Daisygirl
12-25-2007, 05:00 PM
I was just thinking about my divorce and the dissolving of my marraige, with it being the holidays and all. It has been now 5 years since I left my ex husband, and this is the first Christmas that things have been ok. The first couple I was depressed and wishing I still had the piles of extended family to spend it with. The 3rd and 4th, we had joint custody and the holidays fell during his time and it was world war 3. Last year the police ended up being called! Every year one thing was true: the only tradition was anziety and depression.
This year, we have finally settled our custody issues, we have finally managed to order things in a way the children are first and things just felt right. I went back to all of our old traditions, some of which had not been visited since before the divorce. I helped the kids shop for their dad and his girlfriend. We made gifts, decorated the house from top to bottom and had a wonderful day together, and now the girls have left to spend a few days with their dad and his family.
For the first time I am not depressed and lonely. I finally feel content. Finally after 5 years, I feel like I am over my marraige and divorce.
This feeling is peace.
This year, we have finally settled our custody issues, we have finally managed to order things in a way the children are first and things just felt right. I went back to all of our old traditions, some of which had not been visited since before the divorce. I helped the kids shop for their dad and his girlfriend. We made gifts, decorated the house from top to bottom and had a wonderful day together, and now the girls have left to spend a few days with their dad and his family.
For the first time I am not depressed and lonely. I finally feel content. Finally after 5 years, I feel like I am over my marraige and divorce.
This feeling is peace.