What little things do you do each day to let you hubby or SO know you love them?

**guest2** · 01-09-2004, 01:45 PM

I was just thinking about my hubby and how much I absolutely love and adore that man of mine. We'll be married for 19 years in March and I can honestly say I am more in love with him today than I was even yesterday.

I realize that one of the things that keeps our marriage strong through the rough spots (and every relationship has them) is that we try to do little things for each other. I know that sometimes we get caught up in the "what has he done for me" mindset, when we really should be thinking about "what can I do today for him to make his day a bit brighter".

Here are a few things I try to do daily (I don't always do them all, but try to do at least a few) to help him know that I am thinking about him:
~I always give him a goodbye kiss and tell him I love him in the morning.
~Cuddle up next to him at night and tell him I love him.
~Ask him if there is anything he needs me to do for him that day.
~Ask him what he wants for dinner in the coming week.
~Spend the first 20 minutes or so when he arrives home listening to him about how his day went.
~Hand him his towel as he gets out of the shower.
~Compliment him on at least one thing each day.
~Snuggle with him on the couch at night.
~Call him at work just to let him know how much I love him.

How about you? What do you try to do daily to let your spouse/SO know how much you care for them?

**Missy** · 01-09-2004, 02:53 PM

i e-page "i love you" into his cell phone
i end each phone call with "i love you"
hugs, kisses
make the kids leave him alone when he is nappin

**lucy979** · 01-09-2004, 03:09 PM

I try to meet him at the door when he gets home.

I always kiss him goodbye and tell him to have a good day.

I could do more. I need to work on that.

**simplemom** · 01-09-2004, 04:00 PM

We hug everyday...in the morning, in the afternoon and in the evening!

If it's not me who goes towards him, it's him who comes towards me....we are like magnets!

Since Pierre is not a big talker, when he does talk, I really listen!

I sometimes make him breakfast...eggs and all or pancakes.

I let him sleep in the morning on week-ends and he does the same for me.

I let him have time alone when he feels like playing his guitare...I try to make sure the kids are busy and don't invade his time alone. (that's a tough one---the boys LOVE to go play music with him)

We hold hands alot...

We snuggle when we watch tv together...

**guest2** · 01-09-2004, 04:02 PM

Oh, I wish DH's cell phone had the e page thingy so I could do that with my DH.

I'd have to be careful not to get carrried away and epage him something that I didn't want others to see though!

**Missy** · 01-09-2004, 05:58 PM

if he can get a text message you can e page him. DH uses nextel, so i go to www.nextel.com enter his phone and enter send a message. when he had an arch pager, i could do this at www.arch.com and he wasn't even aware he could get a text message there till i went and did it! LOL now though i can epage him a "honey do" list! LOL

**Mom23boys** · 01-09-2004, 06:51 PM

~Holding hands all the time.
~Tell him I love you before he leaves to work.
~Give him a hug and a kiss in the morning, after work and before bed.
~Snuggle on the couch.
~Lay in his arms while in bed.
~Pamper him with foot massages.

**Kimmomo3** · 01-09-2004, 09:11 PM

I don't change the locks when he is gone

I let him warm up my feet when I get in bed

I fold his laundry

I don't complain about the golf stuff all over the house(man I really hate that stuff!)

I introduce a new "relasionship enhancer" (Pure Romance product) about once to twice a month

**gkp1031** · 01-09-2004, 09:20 PM

I always tell him I love him before he leaves for work
end phone calls with love ya
hold hands all the time
listen to him when he talks about his day
don't complain when he "tweaks" his computer and breaks a part!
bake him his favorite dessert every now and then

**aylasmommy** · 01-09-2004, 09:30 PM

hmmm I could be better at this...of course not all in my list I do daily...but here's what I do:

~I make him a lunch everyday
~Bring him a blanket without him asking (or a pillow) if he looks like he could use one
~I pop the pimples he can't reach for him
~Pluck his eyebrows/push back his cuticles
~call to say i miss him while he's at work
~Make sure to have some of his favorite foods on hand even if they are expensive

Things I should do more often
Stop nagging him about reading the paper every time he eats a meal...
Start playing drums more often and ask him to play his guitar with me...
Let him take longer naps...

**canadian gardener** · 01-09-2004, 09:39 PM

I've been thinking on this one all day. Good thread!

In the morning I get up with him, offer to make breakfast, sometimes he eats, sometimes he doesn't. It's a companionable time.

I like to make him homemade muffins, he really likes those.

I give him a hug and a kiss goodbye when he leaves.

dh calls me every day around noon, and I talk with him, tell him what's for dinner. He likes that touching base, midday.

I clean the house, do the laundry, and put away his clothes, generally have it serene and tidy when he comes home. He likes that. so do I.

All the years we have been married, I try to have supper on the table within 1/2 hour of him arriving home at 4 pm. Usually manage it. He really likes that.

And something that bugged him when we were first married, I'd have a friend over, and he'd come home, and that would bother him, he just wanted his dinner, to decompress alone. It was the friend tying me up, when he just wanted dinner, and you can't heave the friend out the door that minute, nor did I feel comfortable just getting into supper prep, and sitting down to eat in front of her (although now I would).

So I began to time my visits so I wouldn't have friends over after 3;30 pm. According to dh, this is a biggy and he really feels like I'm putting him first by doing this one thing in particular.

We all have our little things that bother us. Dh and I have over the years talked stuff thru, compromised. I'll do this if you'll do that till it gets like breathing.

I generally fix him stuff he likes, and when I buy his favourite foods, he is always really happy.

He likes it when I dress up nicely and take care of my appearance.

I do tell him I love him, but I think with a lot of guys, what you do is more important than what you say, so looking over this list, it's a lot of daily actions that tell him I love him.

Some things that guard that love and also tell him I love him and he does each one of these for me too.

I don't ridicule him ever. I know that some women do that in a joking way, but their men's faces tell the story.

I don't discuss our love life with anyone ever!

I try never to embarrass him or make him feel small.

I try not to tell him what to do in front of his friends or make him look less than masculine. That would include "mothering" him in front of others.

I accept his faults without too much comment. Yes I will tell him if he needs to use a bubble level, and go get it for him when he is doing fence posts "by eye" which I hate, but he knows that is one of my bugbears.

I never make fun of his appearance. Occaisionally I will tell him, that shirt, won't go with that pr of pants, or you need to get that hair glued back down, it's sticking straight up, but I never laugh or make fun.

When he talks I try not to interrupt.

I praise him within his hearing to the children or to my friends, for his praiseworthy characteristics. I don't over do that, or make stuff up but when appropriate.

I try not to contradict him in public (not always possible-- if I have to, I try to do it and save face for him).