A Strong Marraige

**SusieJD** · 03-25-2004, 09:42 AM

I'm the wife of an "Over-The-Road" truck driver. He's usually gone for 2 weeks at a time. But because of recent repairs on his truck and an accident costing us over $650/wk., he's been out for over a month now. This will continue until sometime in May or June. We do talk on the phone, but not as often as we did before these incident occured. We have to cut back in order to pay our other bills. Today, there was no check and I had to borrow from our savings again to pay the bills. Our savings is down to almost nothing now.

It's lonely here in the woods, and I wish that all of this had not happened. I find myself (not on purpose) blaming him for this and often get angry. I don't express these thoughts to DH because I know that he feels as badly about it as I do. I just keep thinking that in a year, this will all be behind us.

We have a strong marriage and I know that we'll get through this, but sometimes I can't bare the lonelyness it's creating. I've been doing a lot of crying lately and come here to get my mind off our problems. I'm also so lonely that there are days that I drive into town just to talk to and be around people. I go to church on Sundays and talk to people there and invite them to our home, but very few ever come.

Just wondering if I can get some support to help me through this. My family are helpfull, they call but are too far away to come over. And the ecnomy is so bad, they're working as hard as they can just to keep up, never mind a vaction to see me.

Susie in MN

**Julia Kimber** · 03-25-2004, 09:50 AM

Oh Susie, I am really upset to see you like this. I wish I could do more, but I am here to offer support as I know all your other wonderful friends at the village are!

Julia

**guest2** · 03-25-2004, 09:58 AM

Susie. Oh honey, I understand. When things were bad work wise over on this side of the state, my hubby and the construction company he works for headed over to the Seattle area to work for a few months. It was horrible! Finances were so tight. We used up all our savings, maxed out the credit cards just to buy groceries and pay bills and I was so lonely! Luckily my friend Cheri and I got together with the kids (her hubby owns the company DH works for and was gone also) for meals, just to talk and took the kids down to the river to play and swim. I tried to keep myself as busy as I could and did some extra volunteer work to get my mind of "me" and onto helping others. I needed to be around people!!! I spent hours at the library with the kids and we all worked in the garden quite a bit. My house was very clean because I had lots of spare time.
I understand how hard it is. Try and reach out by doing some volunteer work. See if your church needs things done during the week that you could help with. Maybe volunteer at an animal shelter if you have one near you. Those dogs and cats need lots of love and you may just make a few new friends both 2 legged and 4 legged there!

**SusieJD** · 03-25-2004, 09:59 AM

Thank you Julia. This is such a "funky" mood. I'm not usually this down, but I'm finding (for today) that I'm having a hard time coming out of it.

Susie in MN

**SusieJD** · 03-25-2004, 10:05 AM

Thanks Debbie, I do as much volunteer work as I can (I work on a crisis line and volunteer at the local food shelf), but it doesn't seem to make a differance. We don't have children (I should say "grandchildren" at my age) and our house is always clean (not spotless, but I'm not perfect either). I play with our dogs and train them, I've got my garden all planned.

Still, with all this, I'm pretty lonely and blue.

Susie in MN

**guest2** · 03-25-2004, 10:13 AM

Susie! Well sweetie, you know that we all love you here and are here to support you and talk to. We'll help pull you through all this!

**paelthom** · 03-25-2004, 10:27 AM

Susie,
Sending hugs and sunshine to try and brighten up your day.

Just wondering, do you use coupons? I have some here ready to send to someone and was just wondering if they would come in handy to you. If you are interested, please pm me your address.

Hang in there and know that we love and care for you both here and in the Garden.

**graci42** · 03-25-2004, 10:49 AM

Hi, Suzie...I'm just a key stroke away anytime you need to talk! I've not had to deal with "long distance" marriage, but as a used to be single mom, I know how lonely it can get. So any time you need to make contact...I'll be hang' n around! PM me if ya want!

**SusieJD** · 03-25-2004, 11:16 AM

Thank you Graci. It's so good to have caring and understanding friends! All of you and your knid thoughts mean so much to me! I think that a good rip-roaring cry is in order for me today, I've been holding a good hard cry back for too long now.

Love - Susie

**SusieJD** · 03-25-2004, 11:18 AM

For my caring friends here....

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Thank you all for your kindness.

Susie in MN

**guest2** · 03-25-2004, 11:50 AM

Cry away Susie and get it all out. Sometimes a good cry is what we really need! Passing you lots of kleenex and love!

**Dixie** · 03-25-2004, 12:03 PM

**MJsLady** · 03-25-2004, 12:44 PM

Susie, though I am not in you exact same spot, I too get over lonesome at times.
I am here if you need me, just pm or email.
hugs sweetie!

**duckduckgoose007** · 03-25-2004, 12:54 PM

Cry it out Susie. Tomorrow is another day. I am sure things will get better for you.
It is not fun to be lonely. Sending

& good thoughts your way.

**Missy** · 03-25-2004, 01:57 PM

I totally understand lonliness. My dh does work here in the city, but sometimes it is days in between seeing him, because he leaves before 5 am and sometimes isn't home till after midnight. plus he's been spending a great deal of his free time with his friends. Lonley, yeppers. I have found that keeping myself busy has helped out alot and focusing on other things for now helps too, at least for me.