Did you have good marriage role models?

**lucy979** · 12-28-2003, 04:30 PM

My mom and dad were divorced before I was a year old. My mom didn't remarry until 2 years ago. I really didn't have anybody to look to as to how a marriage worked. Dh didn't either.

When we got married we just kind of winged it. How about you?

**Sara Noel** · 12-28-2003, 04:37 PM

My parents were about the worst role models. lol My grandparents had a decent working marriage though.

**AmyBoz** · 12-28-2003, 04:40 PM

No, I did NOT have good role models for marriage or parenting, for that matter. Dh's mother died when he was six and his father raised all four children by himself and never remarried, so he doesn't really have marriage role models either. Parenting-wise, his father was tops. I am always amazed at how well our marriage and our family works, despite our upbringing.

**Heather** · 12-28-2003, 05:14 PM

My parents were/are wonderful role models. They have such respect for each other.

**Shell** · 12-28-2003, 05:14 PM

Hmmmmm. My dad was a very violent drinker. Beat the crap out of my Mom all the time. She couldn't take it and started taking pills and then drinking too. I'll go with bad role models.

I am very blessed that dh and I get a long so well. I now live in a very peaceful home.

**KKCondrey** · 12-28-2003, 06:47 PM

I alway's thought my parents were good rold models even after they divorced. When they were together they seemed like the perfect couple.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 12-28-2003, 06:51 PM

My dad is very domineering and has always had my mom under his thoumb. I refused to be treated the same way. My DH is absolutely wonderful. We recently celebrated out 22nd anniversary and have been together 25 years.

His parents are still together (as are mine). In this day and age, it is very rare to see this! DH's parents have a wonderful relationship and have been together over forty years.

**PrairieRose** · 12-28-2003, 09:21 PM

My parents have been married for over 50 yrs. but they still bicker constantly. I think it's a habit and they really don't know another way to relate to each other......I get really tired of it....

**Dixie** · 12-28-2003, 11:00 PM

I had horrible role models. My ddad was an alcoholic and my dmom is mentally ill. They fought constantly. Well, actually, they were great role models on how *not* to behave.

Dfil is a retired military officer who rose through the ranks. He was a Drill Instructor at Ft. Benning and had a real tough guy attitude. He ruled his family with an iron fist.
Now, I think they (dmil and dfil) are great role models. My heart melts when I see them praying the Rosary together. Dfil has mellowed a great deal and sends dmil flowers, 'For no reason'. He teaches Bible classes and has really changed his attitude. This has influenced my dh, which in turn is good for me.

It's God's amazing grace!

**heavensent_7** · 12-28-2003, 11:10 PM

I had perfect role models for marriage and I've been married 3 times.

**guest2** · 12-28-2003, 11:14 PM

My parents and my hubby's parents are still married and still very much in love! I've watched my parents go through some really rough times that would have torn other couples apart, but they worked through it. That speaks volumes to me!!!!

**slowtypinwoman** · 12-29-2003, 10:50 AM

I don't think I could have asked for better role models. Mom and Dad have been married for 60 years this coming Sept. Mom took care of dad and all 6 of us girls with the power of Super mom before there ever was such a thing. Now that she has been ill for the last 10 years it is touching to see the tables have turned. Dad takes wonderful care of her now.
I only hope that Michael and I will fare as well. I suposse my mom wanted to kill my dad at times too. LOL
Michael is a wonderful man and a great husband and father. And I am lucky to have him.

**sunshine** · 12-29-2003, 12:34 PM

My parents will be married 50 years on Jan. 1- they fight a lot, and love even more. They taught me it's ok to be mad at someone you love- you just have to know how to make up, and what's worth fighting over.

His parents will be married 54 years on Jan. 8. They are the typical farm couple who have spent their lives living and working together. They answer each other's sentences and seemingly communicate without speaking.

My maternal grandparents were married over 40 years before my grandmother died. Again- great examples of loving, forgiving, and wonderful childrearing/parenting skills.

My paternal grandparents were married over 40 years as well, but extemely disfunctional. Alcoholics who were abusive to their kids, and each other. I am always amazed at how soft spoken and gentle my father is- knowing the environment who was raised.

**Mom23boys** · 12-29-2003, 01:07 PM

Not at all. My mom had been married 5 times. She always seemed to pick an abusive man except for this last one and they have been married 15 years. My dad was never a part of my life from 4 years until I was 15. No role model there.

The only role model I had was my maternal grandparents. They were married for 49 years until they both passed away. My grandmother took wonderful care of my grandfather who was bedridden.

DH's mom and dad were also divorced when he was 5. His dad up and left them to go to work one day and never returned. He would visit them once every 2 or 3 years. His mom has been married to his stepdad for over 30 years.

I guess we have just learned to wing it too. DH said he doesn't want to be like his dad and I sure don't want to put my kids through what my mom put me through.

**Katybird** · 12-29-2003, 10:10 PM

Weatherford 65th December 29, 2003

Mr. and Mrs. Weatherford

Mr. and Mrs. Melvin Weatherford celebrated their 65th wedding anniversary Christmas Day with a reception at Texhoma Christian Care Center. Hosts were their children, Dorothy Black and Robert Weatherford, both of Wichita Falls, Mary Mock of Aledo, Texas, and Doris Russell of Sunset, Texas, and family.

Weatherford, a native of Munson, Texas, and Oleta Belew of Royce City, Texas, were married Dec. 24, 1938, in Terrell, Texas.

Weatherford was a policeman and owned an upholstery shop before his retirement in 1979. He is a member of the Masonic Lodge and Levis and Lace Square Dance Club.

Mrs. Weatherford is a homemaker.

The couple are members of Westside Baptist Church. They have 30 grandchildren.

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My parents were horrible role models for marriage, Dad had been married more times than I can count and Mom has a poor track record in the marriage department too. My grandparents above are my role models. This was their announcement from the paper yesterday. They are totally devoted to each other and always have been. I am so proud of their 65th anniversary.