Do you ever feel like...

**tbs727** · 04-17-2006, 09:54 PM

your job is taking over your life??? I think I'm just not the kind of person that is good at balancing work and life. I tend to want to give all I have to one or the other, which usually ends up being work. Right now I'm in a full-time salary position. I feel owned, like I'm always on call and I have no right to a life of my own. Of course, thats not really the way it is. But, still, it seems so hard to have a life worthy of living when I spend most of it at work, quite a lot more taking care of my home, after that is time with DH, and after that ministry and fellowship with friends and family. I feel like I can't give all that I want to DH, ministries I know that I am called to, and my friends and family. I regret every moment I spend at work that takes away from these things. Thankfully, I will be going part time in July, and I'm just trying to get by and enjoy a little bit of life in the mean time. I just cringe to think that I'm wasting my summer in an office.

That just gives me more reason to save all the money I can so that I can work part time sooner, right??

The whole reason I am working full time is so that we can pay off a debt. (see the signature) when that's gone, then the life of salary is over, Thank God! That will be a good day. Sorry for the rant, just had to get it out of my mind.

**dwallyfam** · 04-17-2006, 10:26 PM

Tiffany it is okay to rant every once in awhile. I was listening to a show the other day that says we should not be a slave to our debt. Right now that is what you are feeling. Things will get better.

Kellie

**tulipgraham** · 04-17-2006, 10:31 PM

I always feel like my job is taking over my life! My job is insane, and I am a constant worrier. Neither goes well together.

Hang in there until July, which is just around the corner.

**Valerie in WA** · 04-18-2006, 10:12 AM

I'm familiar with that feeling (although not these days). Fortunately, you have relief coming in just a couple of months. Hang in there!

**MessyKat** · 04-18-2006, 12:38 PM

Tiffany, I think we have all been there at some point or another. I used to get to work about 9:15 every morning (yes, I was late), and I stayed until 9 - 10 every night. Then I would work weekends so I could play catch up.

I have stopped that particular insane behavior, and yet still have no time for a personal life. This past weekend I went home to VA to be with my family. I arrived around 9 Friday night (after working all day). Got up Saturday morning, and went though Mom's bills and got them paid. Went to the grocery store, took her to the post office and by Walmart and to pick up some medicine.

Got her home, went and picked up my Dad from the nursing home, brought him over to her house, cooked dinner, did the dishes, took him back to the nursing home. Came back in time to get into bed myself.

Sunday I did Mom's laundry, worked on the medical bills (she has lung cancer). Mopped the kitchen, cleaned up as best I could. Picked up my Dad went to my cousin's house to help prepare Easter dinner. Ate, took Dad back to the nursing home and then drove 3 hours home.

Now this weekend is the weekend to do my housework and yard work, but I am already so tired I don't know how I'll do it.

I'm not complaining about helping my family. I love my family more than anything in this world. I would do absolutely anything for them. My point is we sometimes have to say UNCLE...and give in a little. If you have a personal day, or mental health day available, give yourself a 3 day weekend by taking either Friday or Monday off. Go browse your favorite book store, or enjoy some time in the park.

The one thing I have learned in the past few years is If I don't take care of me, no one else is going to do it!

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

**joyb** · 04-18-2006, 03:31 PM

Hang in, Honey. I remember coming home from 11 hour days at a daycare center and trying to get the dirty dishes and laundry under control. DH is great with the bills, but terrible at helping with housework. There is light at the end of the tunnel. I'll be glad for you when you can stay home. I know how you feel.