question and a little bit of a whine.

**Labontet** · 11-15-2010, 07:44 PM

Originally Posted by Syn D

It's nice to help people grant it, but there are limitations... When good intentions turn in to expectations, it's time to cut down...

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

**Siebrie** · 11-16-2010, 05:58 AM

Your mum knows where your guilt button is located! Switch it to a new place (or switch it off altogether)!

Now that DGP is in a home, there is hardly a reason to visit mum and do her housework for her. Good! Enjoy the visits to DGP, and help out if you feel you must, but try and stand up to mum until you feel comfortable with that.

**Jayceef** · 11-23-2010, 01:25 PM

Check out the local inmate trustee units for the shoveling of driveway and sidewalks. I know that our state facilities do this for the elderly and the those that are disabled. All you need to do is call them. No questions, but your address are asked. An officer is always present when they show up to shovel.

**Mamaw** · 11-23-2010, 05:43 PM

Glad to hear that DGP is going to be taken care of. But I would suggest you use the opportunity to work on Moms expectations. It sounds as if you have enough to handle with your own house, pets and little one. Keep saying no in a polite way and eventually Mom will figure out a way to hire someone or to get another person to do the task. In the meantime, could you trade child sitting with a friend or neighbor to get a bit of alone time for yourself? Hugs to you

**NikoSan999** · 11-28-2010, 08:53 AM

Hopefully, now your mom won't think you have more time and can now do more for her. Why can't she do some of this herself...why can't she take the dog out?
You have to learn to just say no, I'm busy...me and the daughter have plans...I'm cleaning MY house...etc.
You['re being used

**shoiji** · 11-28-2010, 09:44 AM

Great to hear your grandfather will be receiving the 24/7 care that he needs.

The area I live in has a transportation service for the elderly and disabled. All you need to do is call and set up a time for pick to go where ever you need to go.

I would call around to see if there is anything like that in your area. The one here is run by the county. I realize Canada is different but would think something like it might be available. Could be another way to visit your grandfather especially when the weather is miserable.

Now is also a great time to rest and figure out what you might want to do now that you have more time on your hands. Just figuring out a schedule for your own daily routine might seem enjoyable for you. Take the time to think about what you might want to do for yourself.