Would you have done the same or do you think this was bad

**Palooka** · 11-28-2008, 02:30 AM

I guess this goes here. I didn't want to share this but the more I thought about it the more cooler it was and maybe to some others.

My husband is gone all the time and I never get a break dealing with the kids and my son is 18 months and my daughter is 16 and in between I have to pick up the peices of my husband and his ex-wife fighting and take care of my 10 year old step-daughter just to keep the peace between them too.

My husband is like a monkey on crack! The dude has so much energy. Some days he never see's our son because of his hours and bonds with him when he can.

Well guess what. I never get a break at all and I made my dish last night. It's not like I never see my husbands parents and family and I know it was Thanksgiving and all.

I slept from about 7:30 in the morning until 9 am last night(or that would be morning) when my son woke up. I told my husband I am soooooooooooooooo tired and never get a break. All I want is a day off from the kids and to spend with myself and get sleep. He understood. I said please explain to your mom and send the family hugs.

I slepted from 11 am to 5 pm with my cats curled up with me on Thanksgiving day. I never had to worry once about my children and the silence in my house did me good.

I even didn't have to cook dinner and my daughter brought me home a veggie plate. I even laid on the couch watching football and slepted a little too.

I swear I needed that. If it took Thanksgiving for me to get a break, than that is one thing to be thankful for.

**GFNancy** · 11-28-2008, 02:58 AM

That sounds wonderful.... You sound like me. Sometimes all it takes for me to recharge my batteries is just a few hours in my own house by myself.

If your MIL, or any sisters, SIL's or cousins give you a hard time about it, offer to do the same thing for one of them next year and see how fast they jump on the opportunity themselves.

Who knows you may have just started a family tradition. The annual Palooka Family just-send-me-a-plate Thanksgiving.

And your husband gets triple bonus husband points for this.

What a sweetie.

**phoeny_moonstar** · 11-28-2008, 03:28 AM

Yeah, I would agree triple brownie points for the DH!!

**kittykatstrong** · 11-28-2008, 06:27 AM

Sounds so relaxing. In my family everyone justs wants to see the kids anyway. I could not even show up and if my kids are there they are happy. What can I say, they love babies.

**nvmommyx6** · 11-28-2008, 06:35 AM

Good for you that you got a break, maybe you can make some extra cash and pimp out your hubby to teach other hubby's lessons like that!!!
I sure know alot of women who'd appriciate it!!!

**Dancing Lotus** · 11-28-2008, 09:02 AM

Shoot Im glad you had the courage to speak up for what you wanted.

**PaulaMM** · 11-28-2008, 09:13 AM

Good for you! You needed and deserved it!

However, I'm not sure I'm with the hubby love crowd on this one. Even if he is busy, he has time to give you a break every once in awhile. I think it would do everyone some good for you to have some time to yourself at least once a week.

**VanVivCam** · 11-28-2008, 11:40 AM

Originally Posted by AnnK

Shoot Im glad you had the courage to speak up for what you wanted.

I totally agree. A lot of wives would not been able to tell them "Hey, I NEED a break".

Glad you got to recharge your batteries and really enjoy your Thanksgiving.

**rainbowgc** · 11-28-2008, 12:05 PM

Glad to hear you took care of yourself first. Something to be Thankful for.

**HandyMom** · 11-29-2008, 12:17 AM

Glad you got a good rest. I'm sure you deserved it!

**monkeywrangler71** · 11-29-2008, 12:39 AM

Oh, that sounds sooooooo awesome.

**mom2matty** · 11-29-2008, 12:41 AM

Good for you!!! Sometimes you just have to take a break where you can find it!! I'm glad you were able to get some rest!!

**fernykins** · 11-29-2008, 12:54 AM

Thats what I did last weekend I slept from 7pm on Sat to 10am on Sun. It felt wonderful. Glad you got some rest.
Fern

**lgw** · 11-29-2008, 08:05 AM

Many women don't take care of themselves and their needs because they think it's "selfish" so it's great that you stood your ground and did something for yourself!

I'm also with the crowd of not awarding your DH many brownie points, though. It takes two people to make a baby and two to take care of them. He's not keeping his end of the ship afloat.

**Palooka** · 11-30-2008, 01:38 AM

Originally Posted by lgw

Many women don't take care of themselves and their needs because they think it's "selfish" so it's great that you stood your ground and did something for yourself!

I'm also with the crowd of not awarding your DH many brownie points, though. It takes two people to make a baby and two to take care of them. He's not keeping his end of the ship afloat.

I agree that a lot women just let themselves go when they have kids and put themselves last. However in defense of my husband it is because of his work hours. He is on salary and the last few months have been bad. It's nothing for him to put in 80 hours a week sometimes, so that is hard for me to get a break. He does handle stress very well.

And then I feel bad asking for a break when I know he worked so hard too. lol It's like a vicious cycle and sometimes I do feel bad and don't say anything. Than that guilt feeling does happen because I am sure he 'works harder than me.' ya know that SAHM feeling. heh

Then lets say he has a day off and does some repairs on the house. I am so glad that he does those kind of things, but at the same time I would love to just take off in the car without the kids and do whatever. It's a fine line I guess for a lot of women.

Balance would be nice. Sometimes it's just the way it is.