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    Question has anyone given up a high paying job for lesser pay and less stress?

    HI
    I just wanted to poll my fellow FVers. Have you ever given up a high paying full time job for less money and less stress? What was the final straw that allowed you to be happy with the decision?
    How did you adjust your living situation to adjust for the deficit in income?

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    Kind of . I gave up managing a salon that was open 7 days a week for a 12-15 hour a week job. Managing the salon had me on call even on days off and frequently working 13 days in a row with 1 off and repeat. I also worked many 12 hour days. This cutting way back and stepping down also coincided with the birth of my second kiddo.

    This was our beginning to frugal living. It was cut corners or not eat. That kiddo is 15 now btw. I started reading everything I could get my hands on about living on less. I have never regretted it besides the fact we are a bit behind on retirement savings.

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    I haven't but one of my dayhome moms did. She took a 40% pay cut to become a CSI. She LOVES it. She looks forward to going to the lab every day, doesn't begrudge OT, she loves loves loves being there.

    And she says being a CSI is NOTHING like it is on TV..lol. She said the similarities are nearly non-existant to that.
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    Yes. I took a 60% pay cut. I was working 60 hrs/week, forced to work 9-5 then return for a midnight - 8am lab shift the same night without overtime pay, expected to work from home on days where I was sick or my kids had emergencies.
    Now, I work 40 hours a week and not a second more unless I want to. I go home to be at home, not to check emails or dial in to phone conferences. The job I have right now may not be perfect, it has its ups and downs, but given the choice again I would make the same decision.

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    i quit a second one weekend a month job that brought in over 800 after taxes because it was too stressfull - still havent made up the difference totally by taking extra work at my main job ( i do PT around kids school etc ) but i have my sanity !
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    We did. It was like stepping off a cliff with no idea where we'd land.

    In 1989, we were living in Minneapolis in a questionable neighborhood. We had five kids, the oldest just starting high school and the youngest about to finish up grade school. Things were going downhill in our neighborhood with drugs becoming more and more of a problem along with the violence that brings. One of the last straws was the night we woke up about 1 AM and found about 100 gang members on our front lawn. Another was the stories our kids kept telling us about how this kid had a knife in his pocket on the bus and that one had a gun in his backpack at school. This was back when no one worried much about school shootings.

    At the time, my husband was running three steel companies and it was the best, highest paying job he had ever had. It was a really, really good job with great bosses. great income, great bennies, and he loved it. But we knew we couldn't stay where we were. Living in the suburbs didn't appeal to us all that much either.

    We made a list of the things a town we moved to would have to have. Only one town in the entire state fit. We had never been here, so came up here camping for a few weekends, a five-hour drive one way. We started looking at houses and decided to make the move, in spite of the area being economically depressed.

    We jumped in with both feet, sold our house in Mpls, my husband quit his job with two weeks notice, and away we went. We found an old wreck of a house that was cheap enough to buy by charging it on a credit card, since with no work, we knew we'd never be able to get a loan. It wasn't much of a house, but it was big enough for all of us.

    We started looking for work but seven months went by before we found anything. We were eating hot dogs and ramen noodles almost every meal towards the end, and down to about $200 in the bank. Finally, my husband got a job as a bingo caller at a nearby casino, and I found a job doing contract sewing for a bootmaker.

    It was tough for two years. We cut our expenses drastically, of course, and the kids had to pay for a lot of their own expenses, like the fees for extracurricular activities at school. They all had jobs before we did, mostly paper routes. Luckily, they were used to not being handed everything, so working for their money was an easy transition for them. We were not used to living paycheck to paycheck with no health insurance and no savings, but we got by. Of course there was some luck involved in that, too. Another huge, lucky break was the house we were planning to buy was a repo that had been empty for several years. The bank couldn't clear the title so we could close, and in the meantime, they didn't want us to find another house and leave them with an empty house they couldn't sell and having to keep paying lawn maintenance and all that on a property they were losing money on, so they let us live there rent free. It took a year and a half to get the title cleared, which was a tremendous help to us at the time.

    Eventually, my husband got a good job working for the state, and things changed for the better. We were able to do some major work to the house and eventually sold it for a good profit when we started to develop our lake property. Then we moved out of town and now live on the lake full time.

    Would we do it again? At our age, probably not. Are we sorry we did it then? No way! Because we moved to a small town with a low crime rate, our kids had freedom they could never have had in an urban setting. They were able to have paper routes, which they could never have done in the city. They attended a good public school with a small student body, so when they wanted to be in plays or play sports or do other activities, there was always room for them to participate. It was a great place for them to grow up and that alone was worth the sacrifices we made to bring them here.

    These days, my husband's commute to work is seven miles of quiet road along a beautiful lake in one of the most scenic areas in the world. If he sees a couple of deer, that's rush hour. If he sees a couple deer and a wolf, that's major traffic. Compare that to his old commute in bumper to bumper traffic, thirteen miles of playing bump and run on the freeways. NO COMPARISON. My commute is a fifty-foot walk through a forest to my office, where the most stress I have all day is usually a squirrel screaming at me through my office window because I'm not moving fast enough to feed the little brat his morning sunflower seeds. And when I really want to relax at work, I take my laptop down and sit on our dock where I can look at the lake and listen to the loons calling. At night, we sleep with the windows open and don't worry about anyone breaking in. We listen to the loons at night, too, which is certainly more enjoyable and less stressful than the nightly domestic conflicts and drive-by shootings of our old 'hood in Minneapolis.

    Often, when we're talking to tourists, one of them will exclaim, "We'd give anything to live here!" It makes me laugh every time. We DID give everything to live here, and if they really meant it, they'd be living here too. It's still a great place to live, and we haven't ever regretted the leap of faith we took back then. Sometimes we still can't believe we are actually this lucky. When we think about the stress we left behind and how horrible it would have been to stay in that situation, we are so glad we had the guts to take the chance.
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    I'd sure like to know why there's no delete button.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Spirit Deer View Post
    I'd sure like to know why there's no delete button.
    That was such a wonderful, warm, inspiring post-I don't want you to delete it!!!

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    I demoted myself within the same job, if that counts. I took a promotion, tried it for two years. I was miserable, ending each day in tears due to higher stress/workload/horrid people at that location. I decided the money wasn't worth it, I wanted my life back. I was working overtime, super stressed super cranky, I wanted MYSELF back. 3 years later, very happy to be back in my previous job. Thankfully since I stayed within the same department they just let me step down and stepped someone else up. I had to sign a bunch of paperwork explaining what I was doing, write a letter for HR, etc but it was worth it. Part of me felt like a failure but I would rather "fail" at being miserable than at anything else in life.
    "If you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, march down there and light it yourself."

    Car loan (ugh, again!)
    Husband's debt to work on, mine is gone except car loan. w00t!

    Yah, I suck at this money stuff, I know. That's why I'm here.

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    YES, I work from home for myself selling online. I worked in accounting in the corporate world and I hated everything about it - the job, the people, commuting, stress, suits, makeup, and pantyhose, the lack of time, etc. BUT I planned for it. We made a concerted effort to get out of debt before hand. So we no longer require as much money to live on.
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    Yup - I designed computer systems for 7 years (24/7 job) and moved to Maui. Went through a series of other careers - designed clothing, managed a jewelry store, made jewely, made children's tshirts, owned a gift shop = all of which at less money - finally ended up with my passion of teaching preschoolers with disabilities. I may never quit.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mauimagic View Post
    Yup - I designed computer systems for 7 years (24/7 job) and moved to Maui. Went through a series of other careers - designed clothing, managed a jewelry store, made jewely, made children's tshirts, owned a gift shop = all of which at less money - finally ended up with my passion of teaching preschoolers with disabilities. I may never quit.
    Way to go, Maui!!! I want to find that in my life. That passion. I let too much get in my way instead. You are an inspiration.
    "If you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, march down there and light it yourself."

    Car loan (ugh, again!)
    Husband's debt to work on, mine is gone except car loan. w00t!

    Yah, I suck at this money stuff, I know. That's why I'm here.

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    Smile great stories everyone

    Great stories everyone! I was telling a coworker how it has gotten to the point for me that it is not about the money anymore. You just get to the point in life where you realize what your true priorities are- it is refreshing to hear that I am not crazy in believing that the quality of my life cannot be measured by the quantity of money I make.
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    Oh, I forgot to mention that my first job paid the highest starting salary in my whole university - big bucks back then!!

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    It wasn't a well-paying full-time job, but I quit my night office job at UPS about 7 years ago. It was part time and at night. It was a great job and I really enjoyed it. But, the lack of sleep was getting to me. And, the guys were getting to where they needed "mom" more. And, the lack of sleep was getting to me.
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