sending all the collected info to the IRS. If he actually "cooked" his books to show a loss... then the IRS will be very interested in him for the next few years... if you catch my drift ;-)
-Jason Herbert

-- Gotta play an asshole in the company of assholes.

The latest:

He called and told me his "wishlist" was just a starting point, that "written permission" meant notification.

Give me a break. He wants me to write back to him with my offer. I am really just sick of it. I am going to have to cough up the money and deal through the courts. I don't feel like being nice to someone who does not support his children or find them a priority. Last night he was 45 minutes late picking them up and this morning he was an hour and 15 minutes late. If you only got limited time, wouldn't you be prompt? Aaaargh. This makes me crazy.

A PI isn't a bad idea. THat is what got my sister full custody and her child's father only got supervised visits because of his actions while he was being followed.

It was pretty amusing in court when he claimed he NEVER drinks and then they had video of him not only in bars drinking, but in bar fights where police were called!

Make sure you show the Judge his "lists" of requests. It will work in your favor. What an idiot he is!!!