last nerve!!

**Missy** · 01-02-2004, 06:05 PM

Today has been rough. The boys had toys everywhere. so i told them to pick them up, they threw toys. it old the to stop throwing and pick the toys up, put them away. they threw tantrums. I put them in time out. time out they complained moaned and wouldn't be quiet, so they got corners. "i hate you, i don't have to be in the corner, you can't make me"......kicking, screaming, trying to hit me, etc. so anyway they finished time in corners, so back to cleaning hte mess...they hit each other with toys and broke their toys, so last resort i took toys and put them in bags. the bags now are locked up.

what would have been a better way to deal with this, remember one child isn't mine

**heavensent_7** · 01-02-2004, 06:24 PM

Awwww

Kids know how to press the wrong buttons don't they

I would (have tried

- not the most patient woman here LOL) to tell them calmly that time out was going to continue until they shut up and behaved and then totally ignored them.

Although this doesn't work on Charlie

I tell him now if you continue to do x then I will do y (whatever I've decided will pee him off) and I only tell him ONCE then I quitely get up and do it.

It's taking a longgggggg time (he's VERY difficult) but he's getting the idea that I do actually mean it now

Good Luck Melissa. xxxxx

**AmyMCGS** · 01-02-2004, 06:44 PM

It sounds to me like you were doing the right things-- I don't have any advice, just wanted to send you some hugs!

**guest2** · 01-02-2004, 06:59 PM

It sounds like the kids need to time apart from each other also. I'm sure it's hard having another family stay with you for an extended period of time. How much longer will you have them??? If it is going to be for awhile, you and the parents of the other child need to get together and decide on consequences for these kinds of behaviors for both boys.

mean time..here are some

for you!

**mrscornbread** · 01-02-2004, 07:30 PM

Oh Melissa, been there done that...it gets better, hang in there!

**frugalmel** · 01-02-2004, 11:59 PM

I hate those kinda days

**Mom23boys** · 01-03-2004, 03:59 PM

Oh Melissa I am sorry you are having such a bad day.

I would have given them a choice, either you pick up the toys and put them away nicely OR I will pick them up and take toss them out.

If they see you actually throwing their toys away, next time you give them this choice I bet they will start helping.

*If you don't want to actually throw them away, put them up for an indefinite time....say, until the other child moves out.

How much longer would that be??

**Missy** · 01-03-2004, 04:19 PM

the toys are locked up now. They can try to earn them back with better behaviour. I don't know how much longer they will be here. I know that it will be at least a week or so more. Don't get me wrong, i love having them here, but when the boys get something in their minds........

Thanks everyone for the encouragement and hugs! I sure needed it!