fertility treatments

**sixfreds** · 03-05-2003, 01:19 PM

I was reading the older mom's what do you think thread and thought I would start mine own thread...

What do you think about fertility clinics and treatments?
I am curious what poeple think about this issue...

I will post my thoughts after I see what some others have to say about them.

Eileen

**bamamomto4** · 03-05-2003, 01:39 PM

I know alot of women that have only been able to have children by having treatments. I myself have been on Clomid (fert pill) twice...Took one month to get pregnant with Katie and 7 with Jackson. Thats why there's such a huge age gap between Ashley and Katie. We tried for years with no luck.
My Dr even told me my chances of conceiving on my own were not very good and would likely never happen....Needless to say he was just as surprised as we were this time

**MANDERS** · 03-05-2003, 05:25 PM

My lil brother wouldn't be here if it wasn't for fertility treatments.My step mom was on them for 2 years before she got pregnant with him.Then when he turned one she found out she was pregnant again with no treatments(not on purpose either lol)So now we have 2 lil blessings.

**sixfreds** · 03-06-2003, 08:05 AM

I was wondering becuase I used them and I was wondering how poeple feel about the issue, We took meds and did treatments for 4 years..

We have the triplets and they wouldn't be here if not for treatment help but when we go out I am asked if we used "drugs" and did fertility treatment and I get the oddest relys (like anyone has to know how we got pregnant) and I get why did you fool with mother nature, someone even told me I got what I asked for (which I smilied and said proudly yes I did) so I was curious if poeple really think that going to the extreme (and fertility treatmens can be extreme) is some how wrong..

Eileen

**SewCrafty** · 03-06-2003, 08:43 AM

Absolutely NOT Eileen!! A pox on those people!! Why some people think they have ANY right to comment on how you conceived is beyond me!

I was on fertility treatments on and off for over 8 years of the 15 we tried. The ups and downs were not very much fun and I would have continued if I had a chance, but for me there was no possibility of them ever working. My endometriosis was just too extreme. I say go for it, if it is what you truly want.

Just my 2 cents.

**bamamomto4** · 03-06-2003, 09:24 AM

Eileen-I'm so sorry some people are so rude. I've never been asked about how my kids got here only "why did you wait so long" Our family knows I was on treatments but I guess since I never had twins or anything,no one outside of the family ask. Of course now I get the looks of "why would anyone have 4 kids..." This baby was not planned and I'd admit I was upset at first but now I can't believe I ever was.I tried for sooo many years to get pg and now I'm being blessed without any kinds of fert drugs. I don't want this baby to grow up and hear "you weren't wanted" or " you weren't planned.." We DO want this baby very much and we both are excited about adding another little girl to our family

The emotional roller coaster of TTC and never getting pg is one of the hardest things a woman can go through.
I remember trying every month and then getting the BFN..I would cry for days on end.....next month..I'd start all over. I did this for 7 years

I feel bad for any woman going through this.I've been there and it's h*ll.

**seadream** · 03-06-2003, 09:45 AM

I am currently going through fertilty treatments and taking Clomid.
We have been TTC since we got married 12 years ago and nothing. We went to a doctor a few years back and found out the problem..dh has no sperm count...so we tried to live with the fact that we would never have children.
But I realized that I can not go through this life without having at least one child and dh feels the same way, so we went back to the dr to find out what are options were.
We thought about adoption, but since I really want a child of my own we have decided to go with donor sperm.
Dh may not be the biological father techinally but in our hearts he will be.

We are currently going through our 3rd month of treatments and it is a roller coaster of emtions. I really thought the treatment had worked last month but no it did not. So, I go Monday again for insemation.

So, I'm adding more to Eileen's question...what do you think about using donor sperm, donor eggs or surrogate mothers?

**bamamomto4** · 03-06-2003, 10:48 AM

seadream... I knew you had been ttc but I really didn't know why you couldn't get pg. I'm sooo sorry it's taking you so long and I hope you and your dh finally get that baby you both want.
I know the emotional roller coaster is rough,but hang in there and I hope it happens for you soon

Good Luck Monday!

**sixfreds** · 03-06-2003, 06:27 PM

It is such a roller coaster ride the ups and downs of treatment, we tried for 4 years (which is small compared to some people) had a miscarriage in the 1st year of trying BUT it is a rough thing to go through. I wouldn't change my outcome having triplets, it is hard BUT we manage and I can't imagine my life without all 4 of my kids.........

seadream, I think that is a decision each couple have to make on their own.. I personally think as long as it is a legal thing than it is okay if you feel comfortable and I don't think there is anything "wrong" with going out and doing everything possible to fulfill a dream of having a baby..I think doing whatever means are necessary than that is fine whether or not it is using a donor (either sperm or egg) or a surrogate, if you want a family and have trouble there are advanced ways of doing it and if you are comfortable with them then I think you should, I know lots of people who did it with donors since they were unable to use their eggs or sperm (for what ever reason).. I think your children are your children whether or not you were lucky and you were able to conceive easily or if you needed treatment or medicine or if you needed a donor or if you adopt all depends on how you and your husband feel about it.. I would have used a donor or a surrogate if I had to..

I know we were lucky and it did happen for us BUT I would have done everything in my power to have a baby and I think unless you were there you can't even understand how tough it is emotionally every month..

Yes I get the "look what you did" "you had to mess with mother nature" "are they real or did you use fertility treatments" like the aren't real if you go through treatments, we have even gotten how dare you fill this world with babies to fill a need you had, well WE support these kids with no outside help so I think it is no-one's business how we were blessed with the triplets, some people are just so rude.. Some people think just because we have multiples they have the "right" to ask about how we "got" them...

I hope anyone who is going through treatments will get lucky and I hope it will happen for you soon... I have been there and through that so I will be thinking of you..

Eileen

**PrairieRose** · 03-07-2003, 12:59 PM

I think it's a person's personal decision whether or not to use fertility treatments. I know of lots of families that wouldn't have children if not for them and I can see what a blessing they have been. It's extremely rude and thoughtless for someone to comment on this to you. You know what you a blessing your babies are, so nevermind the small minds.

**mylittle4** · 03-07-2003, 01:30 PM

I can not imagine the things you all have gone through. When we were TTC with #4 it took a year, but I did not have any treatments. Only because it was to be our 4th and I truly felt I would get pregnant. I think there is nothing wrong with some help or sperm or egg donation. Trust me biological father is just a title and it does not mean Daddy thats a whole different title that is earned. You women are very couragous to do such a thing to bring children into this world, and how you do it is no one's business.