Do you think that good old fashioned "disagreements" are good for a relationship

[homesteadmamma]

I always say the fun part is making up, but I also think they are healthy as well, as long as they don't become commonplace every single day.

I love a good old fashioned disagreement. We use to have them on a fairly regular basis, because dh and I are as black and white as night and day. We've come to a point now where we compromise lots and know when to agree to disagree, so there aren't nearly as many as there use to be.

Do you think they are good or should we just agree all the time in a relationship.

[mrscornbread]

Yes, necessary evils in my life that keep things going in my favor

[AmyMCGS]

I think it's very healthy to have disagreements.

I wonder about couples who always agree... I think one of them must be giving in all the time, and worry about the day that finally gets old and that person explodes!

DH and I used to be polar opposites, and we fought like cats and dogs the whole first year we dated. Our friends got tired of being around us because we fought about politics, religion, all kinds of things... all the time. Now, after eleven years together, we agree a lot more-- but, we still have very spirited debates from time to time about anything from politics to household stuff.

[Sara Noel]

I refer to Gabe and myself as The Bickersons. We are always bickering. We're just so different on so many things. It's not a fight because no one is mad, but it's always something.

I'm happy he has an opinion though. I don't want to be with someone that agrees to just agree or agrees because they don't have their own opinion or doesn't want to speak it.

There are times that I wonder what it would be like to be with someone that saw things my way more often though.

[captclearance]

I think that opposites do attract, and that means differences of opinion.... I think to share different opinions and to be able to freely speak your mind is essential. However, I think if it is disrespectful then it is not healthy.... Differences should not have to mean fight.... Respect is a key ingredient !!!!!!

[PrairieRose]

Disagreements are great if everyone plays fair and stays on topic. I have, in the past been the one to sling mud.....I'm sorry to say. Now I worry about staying on target if and when we have a friendly disagreement.