aren't you going to have anymore? Vent

[Rhiamon]

I have one DD, and I am so sick of hearing aren't you going to have anymore, or asking DD if she would like a brother or sister! I get angry at this question because I have been pregnant a total of 4 times and have one daughter. I lost two of the babies at 7 weeks and the third I lost at 13 weeks, after we had told our daughter that she was going to have a baby brother or sister. I took all the losses hard but the last one I took really hard because when they ultra sounded me at 6 weeks and say the heart beat they told me everything would be okay.
Any ways people should stop and think. Yes I would love another baby. And I hate the what if something happens to your daughter. Um then I would be devastated whether I had one, two or 40. And why would you say do you want a brother or sister to my child!!!

And tonight at a family Christmas get together one of DH's aunts goes to me oh you still only have to one. No I keep the others hidden. GRRRRR
Sorry just had to vent.

[latierra84]

People are really insensitive. I have to say though, I laughed out loud when I read your, "No, I keep the others hidden" comeback.

[mom2three]

People are quite insensitive when you are married with less or more than 2 or 3 kids. I have 4 and get rude comments as well.

Also, I am so sorry to hear that you have had so many miscarriages. Have you ever been checked for celiac disease? This can be related to unexplained miscarriage and fertility issues.

[bumplett]

wow. I'm so sorry. my only explanation to this is..... well.... people suck.

[Mom2-3]

We have 3, and we still hear "you're young, are you having more?" and "what about having a boy?" grrr! Some of the time, my kids are around to hear this! Depending on who's asking, I will throw something witty in to shut them up!

[zakity]

Sorry that people are idiots.

[sinopa27]

I am so sorry people are so insensitive to you. People don't think before they speak. I have 2 daughters and they are 7 years apart. I get the "oh....why did you wait so long????" or the "too bad you didn't have a boy!!"
GGRRRR!!! I am going to steal your line......"i keep the others hidden" or "i keep the son hidden."
{{{{{hug}}}}}

[justpeachy92]

I agree that people can be very insensitive. I remember after our first child people kept asking when we were going to have another, those comments started before I was even discharged from the hospital. Then after the second child, we were asked if we know what birth control is. We have had 7 pregnancies, have 4 children, we had 3 miscarriages. My youngest is 5, over the past year I have been asked several times when we are gonna get pregnant again, why stop at 4 kinda of comments.

[frugalfranny]

Sorry this happened.

You just have to accept that some people are IDIOTS!

You could always put a real 'hush on the room' by coming back in a just 'slightly' above normal tone/volume of voice "well, what an insensitive thing to say!!"

[ml2620]

Oh, I feel your pain. I've been stuggling with infertility for 2 years now while my younger fool of a sister has gotten pregnant by accident twice.

Honestly, I stopped going to family parties because I couldn't deal with the comments. I know that's not a solution.

I'd look them in the eye and say thank you for stating the obvious. I've had three miscarriages and find your comment extremely painful.

If they are going to ask something like that, they deserve to be made to feel uncomfortable. Maybe it will make them think and prevent them for making hurtful comments to others in the future.

[Lady_V]

I posted my Baby Blue & Green vent the other day... last night was the Outlaws family Christmas party... and of COURSE came the "When are you going to make her a big sister?"

Do they EVER stop to think? EVER???

I know what you're going through

[cab54]

I can't understand why anyone (even family) feels they have the right to ask:

Why so many?
Why so few?
Why none?
Why not try for a girl/boy?
When are you going to get married and have kids?
Don't you know how that happens so you can turn it off?
You really need a girl/boy! (how the hell do you know what I need?)
I have grandsons, but no granddaughters....you need to try again? (I'm going to give birth and raise a whole 'nother child just so you can have the sex grandchild you want?)

[Dancing Lotus]

Well I would take into consideration who is saying these things. Do they have a "picture" perfect family? How many did they have, how old are they , are there one of each?
YOu know.... fire right back at em.

[Mom2-3]

I love the "don't you know what causes that?" um, yeah, and I like it!

[zakity]

I got the "you know what causes that, right". I would look at the person and deadpan, "yeah, we don't wash our clothes together in May anymore." **teehee**

All three of my guys were conceived in May.