Are you allowed to be sick? lol

**bamamomto4** · 12-19-2002, 12:17 PM

If it's a cold I just go on. Earlier this year I had pnemonia twice and he waited on me hand and foot.
He's really good about making sure I rest and him tending to the kids.He tries very hard to keep them out of my hair.

**mommyto5** · 12-27-2002, 12:20 PM

I am not allowed to be sick. Dh can lay in bed all day if he is sick and I let him know what a luxury that is. He knows he has it good around here lol. He is getting better though. It has taken years of practice to get him to understand that everyone needs a little sympathy sometimes. Amy

**Mom23boys** · 12-27-2002, 03:46 PM

I get miagraines...not as much as I used to, but I still get them. When I get them, I want to be left alone in a dark, quiet room. DH knows this and "SOMETIMES" will keep everyone out and quiet. I think it depends on his mood for the day. Last night I wasn't feeling that great. I have had a stomache bug or something these last few days. I didn't want to cook as I didn't want to eat. So, he took the boys out to eat..lol! Sometimes he will cook when I don't feel good.

When he is sick, he is dying! Of course, you have to wait on him hand and foot. When I am sick, he says why don't you get up and take something? I should say, why don't you bring it to me, like I bring it to you?

I guess I do it because my grandmother treated my grandfather the same way. (My grandparents raised me and my sister). She was very sick with heart problems all the time and never stopped to take care of herself because she was always taking care of my grandfather who had a stroke and for 10 years she had to pull on him and doctor him. I always felt sorry for her, but she wanted to make sure he was treated right. When he passed away, she passed away 8 months later. She told me the day before she died, that there was no reason for her to live because he was gone. He was her reason for living. She was in the hospital with her heart. So, I guess I do it because I saw the love my grandmother had for my grandfather. I tell DH all the time, he acts just like my grandfather.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 12-28-2002, 02:29 AM

I get sick but keep going. When I get a migraine, I don't go home unless I am crying or going to throw up. Fortunately, I usually get them at home (fortunately??).

DH, OTOH is a BIIIIIIIIG wuuuuusssss. One time, he actually told me, "You're not feeling sufficiently sorry for me!" I laughed so hard, I hurt!!! When my boys are sick, I put them to bed, get them a bucket, but do NOT coddle them because I don't want to make their wives/SOs miserable in the future!

A few years back, I had a really, really nasty flu bug hit me. I ached so bad that all of my joints hurt and were swollen. DH walked in the door and asked, "What's for dinner?" I got up and made him the worst possible thing I could (something he hated) and let him know, in NO uncertain terms, just how lousy I felt. Wellll, he got the same bug a few days later and I made him make us dinner! Then he understood just how awful I felt!

**Kate117** · 12-28-2002, 06:54 AM

I am not allowed to be sick however should my husband become ill the whole world is coming to an end

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 11-20-2005, 11:12 PM

omg.....my friend & iw as just talking about this the other day. i've been sick with a nasty cold for a week & my husband caught this nasty cold bug & he has been in bed!!! it erks me so bad.........glad i'm not alone on this one!!!!mothers can never have the day off...its a 24/7 job

**Michelle** · 11-21-2005, 07:26 AM

Originally posted by Michelle
I am NEVER allowed to be sick...even when we have the same illness, he's up in bed, and I am carrying on. I just don't get it

Funny I should see this thread today. I had a horrible sinus headache all day yesterday, and no one did a thing they were supposed to do, and I need to make up for their laziness today. Makes me really mad.

**lacyj** · 11-21-2005, 08:40 AM

I tried to be sick once, when we first got married...it didn't work and that was 27 years ago...

**dmvezina** · 11-21-2005, 08:42 AM

It is very rare that my dh calls in sick & stays in bed. He has to be pretty much on his "death bed" to do that.
It is also very rare that I go to bed during the day.
Last week I did it & I felt awful!!
But normally, I carry on as usual!!

**daddys3chicks** · 11-21-2005, 08:43 AM

Originally posted by Michelle
Funny I should see this thread today. I had a horrible sinus headache all day yesterday, and no one did a thing they were supposed to do, and I need to make up for their laziness today. Makes me really mad.

Oh boy! Do you live in my house? I always say I wonder if I dropped dead in the kitchen how long they would all step over me before they realized they needed to bury me. No, I am not allowed to be sick.

**krisathome** · 11-27-2005, 11:34 PM

My IRL friend and I talk about this all the time. She just had a baby and wasn't (and still isn't) allowed to slow down. Her doctor actually kept her in the hospital an extra 4 days so she could get some much needed rest. The doctor knows how her dh is.

I had pneumonia a couple of summers ago and I was not allowed to even recover for a week before I was back into doing daycare and getting my kids off to school. I was suppose to be on complete bed rest or be put in the hospital. So instead I was home sneaking around doing laundry and dishes. Oh yeah, and he was angry at me.

Then last year I had a hysterectomy and my granny stayed with me for 3 weeks because she knew that no one here would help me. And yes, dh was angry then, too.

Now I'm having gallbladder problems but that doesn't seem to phase anyone here.

Dh uses all his vacation days for illness. He use to go to work regardless but not anymore, now he lays around and whines.

But heaven forbid I should get sick!

**SHOPGIRL** · 11-28-2005, 12:46 AM

Yes, I'm allowed to be sick. Dh is on his own for dinner, etc. . . We rarely get sick, thank goodness! We don't have kids so things might be different if we did.

**Missy** · 11-28-2005, 11:48 AM

depends, lol. If Dh is at work, nope. Can't be sick. the kiddos are too young to be self sufficient. But they will let me lay on the couch while they play on the floor in front of me. And Ds1 will play with ds2. So that helps. But if i am ill it means ds1 gets a day off of schoolwork.

So of course he helps me, rofl.

DH will make himself and the kids dinner if i am doing so bad that i can't handle cooking. But it might not be till 9pm if he's working late.

The big problem i have is when i need a perscription for something and i am really sick, i have a hard time getting dh to go get it for me. That's a big problem.

**Mamaw** · 11-28-2005, 06:08 PM

In my house it works like this.. if I have a cold, then DH has the flu. If I have the flu, then Dh has bronchitis, If I have that, he has pnuemonia, If I have pneumonia, then DH is already dead and no one told me!

So yes, I am allowed to be ill, but he is always much,much worse than I am so I still tend to most things.