Feel so inferior when it comes to my DD graduation

**Palooka** · 01-09-2011, 07:34 AM

Found out her step-mom and dad will be renting a hall here in this area for her graduation party. Well, that is so sweet and nice of them....but come on!!! Really? like their big square house isn't good enough for their family and friends? They probably need some extra space for the Kegs too.

Oh, and the third week of May when she is done with high school, she sails away for a cruise in the Carribean with her grandparents.

I can't top this off!!! My Dd doesn't expect me too.

We talk about it, but still.....I'm sure my cake and soda pop sounds lame...

Vent!!

**Darlene** · 01-09-2011, 07:51 AM

Not lame. Your dd knows how over the top her grandparents are and she knows you love and think the world of her. You are going through a lot of changes yourself as your dd moves on and you need to cut yourself some slack and know that you mean bunches to all those who love you.

**nodmicks** · 01-09-2011, 07:57 AM

Hugs Palooka! Darlene sure gives excellent advice!

**mamachop** · 01-09-2011, 07:57 AM

Your dd knows how much you love her! Don't worry about what everyone else is doing. You're giving her the best gifts possible, your love, your time, and your support. This is going to be a huge change for you as well, I agree with Darlene, you need to cut yourself some slack.

**MTS04** · 01-09-2011, 08:13 AM

My greatest (and only) graduation gift was my mom telling me that she was proud of me.

I bet your DD feels the same. There's nothing better than a parent's love.

Just want to clarify: Graduating from high school was expected and nothing less accepted therefore the reasons for no party no gifts.

**fernykins** · 01-09-2011, 10:25 AM

Your Daughter knows who would give up everything for them. I,ve had very little money as my kids grew up but they all knew I would die for them. My ex didn't figure they needed much. He knows nothing that is going on with them. My kids have concerns I'm there to help them. Your daughter knows you will always be there.Its not about bigger or more money. It's all about the love
Fern

**Debbie-cat** · 01-09-2011, 11:06 AM

It isn't about the gifts or parties. It is the love you show her. You are proud of your daughter and she knows that. Reinforce it by telling her and spending time with her. That is the best gift you can give her!

**ncarr** · 01-09-2011, 11:16 AM

I wouldn't look at it as something that needs to be "topped." Look at it as "so many people love my daughter and want do something nice for her graduation! What a lucky girl."

You don't need to compete with your daughter's loved ones. She has many people that obviously care about her and each and every gesture (big or small) should be appreciated

**grneyegrl** · 01-09-2011, 01:11 PM

i bet her friends will have more fun and be relaxed at your home..

**pollypurebred39** · 01-09-2011, 02:33 PM

We had the same thing happen when our oldest graduated. I so can relate. Of course he understood, but I have to wonder how he'll feel if when his brother graduates we are in a better $ position then and provide for our youngest what we could not for our oldest.

**zakity** · 01-09-2011, 02:47 PM

You know, I would like the simple cake and ice cream party better. I bet she does too.

**Nana2two** · 01-09-2011, 03:15 PM

She has your LOVE but they BUY her love.Big difference. So in the End she knows who is number 1!!!

**McD** · 01-09-2011, 03:25 PM

It's hard to feel as if you aren't providing the very best for your kids. I certainly feel that way now that we have the expense of two.

But...looking back on my high school/childhood days, the best memories I have with my mom and dad aren't of the parties they had for me or the things they did FOR me. They are of the things they did with me, like going mushroom hunting with my dad and singing along to the oldies with my mom when she was trying to teach me to drive.

**Brat** · 01-09-2011, 06:14 PM

You and your daughter are getting ready to take a big step...She know that your love and being there for her anytime that she needs you means more than money can buy..Love has so much more value than material things..Your giveing her the best and always have your love...

**shoiji** · 01-09-2011, 06:23 PM

I am sure she will understand. Be happy that your daughter is receiving these great graduation gifts. Because you don't have to pay for them.

One thing your daughter and her friends might appreciate is an end of summer get together. Everyone brings something and you have a nice outdoor picnic where everyone can say their last goodbyes before everyone goes off to college.