if you remarried.

[heaven]

and you had a child would you consider marrying someone without children and over 30 who had never been married before? I defantly would not do it again.both of my husbands was 30 + never married no children.my first husband did do well with it, once we had children it wasn't a big deal. my second husband doesn't have a clue what it is like to be a parent. there is NO WAY I would do this again. NEVER. what do you think??

[homesteadmamma]

I am very happy in my marriage but if something was to happen to dh, I would never marry again. We were married when I was 18 and we've been married almost 35 years. I basically am a loner and would like time by myself to explore and do things I wasn't able to do since I've been married and had children.

[heaven]

I wouldn't remarry either. I have decided i prefer to be alone. Sad but true. I am just happier that way.

[mgory29379]

I got married at 18 and my dh died almost three years later. [ a few days short of our third anniv.] I have not even thought about remarrying. First of all then me and my dd would have different last names, but also because I don't want to have to worry with anyone else but me and dd. I know it sounds sad but it is the truth. I like my independance.

[heavensent_7]

Ok - think I must be posting too often and sounding worse and worse as I go BUT I have been married 3x and have five children with 3 different fathers! Each man has prefered his own children to the others (which I surpose is human?) and each time has had it's own set of problems. My last husband was hated but my disabled teenage daughter and the stress got the better of us. I am now separated again. I think relationships are very hard and too easy to get in and out of than they used to be. I would love to have a strong and happy marriage, I always dreamed of until death do us part. But life seems to have changed alot and I have lots of past baggage (as men my age also seem to have?) and I do not want to take on somebody elses kids either, selfish maybe but true. The fairytale is a great one and it's reality for some people. But I think I'm destined to be single and I think my kids have seen enough of a bad example to keep flogging it?

Please no hate mail - it's just my personal opinion

[heaven]

Heavensent. #1 thanks for your reply, #2 i can't amagine anyone sending hate mail because we are all diffrent.it doesn't matter if they don't agree with you i have found here all of us are respected for our diffrences. #3. You sound just fine, you can never post too much!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and further more, answer any way you want.

[KathiS]

I agree with CJ. I have been married for almost 39 years. There is no way I would ever want to remarry if something happened to DH. Also, I wanted to say..Heavensent, you can never post too often. Everyone here is really good at listening. I don't think I have ever seen anyone flamed here. We are all individuals and we have all had different life experiences. Please don't think any of us would judge you. We are glad you are here with us. Keep on a postin'!