Prize for biggest failure in relationships??

**babynurse** · 05-17-2004, 11:09 AM

Well, that is it. Found out my fiance was cheating on me, online with all sorts of girls and the old cliche "working late". I kicked him out Thursday night and have had the most horrible week in a long, long time. I can't sleep, I am so angry and hurt and bitter. I can't understand why he did this to me? If he didn't want to get married why not just leave? I did so much for us, I accepted his son, treated him like a prince and he did this? I am so scared I will never find that happiness I am looking for. All I want is what I didn't have as a child, a stable family. I want babies so bad and I am coming to the conclusion that maybe I just won't have them. I am so lonely and scared. I hate my life. The only plus is that I have my cats. Pathetic, but it is all I have...and my brother. No friends, no mother or father, just a brother and 2 cats.

I should definitely get the prize for failure in a relationship. I win. Thanks for listening.
Theresa

**paelthom** · 05-17-2004, 11:17 AM

Theresa,
So sorry this guy turned out to be scum. I know that there is someone out there for you and that one day you will find them. Please don't beat yourself up for this. You did nothing wrong but care for someone who was not worthy. I'm sending you every hug and good wish that I can possibly send. Don't look for love, just take care of yourself and let that Prince Charming find you one day.

Feel free to vent to me anytime. Been there, done that and now I am a happy, well adjusted person with a lovely daughter and a SO that's pretty darn nice too.

**guest2** · 05-17-2004, 11:33 AM

Theresa
I'm so sorry that this guy turned out to be a toad. I've been cheated on before in a previous relationship with a man that I loved and the hurt was so deep and bad I never thought I would recover from it. Time did ease the pain and I swore I would never let anyone that close to me again. However, my now Darling Husband came into my life and I learned to trust again and found the true love of my life in him. Theresa, don't give up on love or an finding that special someone for you. He is out there. Just give yourself some time to heal, cry all you need to and as cliche as this sounds, thank God that you found out the toad was cheating on you now and didn't find out after you were married to him. My prayers, love and support are with you sweetie! Hang in there and remember that you have so much love to offer someone that is worthy of you and will cherish you for the beautiful, special and wonderful person that you are.

**Darlene** · 05-17-2004, 11:55 AM

I'm sorry Theresa, this just stinks. I eccho the statements made by the other ladies before me.

You are not pathetic or a failure. But boy oh boy is he a stupid pathetic lying

Again I'm sorry.

Don't ever give up and take good care of you.

**babynurse** · 05-17-2004, 12:22 PM

Thanks everyone for your words of encouragement and support. This one will take awhile to get over. I am in the "why me" stage I guess.
take care, Theresa

**Michelle** · 05-17-2004, 12:25 PM

I'm so sorry, Theresa.

**dolphin** · 05-17-2004, 12:48 PM

Awe Theresa I'm so sorry. Don't ever blame yourself hon. He's the jerk, he's the one who betrayed you. I'm so glad you did not marry this guy.

Cats and a brother, well, you have more than some people do hon. Plus you have a great job and you have your apartment. You are such a lovely girl that I'm sure you will meet someone who is worthy of you. For now, take care of yourself and do things that make you happy.

:bighug:

**AmyBoz** · 05-17-2004, 01:19 PM

**voodidit** · 05-17-2004, 01:26 PM

Theresa you can't blame yourself for something he did. You are never alone as long as we are here and somewhere out there is the perfect person for you!

**Katybird** · 05-17-2004, 02:03 PM

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 05-17-2004, 02:42 PM

Theresa, I am so sorry that the prince is a toad! At least you found out before marriage and kids were part of the picture.

DO NOT let this make you think you'll never find anyone. You are a wonderful, caring person (you HAVE to be caring to be a nurse, right?

) who WILL find the right guy for you.

We have a friend who met his SO through an place called Events and Adventures. It's not a dating service; it's activities for singles to do, such as rafting, wine tasting trips, etc. Is there anything like that where you are? Also, don't rule out church and volunteering for things. I have heard of people meeting while serving at soup kitchens!

My DH is a mechanic and we know some folks who have met when one person's car broke down and the mechanic was a great person to go out with!

Keep your chin up, sweetie and hang in there. Pet those kitties and remember, cats will NEVER cheat onyou!

**SusieJD** · 05-17-2004, 02:46 PM

I'm so sorry Theresa! Take it for all here who have been there when we say that time will heal your wounds. I always say that things happen for a reason. I was engaged 2x before my DH and I met. I broke it off both times and can't tell you how happy I am that I did.

Thinking of you!

Susie in MN

**couponchic** · 05-17-2004, 06:40 PM

**AmyMCGS** · 05-17-2004, 08:19 PM

Originally posted by babynurse
No friends, no mother or father, just a brother and 2 cats.

First of all, please remember that you have a whole village full of friends. We're here for you.

I'm sorry this guy was a jerk. IMO, his behavior means that he wasn't the one you are meant to spend your life with-- and I hope I don't sound like I'm making light of the situation (I, too, was cheated on once), but I really believe that you will eventually find the right guy and things will be the way they are meant to be.

**mrscornbread** · 05-17-2004, 09:29 PM

Theresa, HE was not worthy. You are and things will payoff soon, but YOU must be healthy enough to accept it and time will give you that. You have so much going for you, you have youth on your side and you are drop dead gorgeous. Don't worry, it seems maybe far off, but it will be oaky, I promise.

Sending love and remember your village sisters really do love you.