Issues concerning a neighborhood child friend of DS6

**frugalfranny** · 01-22-2010, 01:05 AM

Originally Posted by MomToTwoBoys

Her parents are very rude. They believe that they're able to use items of mine without asking. They believe they can park in my driveway when there's no car in it. They were blocking the driveway when the van was at home. They also let garbage fly around their yard and don't take care of it properly. The skunks problem that I had last year was due to their inability to put their garbage into a can and thus, the skunk would tear into the bag and then dig under both my front and back steps (plus the neighbor's front step on the other side of my house).

This is why I don't like her parents.

The reason that I know the little girl doesn't have a key is because one morning, she came over to my house and forgot a snack to take with her to school. I offered her an apple, but she refused it. I then asked her if she had a key to unlock the door to her house and she told me no. So that's how I know she doesn't have a key.

So no, it's not me that's overstepping bounds here. They've done it since I moved into this house and continue to do it.

Then with all this going on - plus the little girl bullying....you could be walking into a real can of worms - with a NEIGHBOR. Which, in this day and age, I am not sure I would want to do.

Would STILL maybe offer to watch her - just to see how they treat 'it' and you, and what they would say. If they are that brazen with the parking and using your things - tread carefully. The bullying from the little girl tells me that 'things' are going on at home with her too.

(I have a neighbor like that - with the parking thing - he has parked in my driveway, under the shade of the tree, when I was out working in the yard......like I wasn't going anywhere I guess! A real PUKE!)

**MomToTwoBoys** · 01-25-2010, 03:50 PM

Well, things were ok I guess...

until this morning.

I noticed that a lot of DS6's behaviors, with the bullying and such, usually happened when he was around this girl next door. When he wasn't around her, he was great. When he was around her, it wasn't all that fantastic.

This morning, she came over to the house and waited with DS6. She bullied him around a little while she was here, and then when he went to get his winter outdoor wear on, she left without him. When he begged her to wait for her, she told him no and just left. He told me that he didn't want to be her friend anymore and that what she did made him feel really bad.

I put an end to it today.

I left the parents a note on their door. I told them that she's no longer allowed in my house. I also told them that if they need a babysitter for her, I suggest that they find one for her. I also said that if she's being left alone, I have no other choice than to contact someone about it.

My doorbell rang frantically at about 12:15pm. It wasn't your usually ringing. It was almost like he was pounding on it. I go to the door, open it and he asked me if I left the note. I told him yes and tried to explain why. Not only did he cut me off from doing that, but he tried to make it out to be that my son was the one that was begging for his daughter to walk with him in the morning. When I tried to then tell him that she was bossing him around and refused to wait for my son in the morning, he cut me off again and told me never to talk to him again.

Well, that took care of that.

When the weather warms up, we'll be locking up all of our outdoor items. This includes the gardening tools and the backyard gate. If they continue to be an issue, I'll be contacting the local police about it as well as the bylaw officers.

I absolutely refuse to be a doormat anymore.

**miss_thrifty** · 01-26-2010, 06:45 PM

mom2 toboys- that's too bad . fathers in denial and u cant do anything about that at least u let them know whats been going on . maybe after this they'll make sure she aint left alone.
I take it u borrowed stuff to them before or u wouldn't be worried about locking up. dont blame ya then.

**ansley** · 02-05-2010, 02:06 PM

Who walks the dc to school? They are too young to do that alone. The little girl next door (8yo like my dd) often comes over on school mornings and she doesn't leave until we do. She tried once and I told her if she was coming to my house it was my rules or she wasn't to come over. The little girl and I have had no more issues.