Rant but it can be done

**janis362529** · 08-23-2008, 09:14 PM

Well my Dad's camp is officially sold. He ended up getting 125,000 for it. Earlier in the land he sold like 30 acres for 100,000. In the end he paid off his truck, HELOC, Sue(his wife) PT Crusier,bought a new washer and dryer(giveing me his 2yr old ones), his morgage and offically has 2.5 million in retirement.

My Dad has sold his camp and some land for a grand total of 250,000.So he took us all out to dinner at Moody's. A local dinner with great food. I am so thankful for the dinner and washer and dryer but I just wish he would share a little more with us.

For his Stepdaughter he has paid 100% of her college costs at the University and has put away 20,ooo for his stepson. But will not help me pay my student loans. For his step kids they go on great vacation and stay in At hotels and our only trips as a family were military related. Oh well he's jerk.

But Soon I will be there. Once Ray starts getting paid regularly we will continue snowballing our debts and I will have a bigger retirement fun because I am starting soon, right? Anyway debt is down to 8500. 8000 of which is student loans. I am leaveing state insurance next month and I will be off food stamps by my own doing not by making too much money by December. I will do it.

**cissylu** · 08-23-2008, 11:35 PM

aw Janis I know it hurts sweetie. He is a royal jerk. you and your dh will be there one day,. Hugs

**MomToTwoBoys** · 08-23-2008, 11:37 PM

Originally Posted by cissylu

aw Janis I know it hurts sweetie. He is a royal jerk. you and your dh will be there one day,. Hugs

I totally agree. You got the drive to get there without his help and it sucks when a parent favors a child over another, but you'll get there.

**Nishu** · 08-24-2008, 12:07 AM

Ouch. That must hurt. What a jerk.

**janis362529** · 08-24-2008, 12:20 AM

Yea best part is he left my mom for his new wife and complains non stop about having to give her alimony and didn't want to pay child support for his son who was 17 when they divorced. Oh well I will get there on my own. We can do it!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 08-24-2008, 03:36 AM

Originally Posted by cissylu

aw Janis I know it hurts sweetie. He is a royal jerk. you and your dh will be there one day,. Hugs

Wow...he IS being a poop! Not fair to help his step's and not you!! GRRRR

You and your Dh WILL get there...keep your chin up.

**ladykemma2** · 08-24-2008, 07:44 AM

the younger kids tend to get a better deal.

my sister flunked out of three colleges and flight attendant school and totalled her brand new ford taurus. all paid for by stepdad.

i got nothing.

**Gabe** · 08-24-2008, 07:53 AM

Ordinary riches can be stolen: real riches cannot. In your soul are infinitely precious things that cannot be taken from you.

~Oscar Wilde

**hippytreehugger4ever** · 08-24-2008, 08:01 AM

What a pooper he is! Oh well, at least you got a rather new washer and dryer out of it

**nuisance26** · 08-24-2008, 08:02 AM

~Oh that stinks! He may not be giving you alot because you're married. Some men don't want to insult their kid's spouses by giving their kids too much. I felt a little bummed last year when my in-laws inherited over $250K. They bought a new car and booked 6 tropical vacations in one year. I couldn't help but think they could pay off our mortgage and their other son's mortgage and still have tons left(plus their pensions and retirement savings). For awhile it felt like they were choosing Hawaii over our financial security. After thinking about it awhile I realized how selfish I was being. The bottom line is it is their money. They never promised to give us anything. It's truly none of my business as my financial security is my responsibility. If DH one day inherits any of that money we may just use it for Hawaii too since we're too focused on other financial goals to take nice vacations.~

**missmanny** · 08-24-2008, 10:52 PM

My hear t goes out to you - I know that this isn't about the money - but more about favouritism (which by the way makes no sense if they are steps) but anyway I digress...

Keep you head up - you are a good person and are doing the best that you can - I'm sure that it will feel better to do it with out his help anyway.

You and hubby will get there and it will be great!