You are not going to believe this - part 2 - beware even longer

**piney** · 11-16-2009, 04:27 PM

For the last 12 years before retiring i worked with a lot of elderly people and it sound like a medical proplem his children who witness this need to talk to his dr.I am sorry you are having to deal with this God bless you.

**Pianolady** · 11-20-2009, 04:12 PM

I too agree this sounds like a possible health problem, or even a drug interaction issue? If it were me, I'd discuss the issue with his children (starting with dh), and explain they need to do the visiting from now on, and keep a more of a distance for a while. By being the "listener", you may be encouraging his dramatic emotional outbursts. He may be acting this way towards all, it may be time to find out.

When it comes to verbal abuse though....I'm out the door. You obviously have more patience than I do.

**ladykemma2** · 11-20-2009, 08:18 PM

was it you we spoke about "the cruise director quit"? that you weren't going to run everybody's holidays for them anymore?

if it was you it could be backlash to try to get you to step into that role again. the family cruise director.

**Dutchie** · 11-22-2009, 02:16 AM

Originally Posted by ladykemma2

was it you we spoke about "the cruise director quit"? that you weren't going to run everybody's holidays for them anymore?

if it was you it could be backlash to try to get you to step into that role again. the family cruise director.

It wasn't me who posted 'the cruise director quit' but I think that I posted on that thread if I remember correctly with the same kind of sentiments - I could be mistaken though.
(What a memory you have - amazing!!!)

Yes, I used be the entertainment director of the family but thankfully I haven't been it for years. Probably that is part of his beef with me - that I no longer do that. He did say in his tirade that - we used to do many nice things together as a family. However I retorted that that wasn't my fault (and it isn't).
The fault lays with psycho. She never wanted to be with all the family together (lack of attention I assume).
I didn't say that to him - just that he shouldn't put the blame on me but look further in the family why it isn't happening.

**mauimagic** · 11-22-2009, 02:32 AM

How sad for everyone - wonder how many times this type of situation is being and will be repeated. Old age, medication, so many possiblilities and no one is happy.

Staying away seems to be the sanest thing to do.....as is getting your FIL to a doctor. Abuse is wrong no matter the cause. Please take care.

**frugal-fannie** · 11-22-2009, 02:50 AM

He truly does sound like he has either anger management issues or mental problems-psychotic. My father was manic depressive and my BIL also likes to blame someone for all their failures in life. After his DM died he now blames the FIL. He also likes to argue and has selective memory. I have also seen stroke patients have a change in personality but it sounds like this is nothing new but more like it is getting worse. Does he verbally abuse the MIL-that would also be a concern -or does he save it up for you?

**Dutchie** · 11-22-2009, 03:18 AM

Originally Posted by frugal-fannie

He truly does sound like he has either anger management issues or mental problems-psychotic. My father was manic depressive and my BIL also likes to blame someone for all their failures in life. After his DM died he now blames the FIL. He also likes to argue and has selective memory. I have also seen stroke patients have a change in personality but it sounds like this is nothing new but more like it is getting worse. Does he verbally abuse the MIL-that would also be a concern -or does he save it up for you?

He does it with mil, sil and me. Even our daughter has been on the receiving end of it once. None of us take it/accept it.