Does your dh/so know about your debt or do you hide it from him/her?

**homesteadmamma** · 12-29-2008, 10:35 PM

This is one area we both agreed on all the while we had debt. (Actually one of the few we have agreed on - we are totally opposities.)

We both knew how much debt we had and although I made all the payments, I never hid how much debt we carried.

**khjmom** · 12-29-2008, 10:51 PM

I am thankful that I can say that we have always been honest about this. I am not quite sure of his tool bill....but I know it is within our agreed range. He also will call if there is something he needs for work (and if it is over $250) to let me know. He has an account with the tool man because of his job. We don't have any credit cards anymore! which totally freaks out our family but I don't want one...they can be trouble. I would rather pay cash. Now if I could only get those medical costs down.

**3tomboys** · 12-29-2008, 11:01 PM

We have never had debt that only one of us knows about, it has made life a lot easier. We always discuss major purchases and we are both aware of how much money is coming in and going out so it has never been an issue.

**Debbie-cat** · 12-29-2008, 11:10 PM

We have never hid the debt from each other as well. We sit down and figure what needs to be paid each month and pay it. Christmas time is the only time we do not tell each other how much we are going to spend on it each only. It works out well.

**BlessedMomof2** · 12-29-2008, 11:12 PM

We both are completely aware of our debt. Since all of our debt is ours together, there is no hiding it. But if there was debt that was only his or mine, we'd still know all the details, there is nothing we keep from one another.

**mom2matty** · 12-30-2008, 12:18 AM

Like all of you we are both very much aware of any debt we have had over the 23 years we have been married. I would never ever hide any of that from him........wouldn't be able to sleep at night!!

**fixer** · 12-30-2008, 12:50 AM

We have never hid anything from each other. We have always had joint bank accounts. I could not hide anything from DW if I wanted to. At 2:00 a.m. from a sound sleep, she will yell at me from across the house when I drink straight from the milk jug. How do you ladies do this?

**IntlMom** · 12-30-2008, 02:44 AM

no hiding nothin' here!

**Rebookie** · 12-30-2008, 03:11 AM

I would never be so deceitful! I would be thouroughly peeved if he did it to me!

**Cricketlegs** · 12-30-2008, 03:19 AM

Not only do I keep dh informed but the books sit right here by the computer with balances AND he knows the passwords to the bank and the car and cc balances are right there.

No way would I add debt without dhs knowledge and he wouldn't either.

You have to have respect for your spouse.

**LastDragonfly** · 12-30-2008, 03:23 AM

Originally Posted by fixer

We have never hid anything from each other. We have always had joint bank accounts. I could not hide anything from DW if I wanted to. At 2:00 a.m. from a sound sleep, she will yell at me from across the house when I drink straight from the milk jug. How do you ladies do this?

It's FM

**rosey7415** · 12-30-2008, 04:07 AM

we share all. we are on the same page about money issues, we are a good team.

**DJ1972** · 12-30-2008, 07:49 AM

We only have auto and home debt and we both know the numbers. He is more involved now than ever before. I have always taken care of the bills and since I knew it was done, I didn't see the point in going over every detail with him. Now, I let him know each month what we owe, what was paid, what extra was sent, and we talk about future goals.

**Momto2Boyz** · 12-30-2008, 08:14 AM

We've never really had any secrets from each other. We've always been open and honest about what debt we had since before we got married. We are more on the same page now, about never opening another line of credit ever, we both agree on that 100%.
The closest we've ever come, was the day DH came home with a new (used) truck. We had discussed buying another used vehicle and had decided to wait for a few months until we could pay cash. Well, he was shopping and found one he liked and financed it. I was pretty ticked at first, but he got a heck of a deal at that moment, and was afraid it wouldn't be as great of a deal if he waited it out. So he bought it. Once I realized what a deal it really was (we paid around 5K for the truck and it was valued over 9K) I gave in and wasn't as made as I made out to be!

And fixer...we just have that sixth sense about things like that! I know if my kids are jumping on the bed, even if I'm 3 miles away visiting a friend!

**MoonMommy** · 12-30-2008, 08:21 AM

I don't hide any of the debt from hubby, but he doesn't really pay attention to the bills. However, I make sure to have a dialogue with him about what I am planning for financially to see if he is on board with it.