I put my foot down regarding favortism

[mmy2grls]

My mom has always favored my niece over my own kids. My kids have had hurt feelings so many times and last night was the last straw.

My mom took my oldest out to buy a new outfit last weekend. She brought home a outfit she did not like and started telling me about this sweater she saw that she wanted. My mom went on to say that sweater was $20 and she wasn't paying that much for a sweater. My daughter then told my mom she really didn't like the outfit she got, my mom was mad and said it was on clearance and it was a good deal. My mom took the outfit with her. After she left my daughter said she was only allowed to pick something out of the clearance section and there wasn't anything there she liked.

My mom stopped by with my niece last night, they went out shopping for a outfit also. My niece was wearing the sweater my daughter seen and wanted but my mom wouldn't buy it cause it was $20. My daughter was very upset that my mom spent more money on my niece and didn't make her pick out from clearance.

My moms said since my daughter didn't like her outfit she used the money from it and spent it on my niece.

My mom does this all the time, spending more money on my niece and then stopping by while my niece brags and upsets my daughter. I told my mom last night that she is not to buy my kids anything anymore and I didn't want her bringing my niece over cause it shows that grama does things with her that she doesn't do with my kids. This is so rediculous and my mom thinks she doesn't favor my niece while everyone in the family always comments on it.

[Ceashels]

I'm sorry for you and your daughter it is very sad that your Mom just doesn't see it when everyone else in the family does.

[mmy2grls]

My daughter is used to it but it really hurts when my mom always brings my niece over to brag what about grama did for her. That is now going to be stopped.

[onencgirl]

I dealt with this for years. You handled it the very best way. It should make "Gramma" think.

[chevy_chick95]

OMG! how hard for your DD!! I'm glad you put your foot down.

BTW- How are things going?

[kittykatstrong]

You were smart to put your foot down. She will change or she wont but either way it will be better for your DD.

[mmy2grls]

OMG! how hard for your DD!! I'm glad you put your foot down.

BTW- How are things going?

Things are going good, thanks for asking.

[jas]

People that are able to do things like that in the first place will never see that it is wrong and hurtful. Sorry that this is coming from your own mother. Did she treat you and your siblings that way?

[mmy2grls]

She always favored my brother when we lived at home like he always got the latest expensive clothes while I did with whatever, she paid for half of my brothers first car, I paid for my own, etc

[AmyBoz]

Quite frankly, that would be the end of any Grandma/Granddaughter time in my house. No one treats my kids like that and gets the opportunity to do it again.

I'm so sorry for your dd that this is happening.

[mmy2grls]

I just sent my mom an email. She is welcome to visit and spend time with my kids but she is not welcome here if she brings my niece and she is not allowed to give my kids gifts. I think thats a little harsh with Christmas being so near but i'm sick of my daughters feelings getting hurt and i'm making sure it's going to stop.

[nvmommyx6]

Good for you, standing up for your girl like you did! You did the right thing!
My Ex does that, we have 3 and he favor's the oldest, he buy's the lil ones dollar tree crap and the oldest real nice stuff, or like this year, the lil ones got nothing but lies for their birthdays and the oldest got a card and gifts in the mail!!
I have said something to him on many occasions, and of course, it made no difference! Until last Christmas he got the oldest this beautiful big horse figurine for Christmas and she took it back to the store and bought something for all 3 of them with the money!!
That was a real slap in the face for him! And even though he still is an ass and does the same thing, she makes it right and makes sure she tells him she did it!!!

[MandaRenee]

Good for you, standing up for your girl like you did! You did the right thing!
My Ex does that, we have 3 and he favor's the oldest, he buy's the lil ones dollar tree crap and the oldest real nice stuff, or like this year, the lil ones got nothing but lies for their birthdays and the oldest got a card and gifts in the mail!!
I have said something to him on many occasions, and of course, it made no difference! Until last Christmas he got the oldest this beautiful big horse figurine for Christmas and she took it back to the store and bought something for all 3 of them with the money!!
That was a real slap in the face for him! And even though he still is an ass and does the same thing, she makes it right and makes sure she tells him she did it!!!

It sounds like your oldest is a great girl. How wonderful that she not only realizes the wrong but goes out of her way to make it right. You must be proud.

[mmy2grls]

OMG I can't believe this

I had borrowed my moms day bed for my kids to sleep on. Years ago my mom bought my niece an expensive bunk bed and said she was going to buy my daughter a bed. My mom came over last night to get the daybed because i'm getting my girls new beds soon. My oldest asked my mom if she was still going to buy her a bed she liked.

My mom told me she would give my daughter my neices bed because my neice wanted another new bed! I told her no thanks, I was buying my daughter a NEW bed that she wants. My mom had the nerve to get mad at me about it.

I seriously don't understand how she cannot see how she treats my kids like crap.

[azangie]

Good for you!!! No one is going to treat my kids poorly, especially my mother or any relative.

Your kids will remember this as they grow up and they will especially remember you sticking up for them.

Good going. Not easy to do, but your kids are worth any hard feelings your mother may have.