Ok Moms of teen boys, 15-17 help

**MJsLady** · 01-23-2003, 01:15 PM

How in the world do you get them to go to bed at decent times and get up ON time for school?
I think I am the only one that has to stand in their doors and repeat "I am leaving in 10 minutes get up now and get dressed!"
DH stats waking them betwen 530 and 6. I get up around 630 and it takes me at least 30 minute to see their eyes flutter!
They claim they go to bed at 12.
What are they ever gonna do on their own????
They both have alarms they set for 5, which if we do not turn off are still going when we leave at 710!
GGRRRRRR

Edited, ummm I hope NO one has ten boys in this age group!

**Rhonda** · 01-23-2003, 01:22 PM

I have a son that will be 16 next week. Bedtime is at 10:00 on school nights and then whenever on weekends. He doesn't like to get up, but I turn his light on and insist he gets up at 6:30 on school mornings. So far, so good. He sometimes tries to push the bedtime for a few minutes of the news, etc... and that is ok occasionally. He's a great kid, straight A's, holds a part-time job, and is on the Academic Team, Debate Team, and Science Quiz Bowl Team. I am very blessed and realize what I have is probably an exception and not the norm. Just make them realize you're the mom and still in charge no matter how old they are!

**dolphin** · 01-23-2003, 01:31 PM

My ds is 16. We've always kept a 9:00 bedtime during school nights.

I know he doesn't go to sleep at 9:00 but he is resting, watching a little tv or listening to music. He has trouble going to sleep alot but he is still resting.

On weekends he stays up till whenever.

Sometimes he is still hard to wake up but lots of times he is up, showered and dressed before our alarm goes off.

I think teenagers have wierd sleep patterns just because of all that is going on inside them. When I was a teenager I had the same sleep pattern your boys have and on Saturdays I would sleep in untill 1:00. Kind of catching up on my sleep. Can't do that anymore.

**guest2** · 01-23-2003, 03:12 PM

I have 3 boys ages 13, 13, and 15. We "try" to have them start heading for bed around 9 p.m. most school nights, but they end up getting there around 10 p.m. most nights. Since we homeschool, I get them up around 7 a.m., but there are many mornings that they are up earlier than I am. The rule here is that they have to get all their schoolwork and chores done before they can go do something with friends or watch tv later in the afternoon.

Blessings!

**sunshine** · 01-23-2003, 06:42 PM

Mine can go to bed at whatever time they choose- however, I will only call them once! If they continue to sleep past that they will go to bed at 10:30 PM, if that still doesn't get them up on time, they will be required to go to bed at 10:00 PM- and so forth , until we find a time that they can wake up reasonably easy.

So far- no problems and mine are 18, 16 and 13.

**Katybird** · 01-27-2003, 04:23 PM

I have a DS 17 and DD who will be 16 on Wednesday and we have the same problem here. They are not as bad with me about getting up but on the days that I work and DH has to get them up it is not pretty. They stay in bed and yell through the door, I am getting up. Of course they aren't, and then when he is walking out the door to work, they are just getting up and around. It is so hard to force them into bed at this age, but we are going to start grounding for not getting up and around in the mornings. If they are late for school and have to have a tardy slip then they are going to be grounded the next weekend. I am hoping that will motivate them to get their little backsides out of the bed in the mornings. I wish I had some better advice.

Blessings,
Kathy

**Belinda** · 01-27-2003, 04:57 PM

We gave our son an alarm clock when he was around 11 or so, and he is responsible for getting himself up, which he is very good at. Occasionally if I don't see any lights or action coming from his room, I'll go wake him up. As far as bedtime, the rule here is turn off the computer and off of the phone by 10 pm. Oh, I forgot to mention, he's 16.

**heaven** · 01-27-2003, 05:41 PM

Okay well my son is going to be 14 in a couple of weeks, I have had this problem since he started school. He has to go to bed at 8 because he will not get up if he doesn't. This morning his little sister yelled to him 5 times and she was getting really really MAD

i refuse to yell more than once. at his age he needs to take some responsablity for himself.
BTW Keiko who willl be 16 next week

is the same way so it isn't just boys. Hang in there.
*Thank god i have one child who will get out of bed on her own.*

**PrairieRose** · 01-27-2003, 11:50 PM

Ok in some states this would be considered child abuse.....my ddad always had a secret weapon. He would throw a glass of cold water in your face if he had to call you twice. THAT will do it fur sure! Do you guys remember that commercial where the kid was dreaming something silly...can't even remember what now. His brother/dad/roommate/whatever stood at the foot of the bed and screamed at the top of his lungs WAKE UP PETE!!!!!! ??? Anyone remember that? Well when our foreign exchange student wouldn't get up in the mornings I would do that on about the 3rd try. Now THAT would get him up

. I would say 1st call Wake up. 2nd call Wake UP. 3rd call WAKE UP PETE!!!! and he would look like that cat in the cartoons that jumps up and hangs on the ceiling. No joke, got to where he would always get up on 2nd call. My own kids knew better than to mess with me....they KNEW I would use the ice cold water trick, never ever had to do more than tell em about it and laugh.