Thinking about a move (long)

**Goodwin17** · 09-12-2004, 11:25 PM

FH and I have been talking a lot lately about moving. We have lived all our lives in Alabama, and we both think if we don't ever get out and see the world now, we never will. It makes me excited and nervous at the same time. I'm just starting out in life. I'll be 23 this week, I'm about to finish graduate school, and we'll be getting married next year. We've been going through so many transitions, but I think now is as good a time as any. When I graduate Alabama is not the best place for me to work. We've been doing a little research on West Virginia, Virginia, and North Carolina. I really like mountainous areas and want to buy a house with some land. It's going to be hard on his mom and my dad. I know there are others who have gone through this situation, and I guess what I'm wondering is what you experienced. Does anyone have any good tips on researching places to live when its so far away, how to deal with family, and moving in general. Thanks for looking. I tend to get all worked up about these things!

**kimmee** · 09-13-2004, 01:04 AM

My friends have always gone where the work was - I would sound out the want ads first - you may have heard its a good area but... it sure would be alot more promising if you both had jobs lined up - it would give you the boundaries you need as well as establishing a role in your new community ! Parents let go - it takes a while but they always do - and you are young - who knows where your future may take you - perhaps back home when its ime to have kids! I would definately cover the job portion before I decided as at your age it is a very persuasive candidate and could mean alot to your self esteem and newcomers nerves!! (moving involves so many things!!) good luck to you both!!

**Darlene** · 09-13-2004, 08:02 AM

Heather, don't have any tips to give you but would like to say~ Enjoy the ride.This is such an exciting time and the sky is the limit!

Life is for living~Live it up!(enough of my clich´es, lol.)

Can't wait to hear the play by play as it all unfolds.

**couponchic** · 09-13-2004, 12:29 PM

Just wanted to wish you good luck. I moved away from my family when DH and I married as he was already living and working there/here. Fortunately, we are only 2 hours away from our family, so we can pretty much go home to visit any time we want/need. However, the longer we have been here, the less it seems we go back to visit. Sad as it is, time - work schedule and energy doesn't always permit us to travel back home as often as we would like. I do try to get back about once a month at least except during tax season.

**handmerounds** · 09-16-2004, 12:17 PM

My husband and I are both from a small town in Missouri. We married at 23 and moved to St. Louis where he found a great job bricklaying. We were about 3-4 hours away from our family. We went home every weekend! We were not use to the city. But fast forward 5 years........we now live between St. Louis and our home town. We have 2 children and our home and 40 acres. We still can make it to most of the family get togethers. My husbands job has provided us with so many more opportunities than if we would have just stayed in our hometown. (Not many jobs and don't pay very well) Anyway, I guess what I'm saying is that for us moving was one of the best thing that could happen for us. You can always come back home, but why not broaden your horizon. With your degree, the possibilities are endless!! Good luck with whatever you decide. And remember that God has a plan for us all!

**paelthom** · 09-16-2004, 02:10 PM

Just remember that wherever you go, there will be a frugal villager nearby - if not in person, then certainly by way of the site.

My only suggestion is take some vacations to some of the places you are interested and see what you think then.