A little miffed..and hurt

**babynurse** · 01-29-2003, 12:11 PM

I posted a little while ago about my ex having health problems and to pray for him. Well, I haven't heard from him since! He tells ME that HE wants US to be friends..which I was TRYING to do (trying to be supportive and caring) and then this? I called him on the weekend and left a message to please call me back and let me know what was happening, that I was concerned and nothing! What if he is in the hospital or something? Oh well, I am hurt and upset...he used to be so caring..now he is so cold. I just wish he could have even told his parents to let me know if everything was okay or not, if he couldn't. It's just common courtesy you know? There, I vented. Thanks. I guess I just have to let him live his life...I think he's made it pretty clear he doesn't want me in it. So thank you for the prayers and well wishes, but apparently this person doesn't feel he needs outside support.

**Daphne** · 01-29-2003, 12:24 PM

I think one day you guys can be friends again but probably not for awhile. I don't know the whole situation on why you broke up but even though he decided to do it I'm sure that he still hurts. But you are right - he did contact you to let you know about his medical problem so of course you are going to worry and since HE made the effort to let you know what is going on I think that common courtesy is to let you know the status of his situation. I hope he's not in the hospital but if he is (his problem was pretty serious) maybe that is why he didn't call back. Knowing how I am, I first would secretly call the hospitals in his area to find out if he is there (I'm sneaky sometimes)

. I would do this for piece of mind for myself because I would be worried. Then if I hadn't heard from him in a couple more days I would try one more time his house or his parents home to check on him. If you don't speak to him or hear back from him then I would be done with it. I hope this makes sense...I have a million things going on right now!!

**babynurse** · 01-29-2003, 12:27 PM

Yes, it makes sense! It's just hard to let go. I will call him one more time, then if he doesn't respond, I'll call his parents. After that, I am done. Thanks, sometimes you just need to hear it from someone else.

**PrairieRose** · 01-29-2003, 12:41 PM

Theresa it's always hardest in the beginning of the total separation. Most people are confused concerning the other person so he may not quite know how to handle his feelings either. I would work hard at showing concern without seeming "clingy". It's a fine line but if you work really hard at it I'm sure it can be done. You have to show him a certain amount of detachment......jmho. It's kinda hard to look at someone's back side and read their mind, isn't it? ((((((hugs))))))

**AmyBoz** · 02-01-2003, 08:53 AM

Letting go is hard, but I know you can and you will. I'll be thinking about you.

**faith17** · 02-06-2003, 05:40 PM

I heard about this book by the name of "girlfriends guide to surviveing a breakup" . I hear it is great I am shure you can get it at any book store . I really hope things work out for the best for you.