Are all your kids easy to like?

**homesteadmamma** · 12-05-2002, 09:50 PM

This is a loaded question. We all have kids that probably are harder to like than others. My youngest birthson and I bring out the worse in each other and we've both come to realize that (after many years of struggle) and have worked at making our relationship better. We now can get along well but he lives a good distance from me (in fact very far).

Do you have a child that is harder to get along with, who is the strong willed child so to speak?

**SewCrafty** · 12-06-2002, 10:23 AM

I think all my kids (katz) are very loveable, but yes my oldest Bubbie can get on my nerves, she is very demanding of my time and attention. I often have arguments with her! Ralphie one of my kittens is always into something, you have to keep on your toes to watch him! Lol

CJ, I don't think this is the answer you were
looking for! LOL

**tigo** · 12-06-2002, 11:48 AM

I love them all, but at times, each of them can work my last nerve:

DD 16 - Beautiful, smart, quick to defend others (good) Smart mouthed, willful, defiant (big duh - she is 16!)

DS - Handsome, very gentle with small children and animals, never a trouble maker (good) Lazy - won't do schoolwork, house work, or study unless flogged, but he can tell you all about Yu-gi-oh, Pokemon, and Digimon all day long (could be worse)

DD12 - Beautiful, most like me, good student, helpful with her siblings (good) Likes to act like she is the parent, really moody now, screams when irritated (just heading into the choppy waters of puberty)

DD10 - Brilliant, super organised, very lovey (good) Can talk for hours in great detail about inane things, has OCD (gets it from me) which can be a real bear for me and an irritant for DH and siblings, tends to be melodramatic.

DD9 - Sweet, loves to take care of people, doesn't give lip when asked to do something (good) Very picky eater- hates almost everything, Complains about family activities, would rather sit on behind watching movies for days on end.

I love having them with me and miss them when they are not around, but there are days I count down until they leave for college (DDs 9, 10 and DS are threatening to never leave home - already!)

**heavensent_7** · 12-08-2002, 06:35 PM

My DD now 15 was very loving and in tune with other peoples feelings as a small child. She was also generous to a fault. She could also be a monster - the typical little girl with a little curl poem (hope you know that one?) One extreme or the other! However: she has had 3 strokes and is now a teenager, she is rude, argumentative, smokes, drinks, sleeps around!!! on top of being ill and taking warfarin etc!! I have nightmares about the whole situation! She started staying out and being physically and verbally abusive. She seems to have NO boundaries and blames me! She has now left to live with her father. I really don't know if all this is her age, personality, bitterness for what has happened to her, brain damage or all of the above. She drives me to distraction and we have trouble looking at each other without arguing. However she is my child and I don't 'like' her at all BUT I do 'love' her and I suffer terrible guilt feelings and thoughts of what will happen to her in the future? I have 4 other children, 2 are very naughty but very lovable with it (could be a problem later) and two are very very good, hard working and out to please everybody - these two are very laid back people (unlike myself) and I find them the easiest out of the five. Maybe because opposites attract??? Oh how I wish they had all been born with instruction manuals!

**heaven** · 12-08-2002, 07:17 PM

I Love all of my children. but i have told them because i love them doesn't mean I always have to like them. They are not bad. just they do have their moments. Keiko is the worst everyone says it is her age, i will let you know when she is 30 if i like her. lol

**bamamomto4** · 12-08-2002, 07:46 PM

I love all my kids the same. Ashley is a teenager...knows everything,smart mouthed 13 year old.
Katie is definetly my "Wild Child".Always into things,talks back, STAYS in trouble..poor kid..she can't help it.For the longest time Steve said she had middle child syndrome.(I'm also a middle child..he was meaning she's just like me..not funny LOL)
Jackson is sooo much diff.He gets into things but he's only 20 months old.He's very loving and always says "tank you". Mama's lil man...

**captclearance** · 12-08-2002, 08:25 PM

I love them !!!!!!! My littlest ds is very funny and likeable, dd is too, most of the time, but she has 11 year old B*tchitis that makes me dislakie her at times..........

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 12-14-2002, 04:16 AM

Both of my boys can be very loving, but they both have traits that are as bad a nails down a chalkboard.

DS#1--10 yo--a tyrant in the making. I can't give even the tiniest bit of leeway with this boy or he will be the next world dictator wanna be! OTOH, he is loving and cares very much for others (when he's not yelling at them). Believe it or not, he is much more a Mama's boy that DS#2 He is very, very smart (a TAG student) and needs to BE challenged or he IS a challenge!

DS#2--9 yo--when he whines, he sounds like Beaker (of the Muppets!). He is not as sensitive, but cetain things DO get to him. he gets tired of his brother pestering him and often wants to be left alone. He would be a real TV head if given the chance. He is obsessed with cameras and will ask me endless questions about them!

**Darlene** · 12-14-2002, 07:42 AM

Love them both.
Ds is funny and caring,smart & lazy. He's good at making the system work for him. Why do something if he can get someone else to do it. If he thinks he's right about something he'll work on you and try to wear you down. Maybe he'll be a lawyer someday.

Dd is very headstrong and likes to challenge herself. Smart,pretty but too opinionated at times. We butted heads a lot for the beginning of the teen years . ( those with young daughters watch out) But we made it through and had our first really big young adult to Mom heart to heart talk just the other day. Tears were shed by both of us and we even hugged. She never lets me hug her. It felt so good.

**TheCottageRose** · 12-16-2002, 03:15 AM

DS '22' talked in complete sentences at 11 months, and began running my life shortly there after. At 4 years old, people would hear us talk and tell me he would be a great salesman or attorney.
At 7 I'd make him argue with the walls because he would manipulate and tie me into knots.

Oh, and he was the mommy and still questions my discipline of '16' from the time he arrived.

Sometimes I want to hurt him and sometimes I want to hug him and never let him go...he is a joy.

'16' is not a ALL like his brother, didn't talk till he was 2 and half because his brother was so interesting and knew everything he wanted/needed...He is meek and mild. Cheerful, though that is fading as he feels since I am now shorter than he is that must mean I am inferior and need direction. Which he is bound to give whether or not I need it.

'16' has learned to turn me inside out like his brother, but he is a sweet loving boy and will make a wonderful hubby unlike his brother.

'16' repairs things for me while '22' tells me why I don't need to have something repaired.

When they were 8 & 2 I would say I had a Stand Up Comic and a Baby Gorilla for children.

Then about 12 and 6 we renamed the older one 'The General', a name he still wears with a cocky attitude.

And, since seeing GoatMan on TV, '16' has made goat noises and insists he is a goat. His friends think that is funny and was useful on the basketball court to distract opponents.

Ok!

So, I have The General and a Goat....what more can I say?

**sunshine** · 12-16-2002, 10:05 AM

I have one that is more difficult than the other 2. He has been since the day he was born.

He was born "dead"- had to be ressucitated (sp?). Then he never smiled, or showed any emotion at all until he was nearly 2 years old. (He was also slow physically- so slow that we set up a neurological appointment, but then he started rolling over, sitting up and walking at 8 months so we cancelled the appointment).

Any way- he never let us hug him, never smiled- nothing until he was over 2, and then only when prompted.

Now at age 15, his is the class clown and TONS of emotions- not all easy to deal with.

It doesn't help that he is SO much like me- I see everything I dislike in myself , in him. I also see the things I like about myself in him- but it is difficult to like him sometimes.

We have been working on our relationship for over 2 years now, and have made great strides in that direction. It's better, but lots harder work than with the other 2.

All that said- I wouldn't change a thing! I love him as he is, and I'll just work harder at liking him

**Sara Noel** · 02-12-2003, 11:02 AM

I can't say much about my children yet because they are so young, but I am definitely the strong willed child in my family.
My poor mother. I am difficult, stubborn, and not a good communicator. I forget important dates and I don't call very often.
I apparently have forgotten to share and am slow to confide. I am every mother's nightmare daughter in the sense that I probably make her feel like she did something wrong in raising me or that I am some sort of reflection on who she is. I don't have much sentiment and not a lot of emotional ties to much.
The thing is that I am like that with everyone. It isn't towards her because she has done something wrong. It's just who I am.
If she would stop looking for the huggie-kissie ever so loving and caring daughter for 5 minutes, she could probably see that I am not half bad. She was a great mom and I think of her often and have always admired her. I just don't know how to show it. I have seen my mom about three times in 13 years. (each time I was working while she visited) Gabe thinks it's horrible and that I should put forth more effort because afterall she is my mother.
Gabe never met my father bfore he died and has yet to meet my mother.

Ok, that's a novel and probably more info than was needed. LOL

It's nice to read the mom's perspective.

**baronmom** · 02-12-2003, 11:27 PM

All my boys are pretty good, but my oldest (who is 14) seems to be the one that I butt heads with the most. I swear that he does stuff just to p**S me off. He was an only child for 7 years so I think he still carries some jealousy around. My middle son is the independant one. He will get up in the morning and you would never even know that he is up. He will get his own breakfast as well. He is the hardest one to figure out though. He is not very touchy feely, and doesn't like to get kisses or hugs. But he is a good student, and takes it very seriously. My little one is my sweety. He is such a joy to be around. Don't get me wrong, he can push the buttons just like the others. He is very touchy feely and loves to give kisses and hugs to everyone. (he will give me about 25 hugs and kisses a day) He tells me every day that he likes me. And, if I don't answer him, he will yell at me until I answer him. They all are different, but I wouldn't trade them. They are my world.

Traci C.