Your engagement

**Daphne** · 04-24-2004, 07:36 AM

Malcom and I recently got engaged - 3 weeks ago. So many people ask when are you getting married and of course we have gotten the question....."when are you having babies!!!"

We haven't set a date yet. How soon after you got engaged did you get married or even set a date? Did you wait or decide right then?

**AmyMCGS** · 04-24-2004, 07:55 AM

We dated for about four and a half years before we got engaged.... then got married exactly six years to the day that we had started dating. That's how we chose our wedding date- we were looking for a date a year or more away, plus we had to wait until we were both back in the same state, plus I wanted plenty of time to plan my dream wedding.... and our dating anniversary seemed to work out perfectly as a wedding date.

**Sara Noel** · 04-24-2004, 09:11 AM

We didn't get engaged before marriage. Just decided to get married and did.

Without a date set yet, does this mean you are considering a larger wedding?

**babynurse** · 04-24-2004, 10:46 AM

Congrats, Daphne! I got engaged in March and we still haven't set a date yet...why? Because we are getting married at a resort and we are combining our honeymoon and wedding and basically need to save up for it...and then decide when the best and cheapest time of the year to go...I guess it is different for everyone...but hearing "when's the date" is getting a little annoying already! Good luck!

**Daphne** · 04-24-2004, 12:47 PM

Teresa we too are thinking about doing the wedding/honeymoon in one package. We are looking for the most affordable way.

We don't plan to have a big wedding - just simple but beautiful. Years ago I would have wanted the BIG wedding but now it is just important for me to have a special day with Malcom.

I have a ton of ideas of where and when we should get married and I'll keep you guys updated on what we decide.

Teresa - what resorts have you looked into so far?

**KKCondrey** · 04-24-2004, 01:18 PM

Congrats Daphne!!!!!

We dated for 6 years before we got engaged that was in Sept 2001 and then we got married in June 2002. It was probably about Oct. or Nov. before we set a date.

Happy planning!!!!

**guest2** · 04-24-2004, 08:15 PM

My hubby and I got engaged on my 21st birthday and set a date for the wedding about 11 months out from then. We did however change the wedding date (moved it up by about 3 months) due to some financial complications with trying to get his whole family over to Hawaii for it and of course that led to the questions heard behind my back of "Is she pregnant?"

Our first son was born 2 years and 8 months later!!!

**forestdale** · 04-25-2004, 01:00 AM

Like Sara, my DH and I just decided to get married and then did it. We dated for three years before we married.
Debbie, my first son was born just 10 months after we married so everyone was quickly counting that too. BTW, my second son was born just 12 months after my first. It was like the marriage opened the flood gates! Anyway, after the second one I closed the flood gates, permanently.

**Julia Kimber** · 04-25-2004, 01:54 AM

Congratulations Daphne!

Mike and I got engaged on my 21st birthday in October 1970 and married the following September. We decided on the date a few months after our engagement.
Julia

**babynurse** · 04-25-2004, 07:39 AM

We have looked into Couples, Sandals and a few independent resorts....Couples and Sandals have their wedding free (included in the honeymoon). We wanted to go to Hawaii, but just to expensive for us. We are also looking into Cuba as the wedding requirements are very few. Mexico is very extensive! Which have you looked at?

**AmyMCGS** · 04-25-2004, 08:53 AM

Originally posted by babynurse
but hearing "when's the date" is getting a little annoying already! Good luck!

Hee hee hee.... let me warn you, the instant you get married, that question changes to "so when are you having kids?". Complete strangers...well-meaning relatives... people who don't even know if you want kids... everyone will ask. Get ready!

**enchanted** · 04-30-2004, 03:27 PM

congrats on the engagement!!! we knew we wanted to get married about a month after knowing each other(august). we got engaged for xmas that year. got married the next may. we saved money by not getting too many flowers(2 bouquets, 3 buttoneers, 2 tree sprays, and a bunch of balloons on the wedding cake table) , having the wedding in a decorated back yard. did medievil food (sliced meat on a tray; buns on another tray, my mom made wedding cake, i made grooms cake, parents of both packed us a cooler (of left overs) to take on honeymoon (we drove to albuquerque, honeymoon was spent visiting parks and other areas of interest, and a movie) , grandparents bought bubbly, didn't have a huge wedding party(two bestmen, one best girl, 3 youngsters thrown in at last minute), it was sort of cocktail attire, everyone provided thier own clothing/suits. and my hunni made the wedding march for us and it was on a tape. he made a neat organ version of fools rush in.
friends of ours used white x-mas lights to decorate their night wedding- beautiful.
another set of friends set up there whole wedding deal in vegas.
and yet another couple we knew got married in a church and had a b-bq for the reception at her dad's farm.
my mil made wedding dress, i made veil.

**Missy** · 04-30-2004, 04:09 PM

We got engaged the day after Christmas and were married the day before Valentines day. We'd been together 7 years.

**PrairieRose** · 05-01-2004, 04:15 PM

We got married about 7 months after our engagement. We started talking about dates not long after we got engaged. I hope you get it all worked out Daph, for your special day.

**noni** · 05-06-2004, 12:59 AM

We got engaged on Sept 28, 1967, and married Sept.21, 1968. Ours was a little unusally that DH was in the Navy stationed aboard a submarine-his schedule was 3 months out to sea, 3 months home. So thats how we figured out our wedding date. AND he was stationed in VA and I was living in NJ. I saw him on weekends. Very confusing, my parents didn't think it would last 5 years, HA! It will be 36 this year, SO THERE!!