ok i'm really ticked off...........

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 06-19-2006, 01:40 PM

hello ladies, i just have to post this. i'm so ticked off at a friend of mine. i had a garage sale last weekend & she put alot of her stuff in it too. her daughter is about 1.5 years younger than mine. i always give her all my daughters hang me downs. my daughter has tons of nice clothes (gymboree, gap, childrens place, old navy). well anyways, almost everything in her garage sale were clothes i had given her & almost all of them her daughter haven't even wore yet. i was so ticked because she was making money off of stuff i had given her. what really ticked me off is the 1st day she made $100.00, & i only made $40.00. there were a pair of toddler shoes i had given her for her daughter & they were brand new & she sold them for $6.00 & her daughter haven't even worn them yet!!! do i really have a reason to be ticked???? i confronted her about selling all of my stuff & she just laughed it off, she must of thought i was kidding, but i was dead serious!! what do you think?

**ellebee** · 06-19-2006, 03:10 PM

Yea I'd be pretty upset too. I don't think I'd be passing on any more clothes to her.

**nodmicks** · 06-19-2006, 03:16 PM

Originally Posted by ellebee

Yea I'd be pretty upset too. I don't think I'd be passing on any more clothes to her.

I think I'd feel pretty negativ about that also.

**NoDebtMom** · 06-19-2006, 03:18 PM

I'd say live and learn.... - I completely see why you would be upset, that's a wacky situation.

Especially if never worn, she should have split the profit with you. ICK.

She could of at least had her own sale, so you wouldn't know. LOL... anyhow, what I'd do is pass the clothes to someone else, and then let it go if you want to continue the friendship.

**Sara Noel** · 06-19-2006, 03:22 PM

I think once you give something away it's up to the recipient to do whatever they'd like to do with the item(s), but to sell the items in the garage sale wasn't very considerate of her and I'm sure I'd be unhappy too if I were you.

**Laurie in Bradenton** · 06-19-2006, 04:45 PM

Pretty bad form on your friends part. I think she should have at least offered you some of the profit. But you did give it to her without any restrictions so be happy for her. And be happy to see that your items have gone on to make others happy. Think how bad you'd feel if she had thrown the items into the trash! At least this way alot of good has come from them. You may want to rethink the next time your temped to give her a pilke, have a yard sale first and give her whats leftover. Let the money go back into your pocket. I won't let it eat at me or ruin a friendship. Lifes to short, find the goodness and happiness in the situation.

Laurie in Bradenton

**Mom23boys** · 06-19-2006, 05:46 PM

I don't think I would be passing along anymore hand-me-downs to her daughter.

**Dixie** · 06-19-2006, 06:08 PM

Originally Posted by Mom23boys

I don't think I would be passing along anymore hand-me-downs to her daughter.

Me either.
I would be ticked,too.

**BTK** · 06-19-2006, 06:25 PM

Originally Posted by ellebee

Yea I'd be pretty upset too. I don't think I'd be passing on any more clothes to her.

Same here...

I have a friend I gave a brand new pair of shoes to, knowing she wanted them and she'd wear them. I got the shoes for free, but they were too big for me. Turns out she sold them on ebay and I was TICKED! I could've done the same thing and made the $55 off of them that she did.

I won't ever pass anything on to her again.

**i.m.cheap** · 06-19-2006, 08:40 PM

I think what your friend did was tacky. I would do as others suggested with your daughter's clothes. Sell them in your next yard sale. If this friend wants to come buy them, then she can. If you want to give her what does not sell, then do so. At least then you will get some of your investment back.

**Monner 1** · 06-19-2006, 08:49 PM

Yes, I do know how you feel. I have a SIL that I was in a garage sale with. If you forgot to take anything home with you after the sale she would keep it for the next sale and put her price tickets on it. I was really irate and decided that it was not worth the hassle so I don't put on garage sales with her anymore. So I have been there done that before. Give your stuff to someone that needs it more than she does.
Monner 1

**dolphin** · 06-19-2006, 10:16 PM

I also would not give her anymore clothes. There should be a pregnancy center in your area that would be so very happy to have and use your items. Some of these girls would be so greatfull! Unlike your friend.

**frugalfoster** · 06-20-2006, 12:02 AM

OUCH!!! There is really no excuse for what she did. She should have returned them to you so you could sell them. Where are people's manners??? I'm sorry that she didn't think of how you would feel about it! I certainly would not be subsidizing anymore of her garage sales!

**hollyhill** · 06-20-2006, 01:49 AM

Pretty Tacky!!

I've been there too.

I gave Sil our big baby stuff when she had her second child (her first was much older and has a diff. father)....including our really nice High chair and a very expensive toddler backpack (for hiking with a toddler on your back, it was worth $140 but allowed us to still head for the hills with the little ones) etc etc....
Well I over heard her the next christmas saying how she sold that backpack for $95!! Along with many of the other items too...
It iritated me that she had no intention of using the items but took them anyways just to sell.
I just hope she used the money wisely....
And what really gets me is that she has a daughter that is bigger than my littlest one and even when Dh was unemployed and a student she never handed any clothes down my way! It all went to consignment stores.....

Well it shows poor manners but I hope the money was really needed.

**kaykwilts** · 06-20-2006, 07:33 AM

I think I would stop handing her your stuff if she is not going to use it and just make money off it. You could have made big bucks off ebay on that name brand stuff. If you want to continue to hand down clothes to her tell her you want these clothes BACK when her daughter outgrows them.