My mom took advantage of me

**mmy2grls** · 11-02-2008, 11:03 AM

I receive food benefits from the state which is put onto a card on the 1st of every month. Most of the time I shop at the local grocery stores in town here, I could save money on groceries by driving 40 miles away to bigger towns with bigger stores but the time and gas getting there is not worth it for me.

My mom came over yesterday telling me she was going to the big town to go grocery shopping and if I had a shopping list she would pick stuff up for me. Meijers had some good deals on juices, etc so I wrote up a shopping list, gave my mom my card so she could pick things up. She was going to do this to be nice.

On my list I had about $40 worth of items written down. Later yesterday she came back with only about half the stuff I had on the list, gave me my card back, and left. I checked the balance and she spent $147 off the card. So obviously she spent over $100 for her own groceries.

My sil called me last night and said my mom stopped by her house telling her she bought things for Christmas dinner already. Me and my girls were not invited to the family gathering this year but my mom used my food benefits for their dinner.

I changed the pin number on the card and know never to let my mom pick things up for me again. I can not believe she would do this to me. I applied and receive food benefits to make sure my kids have plenty to eat and my mom used some of it to purchase everything for a big fancy dinner that we were not invited to.

With the recent events involving my mom I decided not to have anything to do with her anymore.

**PennyWise** · 11-02-2008, 11:05 AM

Just wow! I can't believe a Mom could be that low. Sorry that has happened, and I think you've made the right decision.

**nvmommyx6** · 11-02-2008, 11:07 AM

I dont blame you, and I am so sorry she would do something like that to you.

toile · 11-02-2008, 11:09 AM

I have not read other posts about this but I had to write and tell you how sorry I am!
Your right don't let her hurt you ever again!

Some parent's don't deserve the title "parent ,trust me I know.

**MLSMOM** · 11-02-2008, 11:11 AM

I can't believe a mom would sink so low.

Hugs to you.

**mmy2grls** · 11-02-2008, 11:16 AM

I had a blow out recently with her because she thinks my kids should be happy with used items or "anything" while she treats my niece like a princess.

And now this, she takes away what my kids can have so she can have a big Thanksgiving, I accidently said Christmas dinner earlier, for other people and not my kids.

**khjmom** · 11-02-2008, 11:16 AM

Wow, that is so low. I am sorry that happened.

**cab54** · 11-02-2008, 11:19 AM

Oh, my. The last couple of things you've told us about your mom, I agree with you wholeheartedly. Stay away from that woman. I cannot believe a mother would so something like that.

It is going to be hard for you in life, but you cannot depend on her to be like a mom. You're going to have to cut the strings. She will bleed you dry. And give it all to that sister of yours.

Your mom sounds like my MIL, and I know it hurts DH (and his brothers) to the core sometimes that she is the way she is, even though he tries not to show it. He keeps ties with her, and she hurts him again and again. She is awful. I wish we'd cut the strings with her a LONG time ago.

Stay strong, baby girl.

**Dancing Lotus** · 11-02-2008, 11:46 AM

WOW , that is just awful! I feel so bad for you. NOt only are you now going to be 100 bucks short but to think that your own mom did it to you. I would call her out about it. Tell her you want the food she bought.... Tell her that thanks to her greed your kids are not going to have a Thanksgiving dinner. I'm enraged

**zakity** · 11-02-2008, 11:53 AM

Lovely... I am so sorry. That sounds like something my family would do. I would ask her for the food that she bought. It was your benefits.

Can you call the state and have them do anything with her? That is stealing from you and the state.

**YankeeMom** · 11-02-2008, 12:22 PM

I agree with the above poster. I would file theft charges.

It's sickening that a mother would do that to her own child & grandchildren.

**Nishu** · 11-02-2008, 12:29 PM

Wow, my heart really, really breaks for you and your little ones. It's one think to be mistreated and taken advantage of, but quite another to have your own mother do it to you. I'm so sorry, and I agree, cut her off. You and your girls deserve so much better.

**fernykins** · 11-02-2008, 12:58 PM

I don't get how a parent and grandparent could take food out of their mouths.......I'm sorry it happened to you..........
Fern

**Russ** · 11-02-2008, 01:11 PM

I would write her a letter and tell her she used the money that you use to feed your kids. Of all the low dishonest mean things to do that really is piss poor of an adult to do that. Absolutely disgraceful and I would tell her that in no uncertain terms.
I'm sorry but I would not admit that woman was my mother.

**Cricketlegs** · 11-02-2008, 01:27 PM

That is just so sad, my Mama would step in front of a bus for me as I would with mine.

How awful for you to have face having a Mother(and I use that term lightly) such as she.

Say goodbye and break the chain. Teach your children how to be a GREAT mom.