Anyone ever have DHSA (Dear Husband Separation Anxiety)?

**Squidge** · 10-31-2010, 06:46 PM

Originally Posted by Lindsey

I know a lot of military wives who sleep with their kids in the bed while their husband is gone and the kids go back to their rooms when daddy comes home.

I don't do that...in fact, I like the bed all to myself! lol
I do have to have challenges though. The first deployment, I learned to decorate cakes, got debt free, had a baby a month after he left (on top of the 2 year old), learned to sew, started a play group for my area and volunteered.

And each deployment I have done something else challenging that I could focus on.

Maybe start a new hobby? Good luck to you guys!

I think this is awesome advice.

It hasn’t been 100% confirmed yet, but it’s looking likely that my SO will have to go away for a few months with work and this is along the lines of what I had planned to do to keep me busy.

I want to learn lots of new meals and try out some more complicated baking. Plus, I will be able eat all the mushrooms and cheese I like without grossing out my SO

Good luck with all this

**mauimagic** · 10-31-2010, 07:02 PM

Good to hear that there is an end in sight - that always helps. I'd make sure that I had something that has his scent with me when I slept at night - even to wearing a tshirt or something. What wonderful advice on this thread.

Must admit that I do look forward to some time alone when DH goes off island for a weekend or more. But then I am always so glad to welcome him home.

Please stay in touch and let us know how you are doing!!

**MomToTwoBoys** · 11-02-2010, 10:12 AM

So yesterday marked the first full day without him here. It was weird. It felt so incomplete. He called me at about 6:45 and we talked for a while. He sounded tired, but his sister told me that he didn't seem thrilled with the idea of being up there and us being here. I couldn't tell if his voice was him being sad or just worn out.

He's commuting 50 minutes each day on top of the 3 hours to get from here to Edmonton every other weekend. He's coming home for four days on the 12th and that'll be awesome!

Silly man forgot his work boots.

He told me that they're looking to put him as the Best Buy lead receiver, which would keep him really busy. But all he did yesterday was pick orders with a forklift. I think he misses out on being his own boss, so to speak.

Hopefully, the house will sell soon or we'll win the lottery on Friday. Either way, we need to get this distance thing taken care of sooner rather than later.

**max915** · 11-03-2010, 03:57 PM

my husband was a truck driver for 16 and half years...was home 1 day during the week and a day and half on weekends...it was hard for us and the kids but we at that time didn't have much choice..it finally got to the point where his health was getting bad from not eating on a regular basis and sleeping weird hours...so he finally decided it just was worth the money and quit and has been tring to decided what he really wants to do ..has done many jobs since then but now what he would like to do...which if he could afford it is to be a full time farmer....we don't own enough land or the machinery to farm with...talk about really be poor then....but God always provides....

**nodmicks** · 11-03-2010, 05:51 PM

My hubby is gone on occasion for a week or two at a time. I always feel worse for him. I miss him lots but he is alone and I have the kids.

Years ago he drove OTR. He hated it, I hated it, the kids hated it. I found over time I actually had less tolerance when he came home. I'd do everything all for 7-10 days and he would come home for a day or two and take over. MY attitude alarmed me a bit!

I'm glad there is an end in sight for you and hang in there!