What is a common fight that reoccurs in your marriage?

[Sara Noel]

Gabe and I have fights that get resolved and we have fights that seem to just reoccur at times.

I'm very sensitive to his mother interfering.

I feel lucky that Gabe puts our family first, but she has often been the source of fights. I'm hoping this area in our marriage improves with time.

I find that I am also sensitive about how I want things down now and he doesn't seem to mind letting something go for however long until he feels like doing something. YET it seems when it's something he wants to do or would like me to do...it's somehow done immediately. grrrr I'd really like to work on how I feel about this too. I mean it is really small stuff in the overall scheme of things.

I wish that I could just let it go and sometimes I do, but I usually get so frustrated with the whole situation.

[Missy]

His parents. Specifically his mother's interfering and his father's drinking. I can't deal with it, and it is how he grew up so he knows no different.

[frugalmel]

Money. spending it vs saving it. who's spending it, etc.

[Dixie]

I find that I am also sensitive about how I want things down now and he doesn't seem to mind letting something go for however long until he feels like doing something.

I have the same problem! My dh's biggest problem is putting things off. I get so frustrated! We no longer argue, because I've found over the years that nagging doesn't work.
Another thing is, he wants to buy a Harley. I found the money could better be spent on the house. This argument has been going on for a long time. He used to have a very nice Triumph. I hated riding it,though. I shouldn't complain, he's a great guy. This is our major issue.

[lucy979]

Money. He likes to spend it all and then gripe because we don't have that much saved.

[homesteadmamma]

It has to be the same as Sara and Dixie - he continually puts things off. After almost 36 years though, I've learnt to just let it go most days. Get me when I'm in a bad mood though and poor dh!!! It always gets done, just not in my timing.

[Katybird]

It has to be money for us. I would like to save more and he is sure that there is nothing to save and wants to spend spend spend. . It drives me bonkers!

[PrairieRose]

Dh and I rarely ever have cross words but if we do it's over something very stupid like his not carrying out the trash when I want him to or something small. Gosh in the early years we fought like cats and dogs......I really got tired of that and vowed to change it. Now I mostly just let the little things slide and happy to do it.

[doodlebug]

His mother is usually the only thing that causes friction between us, we rarely argue.

[AmyMCGS]

His grandmother is the most frequent cause of arguments around here-- he will drop everything to run down to her house and do something she needs, but it might take him a week to change a lightbulb on the front porch (that's the one I can't reach- usually I just give up waiting on him and do most things myself!). Grrrrrr.....

[gkp1031]

Mike and I aren't married, but we've been together for 10 1/2 years, we rarely have major fights. But, when we do have a disagreement, its usually about money--saving (me) or spending (him) on something that really isn't necessary.

[mrscornbread]

We fight over he kids, he does not agree with the way I "let them run all over me" (that is what he calls it) Maybe to him it is, but he holds grudges for a while. I forgive these darn brats before they ever screw up. I was a kid too, sometimes I think my dh skipped that stage until he argues "they think I was never that age!"

oh well, he cant be all perfect right?

[KKCondrey]

Money here as well.

[Mom23boys]

If we have an argument it is over DS#1. DH and disagree on how to raise him. AND I think DS#1 plays us against each other to start these arguments.

[seadream]

Money. I want to save it and he wants to spend it