DD is in BIG trouble!

mustang80 · 12-19-2002, 01:35 PM

Here we go again. She is cruising through school again. She just made Honor Roll last marking period, today I get a progress report-she has 2-C's, 1-D, 1-F, oh and an A in spanish. I don't know what to do with her. DH is going to blow a major gasket.

I'm pretty pi$$ed off too. She is sooo off the computer among other things. I've emailed one of her teachers. How do you ladies handle grades at home? DD is 13 and in 8th grade.

nealy · 12-19-2002, 02:31 PM

I am not quite sure how were are going to handle grades with our children because my oldest is only in second grade and we haven't had any problems yet, but when I was growing up my parents were very strict. Is it laziness on her part or is she struggling now? If it's laziness, like it was for me LOL. my parents grounded me for three months, during that time my teachers had contact with my parents and they had a progress report sent home every week to check on me. I hated it at the time but I am grateful now.

nealy

bamamomto4 · 12-19-2002, 02:57 PM

Danielle-We're going through the same thing with Ashley (she's also 13-in the 8th) We would ask her "got homework" her reply was either "no" or "finished it at school".
Well a few weeks ago on her progress report she had 5 zero's in History,and 3 in math. Why can't we make them understand WE WILL find out there grades?!?!!?!!!!! She's in the band and we keep telling her that her grades will say if she gets to continue to be in the band.I think next year,they go by your 8th grade average.They have to at least have a C average in order to stay in. It seems she doesn't care...but she loves the band!!!

I think it's their age. Lord knows I'm not making excuses for her but I honestly think teenagers think totally diff than the rest of us LOL!!
lastnight we came in from going out to eat and I said " Ashley-go get a shower.Hurry up and don't be in there playing around"
She sits on the couch trying to play with katie.
EXCUSE ME!! What did I JUST get out of my mouth!!! She thens goes and I never hear water.I asked Steve "Has Ashley took a shower..?" He goes to ask and she's in her room playing her keyboard!! I was so upset...I went back there and asked her what I told her when we walked in the door...she says "to take a shower?!!!" (with this dumb look on her face) And what were you doing?? "Playing my keyboard?!!!" (another dumb look) I was so mad at her.She's now grounded on top of already being grounded!! LOL!!

What makes teenagers act this way?? I never did (honestly I didn't.I was the only one of 3 that did as I was told when I was told!")

Oh gosh..sorry I venting on like this.. but Danielle started it

mustang80 · 12-19-2002, 04:19 PM

Tammy, thanks for the vent, it actually made me feel a little better.

I thought dumb looks were only in my house. Your dd does the SAME exact things as mine!!! Dumb looks, acting like they didn't hear you or something. I asked her why she has a 54 in English, she says I don't know. Her excuses are "I don't know", "I forgot", "they didn't tell me to", etc. etc. :banghead: I don't know what to do with her, she's driving me nuts and DH is ready to "don't let the door hit you in the a$$". My DD has a shower problem too. Sometimes she just puts on her pj's and gets in bed-trying to get away without a shower. YUCK! What are they thinking????

Okay, I've vented now too. Thanks Tammy!

bamamomto4 · 12-19-2002, 05:06 PM

Danielle..Ashley's thing is "The teacher didn't say turn the homework in!" Then why on earth give homework!! Oh that drives me insane !!!

She had a 72 in PE!!! I told her that was kinda sad if she fails PE!! I mean my goodness come on...show up,play,...how hard is that?!!!! She doesn't like dressing out or tells her teacher "I don't feel good today".

What will we do with these girls!! LOL

mustang80 · 12-19-2002, 07:37 PM

I told Ashlee she's going to be pumping gas for a living if she doesn't straighten up. She begs me for notes to get her out of gym on a regular basis. DH is so mad at her.

heaven · 12-19-2002, 09:11 PM

we have just started doing the assignment notebook. my son has to have it signed by me at night,and if he doesn't have something for ever class written down i write down what is missing. which works when he remembers to bring it home, sounds like it must be an age thing though, because he is also 13.

MJsLady · 12-19-2002, 09:28 PM

My boys did it too.
Now they are getting better marks
what ticks me is these guys are extremely bright kids! Could pass with no homework! But they fuss and fight anything to do with school. If they would just put forth 1 ounce of effort they would be honor roll guys!
I men my oldest (17) took the AFVABT and scored in the top 10%
but he cant remember his chem formulas. (UMMM the field he qualified for in the Navy is ummmm Chem based! How in the world did that work out?????

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tigo · 12-20-2002, 10:44 AM

Yep - it's an age thing. DS is in the throws of this himself. DD16 is finally starting to come out of this (but her mouth and attitude are getting worse). We do the assignment books for all the kids, but they really do not understand that sooner or later, the info that they avoid passing to us will get to us (duh - the school has us on speed-dial!)
I thought our kids were the only ones who didn't turn things in!

Megareader · 12-27-2002, 08:01 PM

Dd's school has a website where we can check homework assignments and find out about upcoming tests. They do get time in class to work on things quite a bit so she doesn't always have homework to bring home even though it's listed on the site.

We recently moved dd into the public school ( she had gone to parochial before and is in 8th grade now ) and I do have to say it's working out great.

Mom23boys · 12-27-2002, 08:12 PM

I am sorry I missed this post somehow ealier. I am having the same trouble with DS#1 who is 14 and in the 9th grade. We ask him daily if he has homework and he replies "no". He forgets that I work for the school district and his teachers email me daily to let me know what he is doing. I try to remind him he can not lie to me because I know exactly what is due and when. I will walk by his room and I swear he is in there doing it, but never turns in any of it. I will go in there a day later and it is under his bed....done of course. I don't understand why he takes the effort to do it if he isn't going to turn it in. He has so many zero's in every class, there is no way he will pass. I have asked his straight out what he plans to do, quit when he is a few years older or graduate? He said he plans on graduating with his class. Which class is that is what I wonder. I tell him then he needs to put forth a little more effort and stop being so lazy! I have thought of homeschooling him as well, but I don't know if that would help him. I pray that God gives me the strength to get him through school and teach him right so that he will be successful in life.

If any of you ever find a way to deal with the teen years, please let me know. I am at my last rope. Grounded him and taking things away doesn't seem to bother him...nothing does!

Mom23boys · 12-27-2002, 08:14 PM

Oh, we tried the notebook thing and it didn't work. His teachers never asked for it and he sure wasn't getting up to go give it to them. Emailing back and forth between his teachers and me is the best idea. I know what is going on at least even if he is still getting zeros!

mgory29379 · 12-27-2002, 08:26 PM

Just try and be reasonable. I know that sounds like a lot but yelling will only make things worse.

alohawife · 01-01-2003, 12:58 AM

So glad I found this thread.
My son is 13 and in 8th grade. He is so smart his counselor says that she can't understand why he's getting D's & F's. We had him tested and he did great. He tested at either 8th or 9th grade level. Math he tested at 11th grade. So I said to her what's the problem with his classes. Well it comes down to him not turning in his work. He goes to a tutor once a week and she's very upset because she helps him with his work and she knows he does it but can't believe he doesn't turn it in. His teachers tell him just turn your work in and you'll get a passing grade. He just doesn't CARE.... My other three kids are all doing great. Maybe he sees this and wants to be different. We are now planning to see a family counselor to see if something is bothering him. He is also ADHD so we are working on this problem too.

Will be trying some of your ladies ideas will keep you posted..

halo475 · 01-01-2003, 08:49 AM

I am in the same boat with you all!! My dd -12 (will be 13 in Feb.)in 7th grade made the Merit roll with her Averages all above 85 for the first quarter. Then just before Christmas break she tells me-"be on the look out for progress reports" I get the progress report and she has avg's in the 50's

She can do the work, she is just being lazy. She has turned in little to no homework the second quarter.

Its not like I don't ask every day if she has homework and if it's done!!! She goes to her room or in the toy room with her books faithfully every night, so it did not occur to me that doing that was just a show and she was actually NOT doing her homework