march job perspective

**miss_thrifty** · 09-12-2006, 02:21 PM

Friends of me and my husband asked me if I want to take care of her hubby (boyfriend every) other second weekend at his house. he's a parapalegic. It pays $10 and hour, and I know them very well, I got some time to think about it. (march) is when his sister will be moving away so she wants me to think about the idea of me replacingher. it sounds like a good idea, im only 2 blocks away so i can walk. He does have spasims alot and Id have to get use to getting him ready in the moring, washed and dressed and fed, dinner and supper. Im just kinda shy, beacuse Im not use to seeing another person besides my hubby undressed.

She told me she had to get used to it too, and its not like since the accident 22 years ago, everyone has seen his body lol It doesnt bother him, its me getting use of the idea. You know what i mean.
Ill think about it, I dont sleep there, i come every evening after i put him to bed and she's home with him.

**miss_thrifty** · 09-13-2006, 06:19 PM

19 people viewed this, i know I didint say anything wrong, I was just asking how would they deal with it, or how they would feel in this new job . hmmmmmmmmm, i did need some reassurance that this could be a good job oportunity for me .

**tbs727** · 09-13-2006, 06:43 PM

I'm sorry no one responded to your thread.

Personally, this isn't something I would be comfortable with, but it sounds like you would be, or you feel you could be comfortable with it.

It sounds like it would be good pay for something you could tolerate. I say go for it!

**Cricket1** · 09-13-2006, 07:24 PM

Is it your friend? Or someone your friend is caring for? I'm a little confused so I'll go back and read it. I couldn't do it if it was my friend's boyfriend or husband, but if it was someone I didn't know at all, I would do it. I worked briefly in a nursing home and there was a Viet Nam vet there that was parapalegic and I always felt bad for him b/c he was so young compared to everyone else there. Anyway, personally, if it was someone I didn't know I would do it.

**Amanda W** · 09-13-2006, 08:05 PM

Well personally I would do it, but I did work as a nurse's aide for a while and saw more people naked then I ever imagined I would. You do get used to it after a while. My grandfather moved in with my parents for the last 6 months of his life, and I helped take care of him as well. It's really not sexual in any way - just a part of their body.

**miss_thrifty** · 09-13-2006, 09:50 PM

Its afriend of mine and my husbands we met through his neice ayear ago. I understand its not a sexual thing, but I know that i probably wwould get use to it, thats what his fiance says .I know everyones prefernce is differnt of what they can do and cant. Its the idea of thinking of it as a job and its normal for him everyday, he's use to it, so why not me get use to it, and get back into the work force part time. I havent worked since my oldest was born 14 years ago this Saturday.

Well thanks everyone for writing back, I just felt like i needed to tell someone of this great oppartunity coming my way, knowing im so close to home, and it is afriend, and it would be first job in along time. And sometimes when were out of work ,I get scared thinking can i go back and try new things. U know what i mean, God usually gives us what we can handle, and maybe this is agood thing for me, and helping out my hubby pay bills and get ahead more.
Sorry im so long but menoapuse is really bad today lol Im a blubbering lol