Preparing my little girl to leave.

**Jerseygirl** · 01-09-2003, 09:26 PM

I knew this day would eventually come, Elida, my 16 month old is preparing to go home to her mother. The final court date is January 21. Today I received a call from her casemanager telling me to have her packed, he will pick her up at day care tomm. I went psychotic, literally. There is no court order ok ing her return, the casemanager just felt that since her mom's psych report came back favorably and she has met all of her other requirements that he would return the baby tomm. I lost it!! I made a number of calls and the state laywer agreed that it was in the baby's best interest to wait until after the court date on the 21st. My biggest problem was that there is no day care set up for her, no judge saying her mother is clear of the abuse charges, and she has only spent 2 hours per month with her mom. Now she's expected to just accept her as her only caregiver and depend on her for everything. I refused to accept this, I asked that the case manager have the mother see her an additional 3-4 x's before the 21st so they will be more comfortable together, he can't possibly, so now I will be personally taking her to the state offices 45 minutes away twice next week to try to make this work for her, and he agreed to bring her mother to visit the baby tomm at day care. Everyone is so concerned wqith the right's of this woman who abused and neglected this beautiful baby, yet no one is making sure she is left feeling secure. I keep stressing to the state that her mom speaks no english, the baby has been in an english speaking home and school and is doing wonderfully, why let her fall behind etc. I realize I am rambling, I am just at a loss. I knew what I was getting into, now I don't think I can handle it. Thanks for listening girls... Kellie

**homesteadmamma** · 01-09-2003, 09:47 PM

Kellie {{{{hugs}}}}. You fight for that babies rights. Yes, she will probably go back to her mom (and I hope with supervision) but that baby has every right to have a smooth transition back into her home.

I know how difficult this is and have gone through it many times over. Social workers are over worked and underpaid and it drives me nuts that the laws are always for the parents and the kids are forgotten in the shuffle!!

The laws need to be changed. And its you and I and others who can get them changed.

If you need to vent, pm me. Again, {{{{hugs}}}} cj

**heaven** · 01-09-2003, 09:49 PM

OH Kellie i am so sorry. I hope everything goes well for that baby. and ramble all you want dear. you made perfect sense to me.

**MANDERS** · 01-09-2003, 11:11 PM

You made perfect sence to me too! I would've done the same thing.I hope things get better real soon and will pray for you and the baby.

**mrscornbread** · 01-09-2003, 11:17 PM

Kellie, I admire you so much for what you do. You are the voice of the voiceless. I see kids everyday at the school that I work at that I just want to take home and wash off and put them in my bed and hug them and read to them and then kiss them goodnight. There are so many children who have absoluetly NO ONE to take care or love them. I thank you for all you do for those voiceless babies, Stay strong, do what your heart tells you to do. Much love to you!

**Sara Noel** · 01-09-2003, 11:25 PM

Kellie, I am starting to cry reading your post. I don't understand how they can place a child back into an abusive/neglectful situation. I would think they would want a transition of supervised visits first. I'm so sorry.
I admire you so much. I'm thinking about you. I can't even begin to imagine the strength this must take.

**grneyegrl** · 01-09-2003, 11:58 PM

hay wait..this is the same agency that let those three boys suffer..one of them dying...hum...id call the state and remind them..its so unfair..you are right , no one thinks of the kids..i bet she is on welfare too.and really wants the kid for money...i have seen this happen so many times

**Daphne** · 01-10-2003, 04:39 PM

I'm so sorry this has happened but I'm glad you are standing up for this. I'm going to keep all of you in my prayers. Please keep us updated on the situation.

**captclearance** · 01-10-2003, 07:06 PM

Originally posted by heaven
OH Kellie i am so sorry. I hope everything goes well for that baby. and ramble all you want dear. you made perfect sense to me.

Hugs to you Kellie !!!!!

**Heather** · 01-10-2003, 08:22 PM

Thank you SO much for what you do, Elida is one lucky little girl to have you looking after her and her best interests. I will be praying for you and Elida and sending you ((((HUGS))) Stay strong and know that you are such a blessing to these children who have no voice!!