My money order got lost for my gas bill. I'm trying to pay the past balance. I'm broke cause I gave all my extra to the gas bill to hold them off.

I have to send in a form to get my money back from that money order and it can take a month.

My dryer broke. It's making a bad clumping noise. My dad will look at it tonight, maybe the belt is broke?

I haven't recieved child support in 2 months, the FOC won't do anything. I asked for an income with holding order so his work would take the money out of his check, the friend of the court won't do it because he has paid 11 out of 23 months.

I got a letter from the friend of the court saying I need to meet my ex boyfriend half way next weekend so he can have visitation. He has been coming to my house. It costs baout $60 in gas to meet and pickup.

So he is not paying child support, I have to drive halfway for his visitation, yeah...screw me for trying to figure out how i'm going to get my oldest to and from school now, I will be broke until the 1st of April now.

I'm so angry! I'm keeping everything together for me and my kids and now my ex is causing me more stress!

I'm so sorry. You've been trying so hard to get ahead, and it seems when things start looking up, you get knocked down again. You're a strong person....you will get through this. Best of wishes.

Can you reply to the FOC and say that you cannot meet your exbf half way because of finances? Is he the same low life that was trying to take your dd2? And is he the one that is not paying his support? If so - then you cannot meet him because he is not providing funds for gas money and the heat is more important than anything! Hopefully the money order refund will get back quickly. Don't give up hope - you are made of tougher stuff than what you give yourself credit for.
Dianne

I'm so sorry!

:hugz: I remember my days of single parenting and how tight things were. I was lucky that my ex paid support though not always on time so my bills were late getting paid many times.

As far as refusing to meet him for visitation because he's not paying support. Our court agreement stated that I had to pay half the cost of providing transportation each visit. Even if he wasn't paying support I would have been going against the decree refusing to do this.

Sadly, even though someone doesn't pay support they can't be refused visitation or forced to pay your travel costs.

FOC must be like our DFS here. I would keep working to get income withholding for back child support. You said a "friend of the court" does this mean he has a friend working for the courts? If this friend is making things more difficult for you try to speak with someone there about the situation.

Hope things work out for you.

Can you change the visitation agreement so you don't have to travel?

In the beginning, I was suppose to meet him halfway. He lives the next town over, and he is a really nice guy. He can afford the gas, so he doesn't make me use the gas... unlike the one you have to deal with.

He doesn't pay child support because he 'can't afford it'? Personally, I would be afraid that he would try to say he can't afford to meet you half way... when he has her. That means you would have to come up with the money to travel the full way there and back again.

I don't mean to scare you, but, if he is as slimy as to try to get custody the way he did, I wouldn't really put anything past him.

I say it's time for a 2-for-1 lynching... lets grab Karen's ex on the way!

Does the money order place have a number to call? Maybe you can talk to someone in charge and explain what is going on with the gas company and that if there is any way they could put a rush on it. There may be a way they can. Talking to them can't hurt KWIM.

I hope that the dryer is just the belt * crosses my fingers for you *

i agree with Dianne if its the same ex thats screwing you out of child support is the same one wanting you to meet him half way to drop off your daughter so he can see her, then you should call them back and tell them the situation. That right now your worrying over getting your gas bill paid your dryer is on the fritz and you are broke to your last penny at the moment how can you afford the gas to meet him. Get emotional let them feel your pain...but not let it sound like its an inner resentment towards your ex as to why you can't get there.

11 of 23 months is less then half !! Geeze how behind does he have to get before they do anything? 23 out of 23??

Oh my. I'm so sorry. What a jerk! I know things look bad now but you just have to keep going. Try not to worry about what could happen but concentrate on how to make it happen. Hugs and many good thoughts coming your way. Carolyn

Sorry for your trouble....I sent you a PM.

Kind Regards,
leezza

I am sorry for all your troubles too.. i will keep you in my prayers and hopefully everything will work out.. and pass over..

I was so upset that I called my mom. My mom was so mad that she went to the friend of the court office (the FOC handles childsupport and visitation issues) and demanded to speak to someone. They gave her a hard time because they can't discuss cases unless it's the party involved. ANyways my mom called my dad and he stopped here and grabbed all my paperwork and when he got there he told them they better call the police because he was not leaving until someone would speak with him.

The police arrived and my dad explained to them that the FOC sent me a letter stating I needed to travel halfway for visitation, my ex has been coming to my house because the judge declared him as a flight risk, and he told them that my ex recently tried to sue me again wanting me to pay him back all the child support he paid plus pay him money, plus he has been harassing me by phone

long story short

The proscuter is meeting me in the morning and me and my girls will have a restraining order on my ex boyfriend and the judge will sign it, visitation will be changed in writing that my ex will have supervised visitation at my house and can only call me 4 times a week to see how my daughter is doing, my ex will now have a show cause hearing and he will face the judge and explain why he doesn't feel the need to pay and he will be arrested and have his drivers license suspended if he does not pay.

My mom is going to pay the 100 i'm short on the gas bill this wekeend and i'll pay her back when I get the money order straightned out.

My dad told me I have to take the dryer apart myself and try to figure out whats wrong and then he'll help me fix it if it can be fixed. If it can't I do have a clothesline outside so no big deal.

I feel like such a whiner but everyone gives me such great support here, thank you

Trust me when I tell you, I feel your pain.

What you have to concentrate on are the things you CAN change. I would keep bugging the FOC until you find someone there that can help you. Keep asking for supervisors until someone will hear your story.

What can they do if you don't meet him halfway? If you truly don;t have the money? Find out what the worst thing is that can happen and you may find it isn't that bad.

Deadbeat men are scum. Lady V is ready to take em out for us!

Okay, I responded without reading page two, lol.

Good for your mom and dad. I am so happy that they stepped up for you.

As single moms with a particular type of ex, it seems that sometimes we have to fight harder and play rougher than anyone else.

You go that extra mile and protect your kids. You are a strong person and women like us are the ones that should run the world!

Big hugs to you.

I would vote for a single mom to be president anyday. That is someone who knows hard work and long suffering. I applaud you ladies. Hang in there mmy2grls.

mmy2grls - Sometimes getting fretted and upset is the only to get things to happen. I am so happy that your parents were there to intervene on behalf of you and your daughters.
Please keep your head up and keep venting here. We are a community that helps support each other!! Hang in there and don't let that dirt bag get the upper hand in anyway and keep us posted!!
Dianne :purpcat:

Yay, me and my girls have a restraining order against him now! If he harasses us or continues to file frivilous lawsuits against me he will get in trouble.

A police officer is going to work today to collect owed child support, if he doesn't have it he goes to jail until the show cause hearing.

I feel so peaceful now that he can't scare me any longer and he is now being recognized for what he is.

I was trying to figure out how to take apart my dryer last night, I moved the dryer out from the wall to unplug it and decided to turn it on so I could hear the noise that it makes in case I had to describe it and my dryer works fine now! I don't know what happened but maybe something was stuck in the drum or something.

WOOOHOOOOO!! I've got goose bumps girlfriend! See???? Good things come to those who simply believe!

I panic at times and rant and rave just like other men and women on these boards and it's good for the soul to just release our frustrations, tears, etc.

((Sending you virtual hugs sweetheart)) and it is going to get EVEN better! Prayer REALLY DOES WORK.

that is great new`s. Im so glad thing`s are looking up.

You go girl! Glad to see he will know you mean business. He sounds a little psycho I would be careful and watch your back.

GO Grandpa & Grandma : )

Your parents Rock!!!!!

I am glad to hear that things are turning around for you.....and I am glad that you are hanging in there.

leezza

I am so glad things have worked out for you on this front! *hugs*

BTW I would like to mention that there are some dead beat moms out there too. My step-daughter (DSD) has one heck of one! DH raised her on his own since she was 7. Her mom came back into her life when she was 14 "to be with her daughter". She agreed to move back to town and take part in her life. As a sign of good faith, DH signed off so she didn't have to pay child support. As soon as those papers were filed, she moved to another state and didn't see her daughter again until her high school graduation day. She has made many empty promises to visit since then and has not kept any of them.
Dead beat moms really suck! Just wanted to add that in because it's not just the guys that can be such jerks.

I am so happy about the order!! I know you have been a nervous wreck for most of the new year worried about this and your girls. Take a breath and hug your little girls tight! YAY! :hug2:
Dianne

WOW!!! CONGRATULATIONS!!!


Your parents are awsome to have done that... so sounds like something my grandparents would have done... when they have gotten to their last straw they pull out all the stops to get the results they want.

There may have been something stuck in the belt or something ... like a bra wire or something got stuck somewhere weird in your dryer... i know when we had our washer looked at it had a bra wire in it from a previous owner.

Oh how wonderful!!! It sounds like the "people" your parents talked to actually had a brain in their head and some common sense. Keep us posted on how this all pans out.

*update*

The gas company finally did get the money order and it shows on my account now.

My dryer works great now.

My ex boyfriends mother called me the other day and I let her know her son has stopped paying child support. Last night my ex called and apoligized for being an a$$ and today I noticed there was a $600 child support made that I should recieve in a couple of days. :)

*update*

The gas company finally did get the money order and it shows on my account now.

My dryer works great now.

My ex boyfriends mother called me the other day and I let her know her son has stopped paying child support. Last night my ex called and apoligized for being an a$$ and today I noticed there was a $600 child support made that I should recieve in a couple of days. :)

I am so glad to hear that the gas company finally received your payment!!! I bet that in itself took a huge weight off of your shoulders. Glad to hear about the child support too :cheer4:!

*update*

The gas company finally did get the money order and it shows on my account now.

My dryer works great now.

My ex boyfriends mother called me the other day and I let her know her son has stopped paying child support. Last night my ex called and apoligized for being an a$$ and today I noticed there was a $600 child support made that I should recieve in a couple of days. :)

:fdance: Glad things are working out for you. I know it is a relief off your shoulder.

How very cool! I'm glad things are going your way now. :)


--Michelle

I'm sooooooo happy that things have worked out so well for you! :thumb: I agree with other posters... deadbeats suck doesn't matter if deadbeat is "mom" or "dad" to the kids! :nrant: I was one of the "lucky" single parents (ds's 1st 9 yrs)... his bio sp*rm donor basically paid child support (even if late a few months) & never came around! Used to totally tick me off until I started hearing some of my friend's horror stories with their ex's!:ouch: Now if we could just pick up an extra $2000 my hubby could adopt him (we have to pay $600 into state & get back about $800 from federal... the xta $200 will pay the preparer! :weeping: sucks!). Keep the faith up sister & KNOW that things will eventually be better! :hug2:

Kim

Talk about happy day !!!

Thats awsome that everything has clicked into place so nicely there for you... definately will open up a lot more stress free moments in your life i am sure.

Since you already paid $180 some to the gas company on top of the $300 something then you should be paid ahead.. which is AWSOME!!

My ex boyfriends mother called me the other day and I let her know her son has stopped paying child support. Last night my ex called and apoligized for being an a$$ and today I noticed there was a $600 child support made that I should recieve in a couple of days. :)

Ooooh, wouldn't you all love to have been a fly on the wall when deadbeat's momma ripped him a new backside :rockon:? Never underestimate the power of a woman.

*update*

The gas company finally did get the money order and it shows on my account now.

My dryer works great now.

My ex boyfriends mother called me the other day and I let her know her son has stopped paying child support. Last night my ex called and apoligized for being an a$$ and today I noticed there was a $600 child support made that I should recieve in a couple of days. :)

PRAISE THE LORD!!!!! Mothers are so wonderful and I am glad that his mother got on his case about the child support.

I remember my days as a single mom and putting up with a deadbeat dad, luckly he diecied that paying child support was not what he wanted so he let my dh adopt both girls and they have never looked back, they love their dad. There was times i did not know how I was going to get through but you find a way. keep hanging in there and remember this to shall pass. it helps.

oh wow my ex boyfriend wrote a bad check for child support. I wonder what happens now. I was wondering why that money wasn't sent to me and last night he called, was suppose to come to visit this weekend, and said he needed to stay and work so he wouldn't be up. He hasn't visited in almost 2 months.

The thought of that money was nice and would have helped out. I learned my lesson well and will never look forward to recieving a payment again unless it's in my hands.

Thats an interesting question .. what does happen if someone writes a bad check to pay for childsupport?

Definately let us know cause inquiring minds want to know ( i swear i'm not nosey *giggles* )