New baby in the house causing dilemma

**Jerseygirl** · 03-19-2004, 11:59 AM

About three weeks ago we had an 11 month old dropped off for what was supposed to be two week stay while her other foster mom recovers from surgery. It seems she will be staying longer and I am totally falling for her!! She was eating only baby food when she got here, on regular formula, had no muscle tone (had been spending too much time in high chairs etc) not walking, barely babbling etc. My pediatritian thought she was 7-8 mos old. In three weeks we have her walking 5-8 steps at a time, eating solid food, drinking out of a sippy cup and saying mama and dada and nana for banana. My dilemma now though is: the state has all intentions of giving her back to either bio mom or an uncle, so basically I am putting myself further down on the adoption list by filling my final bed with her--that's why I said yes to 2 weeks. This poor baby has been in 5 foster homes in her 11 months! But after raising Karla for 16 months then having to let her go, and how horribley hard that was for my family--even the extended family, and the school, I just don't know if I can go through it again.
What to do, what to do, what to do........Kellie

**AmyMCGS** · 03-19-2004, 12:16 PM

Oh, I wish I knew what to tell you.... I don't, but I'm sending big

your way!

My DD is exactly the same age, and they are learning so much and such fun right now. I'll pray that God sends you some guidance!

**lucy979** · 03-19-2004, 12:21 PM

I wish I had some advice for you. Here is a big

from me.

**guest2** · 03-19-2004, 12:40 PM

That's such a hard spot to be in. This baby needs you now and yet you also need to do what is right for you and your family. My prayers are with you .

**paelthom** · 03-19-2004, 12:43 PM

Real big hug Kellie. I wish I had some advice but I don't. My heart goes out to you and to that baby.

**Guest1** · 03-19-2004, 01:42 PM

Originally posted by karlisangel
Oh Kellie~ what a terribly hard decision. But I know you love chidlren and I know you will make the right decision for that beauty. Hugs to you

Poor dear - both of you....big, big hugs for you sweetie....

**Michelle** · 03-19-2004, 01:48 PM

Originally posted by paelthom
Real big hug Kellie. I wish I had some advice but I don't. My heart goes out to you and to that baby.

**BlessedMommy** · 03-19-2004, 01:50 PM

Bless your heart! You have been such a blessing to that little one! No advice here, but prayers for wisdom and peace.

**dz_blonde_girl** · 03-19-2004, 02:05 PM

Oh Kellie, it must be hard giving your whole heart to these babies knowing someday they will leave you. Hospice is similar. We have resources to prepare the families and ourselves for the loss.

I say take as good of care of this baby as you can for as long as you can, and find a support group. You're not alone.

Great big bunches of

for the wonderful things you do! You and your dh are special people.

**Jayne** · 03-19-2004, 02:21 PM

That has to be so difficult

**Dixie** · 03-19-2004, 03:48 PM

No advice, but I so admire what you do.

**Darlene** · 03-19-2004, 03:57 PM

Sending you wishes for strength and wisdom Kellie. Big hug too

Wish I could help more...

**duckduckgoose007** · 03-19-2004, 04:08 PM

Wish this "Oldster' had some good advise for you Kellie. It is very hard not to let your heart get involved. I wish you Wisdom & Grace to make the right decision for all envolved.