what makes me sad...

**perSue** · 05-25-2008, 04:18 PM

... is not having any friends who live w/in walking/driving distance.

all the ppl i consider friends live outta state/outta the country.

sure, i email and telephone.

but there's nothing like hanging out on a gorgeous afternoon, drinking tea and chatting away til you realize ya gotta get home and do something.

i miss that.
terribly.

and have NO idea how to meet ppl around me.

i the condos i live in, it's mostly older people. nothing wrong with them, i just have less in common with them than perhaps someone closer to my age.
the residential area near our condos... the same thing. mostly older retirees.

it's a day like today... perfect in weather in every way...

and i'm inside.
nowhere to go. nowhere to be.

just waiting.

**Darlene** · 05-25-2008, 04:52 PM

I think the best way to meet people is to go volunteer or take a class, doing something you enjoy. Go for it!

Before you know it you will be so busy you won't be able to be lonely.

**Drgnfly423** · 05-25-2008, 11:54 PM

I agree...
I met most of my friends working, and in classes. I went through a period of time where all of my friends had moved away from me. I still live in the same town that I grew up in. It was really lonely. I still only have a couple close friends, but it just takes time.

**IntlMom** · 05-25-2008, 11:58 PM

I'm nearly the same way. I have no real friends in the whole state that I live in. None in town at all. Oh sure, I know ppl, but no one to have coffee with. No one calls to just chat. However, I have dear friends that live out of state that I talk with daily.....I can tell you what is happening in SD, MO, IA, and WA at all times. **sigh** I suppose that it should make me sad, but really I have just become much more of a homebody, and that really has become quite OK with me.

**sdrjeolsen** · 05-26-2008, 12:01 AM

I hear ya, we moved 750 miles across a couple state lines, and live "in the middle of Nowheresville" as my sister says. I have met some gals, sort of friends, but not close enough to me to visit (I don't have access to a car during hte day) also I haven't made those deep close friendships yet like I had before we moved. It does take time. I'm sorry you are lonely.

**Palooka** · 05-26-2008, 12:18 AM

We were very good friends with our neighbors and hung out together all the time until they moved away. *sigh* I don't socialize as much as I used to because I am not working and I am not out much meeting people.

My dh works a million hours a week so it is hard for us to find anything to do with our old friends. It's just like we have drifted apart..

The older I get I find it hard to meet new people and have new friends.

**perSue** · 05-26-2008, 02:35 PM

aww thanks!

it's i guess sorta ok to hear that others feel the same way.

it is harder as you get older to meet new people.
it's like other ppl have this "i've got enough friends" sort of msg they give off when you step too close.

i'm not looking for a bff so much as just someone i've got some things in common with i can trust to talk and listen.
i'm not looking for an earth shattering deep thoughts discussion! LOL

i dont know, thanks everyone for your thoughts and sharing.

i'll be ok.

**frugalandsimple** · 05-26-2008, 02:52 PM

Originally Posted by perSue

it is harder as you get older to meet new people.
it's like other ppl have this "i've got enough friends" sort of msg they give off when you step too close.

Very true. People get set into their ways with whatever they do in life and it's much harder to make new friends.

**Dancing Lotus** · 05-26-2008, 03:13 PM

I agree that its nice to have a friend that lives close enough to come over for coffee. My good friend lives very far away and we have never had the pleasure of just popping over for a cup.

I am sorry if you are feeling a little lonely today, I know I have had a lot of days like that.

**JustMegan79** · 05-27-2008, 01:13 PM

Persue, I am in the same boat. We moved here away from all my friends and family for DH school and in a year I have been unable to make any friends. I am sad about it alot too. So I am inside until I go to work.

If you lived near me Id hang out with you!!! We would go to the beach together.

**MikeandMattsMom** · 05-27-2008, 02:06 PM

hi,

do you have kids? Maybe you can start volunteering at their school? Thats a good way to meet people! Or volunteer doing something you like! I have always wanted to work in a hospital so when I was a teen i was a candy striper! not sure what they are called nowadays.

I agree with the others maybe take a class and learn a new craft. I know here at the local library they have a group of women that do scrapbooking once a week.

I have found that the older generation are the best ones to talk to!
Im not sure if you have read my other post but I am going thru a financial mess. I have an older friend in her 70's that i love to talk to she tells me how she got thru hard times and how her parents got thru the depression!
I love talking to older people they are so full of good advise!!

hugs to you and I will be your friend!

**perSue** · 05-27-2008, 02:11 PM

you all are SO sweet.
it really warms my heart to know there are others out there who know how i feel and have given really good advice.

i cant afford to take up another craft! LOL
but i've been taking courses recently (for job), and it's just hard to get close to people... especially since many are fresh outta HS! *eek*

their nice... but I can't really "connect" with them anymore... i guess that comes with "age". lol

thanks everyone again... I really appreciate it.

and I'd LOVE to go to the beach!!!
too bad in ohio there arent really any beaches... in my side of the state! LOL