Update..

[mtjsmom]

Well as i feared i lost the pregnancy. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. I will be ok..I just thank god that it happened early. It does help. It also helps that I keep telling myself that something was wrong and nothing I did couldve saved it and i didnt do anything to cause it. God works in very mysterious ways. It really is strange. I was so surprised when we found out . I took like 6 tests to confirm. And then this....
Has anyone lost a pregnancy early like this and went on to have a normal pregnancy.. I am scared to death to even try. I really want to have a baby now, I'm just affraid of this. I would like to try in the summer. And shoot for a spring baby. So that gives me several months to regroup, heal and decide if this is what i want. I will be 35 this April so if i'm gonna do this it needs to be realitively soon..any older moms out there?
Thanks for letting me ramble on...

[mustang80]

I'm so sorry to hear that. to you! I had DD3 when I was 34, I'm 35 now. You're right about God working in mysterious ways. You'll get through this and when you regroup and relax, you'll be fine.

[homesteadmamma]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. You are so right, God works in mysterious ways and I know that He'll be with you at this time.

{{{{{hugs}}}}} cj

[Darlene]

I'm so sorry. {{Big hug to you and your sweetie.}}

[2cutekids]

I am so sorry! Your loss must be devestating. I have a good friend that lost a child. The doctor told her that this sometimes happens when something has gone awry with the fetus. I know that right now this is little consulation to you. BTW, my friend conceived about 5 mos later and had a healthy baby girl. I was 33 when I had my DS.

[MJsLady]

I am sorry!
I have never been through this. I was lucky to get 2 healthy children. At my age (38) I would not want anymore. I kist do not have the patience I once did for small children. (some days my teens are almost too much for me!)
If you decide to add to your family, I pray you have a happy time of it!

[Sara Noel]

I am so sorry.
I miscarried my first baby in 1999. I miscarried in the first trimester and it was very early on. My dr. gave me the green light to try again as soon as I had a normal cycle. I became pregnant almost right away and my pregnancy was smooth.

It was a very painful time for me. I was torn between grieving and thinking I was lucky that it happened so early in the pregnancy. The thing is that the timing of a miscarriage doesn't make it any less painful. It's been a few years and I still hurt about it.

A part of me wanted to blame myself-blame anyone. I honestly knew better, but was filled with so much pain. I just never thought something like that could or would happen to me. Right after my miscarriage, I left my career and changed practically everything in my life. My point is I guess, that loss is loss. Don't deny yourself the grieving. For me the loss was a long journey and I am so thankful to the person who told me to cry and allow myself to grieve.

I'm thinking about you.

**edited to add** I'll be 34 this year and just had my little one. I am hoping to be blessed with another child someday.

[babynurse]

I am so sorry. I know you will be okay though...you are a strong woman. I agree with Sara, give yourself permission to just grieve. I haven't been in your situation, but when my relationship broke up I grieved for the children I realized I wasn't going to have with my then-fiance....it is still a loss, no matter how early in the pregnancy it happened. Thinking of you, hugs.

[mommy2three]

i am sooooo sorry for your loss!! it just wasn't this little angels time to be here. i hope that you will not give up and will try again in the summer!!! good luck to you. you are in my thoughts!

[mfedor]

I too had a miscarriage before my first child. I felt like my whole world was crumbling around me. It took me a year to conceive the first. I conceived my oldest about 5 mos afterward and I just had my third 6 mos ago at 34. The funny part of it was, it took so long the first time I didn't think I could ever get pregnant again. The last two came so fast that all DH and I had to do is look at each other and *poof* I was pregnant.

Don't give up.

[heaven]

I am so sorry. hang in there. things will work out. it will take some time. Not only did i lose one it was a twin to my son and i did get pregant again after and have my darling daughter. so it can happen.

[SewCrafty]

mtjsmom, you have my deepest sympathy.

[heavensent_7]

I am really sorry that you lost your baby.

I read your first post and I was unable to answer because I lost my 3rd pregnancy, I started to bleed at 8 weeks and continued, at 16 weeks contractions started and at 21 weeks my waters broke and I had to give birth. The thing was there was a girl in hospital with me who also bled at 8 weeks right through and had a healthy baby so I knew that there IS hope.

I really do feel for you at this time.

I got instantly pregnant again (my 4th) and at 8 weeks started to bleed!!! I was petrified that the same thing would happen to me again and so soon. I did lose a baby at that stage but like heaven it was one of twins and the rest of the pregnancy carried on as normal. (so my 3rd living child)

Since then I have had another 2 uncomplicated pregnancy's - my last child is just 2 (3 next month) and I am 37.

I wish you healing, peace and a happier time in the future if you would like to talk to me please just mail me anytime.

[KathiS]

So sorry to hear of your loss. Bless you.

[CountryMom]

I am so sorry for your loss.