Some parents UGH

**nvmommyx6** · 02-07-2012, 11:39 PM

So my son is in intermural basketball (it's before "real" sports, where the lil guys just play against their own school in order to learn the game and how to play as a team!) We are at his game tonight and cheering for both teams because IT'S INTERMURAL!!!
Anyhow there is a parent behind us screaming at his son, "Joseph, don't let him pull that F'in S*%$ on you"...Of course I kept my mouth shut and m oved spots and after the game I talked to the coach and asked him if he thought that was ok language for the children to be listening to!
He said he'd take care of it, but it just amazes me even if the kids were playing for real against other schools, NO good parent wants their kids hearing that kind of nasty mouth when their 10 for God's sake!

**mndtrp** · 02-08-2012, 12:17 AM

A few of my friends and I were at a bar/restaurant Saturday night. It was packed, due to the UFC fight, so there were a lot of kids and families all around us. The table next to us had a family with a few kids. One of the kids spilled her water, and the dad unloaded on her, yelling all sorts of obscenities at her.

Many people were not silent, getting that guy to calm down. The wife was obviously embarrassed, the kid was on the verge of tears, and everyone in earshot was distressed. Someone from the staff came by to make sure everything was ok, but I really feel for the girl's home life.

**frugalwarrior2** · 02-08-2012, 08:01 AM

I put my kid into an after school fun basketball class.Well,thats what I thought it was. DD was goofing around the first class because she had never played basketball. The other parents in the class were having a fit. I got a refund. It's so pathetic when parent freak out and ruin the kids fun times.

**shoiji** · 02-08-2012, 09:16 AM

Yup, pretty bad when the adult lives out their athletic ability through the child. Remember watching my nephews game at 7 years old. There was someone there keeping track of the stats. Yea, at 7.

Just can't help thinking kids should be learning the game and having fun at that age.

**oheoh's momma** · 02-08-2012, 11:17 AM

not acceptable at all. would talk to the parent and ask for that language not to be used.....

**madhen** · 02-08-2012, 11:27 AM

I have a friend who drops the "f" bomb a lot, just as part of his conversational speech. I have to remind him, when I see kids around, to watch his language. (He also takes care of my parrots when I'm out of town, and I have threatened, if any of them learn anything I wouldn't say in front of my mother, that he will be taking them home with him!!)

**frugalwarrior2** · 02-08-2012, 12:26 PM

good thread Madhen.
We used to have a parrot across the street who mimicked the couple fighting and cowboy movies. It was hilarious to me as a kid. I would be riding down the street. "hey,where do you think you going", stop that right now" Bangbang bang bang bang. I didn't know they had a parrot for the longest time. I just thought they were weird!

**khaski** · 02-08-2012, 01:45 PM

Not as bad as what you posted, but reminds me of some friends we adore- except 'shut up' is a regular part of their vocab, to eachother, to the kids ages 6-13 (now), between the kids. Not something we say in our house, I find it disrespectful. Have had to explain to my kids, now 3 and 6, multiple times over the last few years how people do things differently in their families, and in ours we don't tell each other to shut up. I have noticed more cursinig ebing thrown in the mix lately, along with idol threats 'If you don't stop doing x,y,z, I SWEAR I will BEAT YOU (parents to kids). they actually are generally good people, I just don't agree with their verbal dynamics!

NVmommy, I was just thiking how you have more smarts and impulse control than I wuld have- I would have opened my mught, WIDE, to the f-bombers, and probably caused more trouble because of it!

**abecedarian** · 02-08-2012, 02:38 PM

When my kids played soccer, I had a friend who cheered for whoever she knew on the field..regardless of which team they were on. If she saw a kid she knew make a good play, she'd cheer them on by name. Best example of good sportsmanship I have ever seen. I've never understood the folks who scream and curse at kids to do better at a sport. Why would anyone feel positively motivated by that sort of behavior? This stuff is supposed to be fun..

**Momto5RN** · 02-08-2012, 04:06 PM

some guys seem to think how well their kid plays a sport is a direct relation to how big other people will think their penis is .

that guy will most likely end up being barred from coming into his kids games one day and make his kid less likely to be picked even if he is really good because he will become known as a "dad-pick" IE kid is good but is it worth having him on your team if the dad is an issue ,

**dancemommy** · 02-08-2012, 04:42 PM

My son plays high school soccer at school and on a club team. For club parents are pretty much forbidden to say anything that isn't encouraging on the sidelines- the boys can get red carded for their parents and their coaches behavior. Kind of changes the game. The team captain (who is a player) is responsible for keeping everyone in line. We sign a code of conduct for high school as well and it works pretty well for the parents. We have played some pretty obnoxious teams though. I'm often surprised as well.

**frugalfranny** · 02-09-2012, 03:06 PM

Originally Posted by shoiji

Just can't help thinking kids should be learning the game and having fun at that age.

Yeah..........what ever happened to this idea in our society???

I love the idea that dancemommy posted............if more schools did this it could help the sports (or PARENTS??) program.........and often
the kids are embarrassed about how their parents act!!

**MissouriAngel** · 02-09-2012, 03:15 PM

Oh I would have said something to him, it's one of my biggest pet peeves.

It always amazes me the lack of respect some have for others around them. To me it seems as though many are loosing their manners (that's if they ever had any at all).

**McD** · 02-09-2012, 03:31 PM

We had an incident at Dubya's soccer game a few years ago. Dubya scored a goal and he turned and pointed at the kid on teh other team who hadn't stopped him. He taunted him--like a neener neener neener moment. The husband immediately said, "DUBYA!" Loud enough to get his attention and as soon as he made eye contact with us, I pointed my finger at him while shaking my head.

We will not tolerate unsportsmanlike conduct and if it had continued, we would have pulled him off the field.

Well, one of the other parents on our team made a big production out of PRAISING his behavior. Right after we had indicated it was unacceptable. I was furious.