Gosh! - Blogs - Frugal Village Forums
View RSS Feed

melanies

Gosh!

Rate this Entry
by , 11-17-2011 at 05:07 PM (737 Views)
Three years since I have joined and am I any more frugal? Not really.

I was looking at my two blog posts where I can see what I have in my traincase, and its a lot of the same things I had back then! I purged a lot, but I still have some of the same stuff (in a new-ish traincase) and I think it may be time to let go of it and just keep some of my more recent purchases that I actually use.

Just to be transparently honest, I think that my spending is related to much deeper issues. I use it to avoid things a lot. I sometimes will shop in order to fill a void, or distract myself. Shopping should be about filling needs and maybe some occasional wants, but not about my conspicuous consumerism.

I just finished watching a movie on Netflix called Affluenza. I think it was made sometime in maybe the early 1990s (?) but they talk about consumerism and also about the Voluntary Simplicity movement back then.

I'm 50 now, and I think my spending is a little worse because I am going through a mid-life crisis of sorts. Whatever the reason, I need to stop.

Fortunately, I'm good at reselling a lot of the things that I buy on eBay, so I recoup some of the money, but it doesn't address the actual problem.

Theres this strange "rush" that I get when I buy something I want and I have the thing (whatever it is) and enjoy it for awhile, and then I want that spending rush again.

I suspect that there are others out there like me, so I partly wanted to share my experiences and feelings to let you guys know that you are not alone. I've been struggling with this for YEARS. I go through periods where I do much better, and part of the reason that I joined this site was to stay focused. I need to keep coming back. I love so many of the ideas that I read here and just reading about peoples lives. Most everyone is so supportive of each other. Additionally, I need the help!

If I can beat this, I know I can be of support to others.

Anyway, for those of you that will read this, thanks so much for taking the time to do so.

Submit "Gosh!" to Facebook Submit "Gosh!" to Tweet This Submit "Gosh!" to Digg Submit "Gosh!" to del.icio.us Submit "Gosh!" to StumbleUpon Submit "Gosh!" to Google

Comments

  1. Judi Dial's Avatar
    Self-awareness is almost always the first step to solving a problem; you've got that.

    I don't have any real suggestions I'm afraid, but good for you that you keep trying!

    Judi
  2. melanies's Avatar
    Thanks Judi. I appreciate the supportive words.