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  1. 09-19-2004, 10:53 AM #1
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    Default Over-optimistic, ambitious husband (re: house repairs and decorating)

    What would you do with a husband who wants to get involved -- and who does have good suggestions, but who is a perfectionist and feels no reason to get done in a reasonable amount of time?

    For example ... we once had no curtains in our front window for 14 MONTHS because he didn't have time and only 'he' could do it 'right.'

    He sees no problem with this. But he's been working on our rec room floor -- since New Year's Day.

    I can't even put up a picture without him making comments on how 'wrong' it is. Now, when he puts up a picture, he first measures the wall -- side to side and top to bottom. He'll take a half-hour to hang a picture ... perfectly.

    I love the guy, and he does nice work, but .... there are too many unfinished projects around here. (BTW, if left to himself he'd work on them too much -- but I make him take downtime.)

    Next week he wants to go to a home show! (aka buy supplies for MORE projects).
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  2. 09-19-2004, 11:16 AM #2
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    Dh used to be like that. In a way it was better because waiting on him caused less clutter in our home but I finally took over the house and said it was mine and if he wanted to do something I wasn't waiting around till he finished.

    Sorry, don't have any advice for you.
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  3. 09-19-2004, 01:04 PM #3
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    If only my dh would DO anything around the house! lol He doesn't like to work on anything; not cars, not electronics, nothing.

    I don't have any advice either. Sorry!
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    My FIL is that way. Drives us all batty! My hubby has a long "honey do" list, but he is working his way through it.
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    Does he know he has a "problem"? I bet you love him dearly but, he's mr. perfectionest & mr. perfectionest needs a fire under his butt. I'm not sure how to help you but I guess I'd try to "contract" with him on any future projects. If he can do the job within a certain period of time he gets xyz. Give him something that makes him want to get the job done. Bribe him baby!!!!
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    My dh is the same way.......atleast he is right now! We have been working in ds's room for 6 months and I just want the work to be DONE!!!! I told him we either get it finished this week or he does the rest of the work all my himself!!!
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    Well at least he is confident, my dh wants to pay professionals for every little thing. Drives me batty, seeing as I come from a household of do it yourselfers.
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    We're having sort of the same issue in my house. I have the most beautfiul ceramic tile countertop....on one side!! Its not even grouted and has been this way for ohhh......6 months I'm betting. We also HAD to have this glass entry door for the kitchen. It hasn't been painted since he hung it. I offered to "help him with it" last night thinking that MIGHT get a start on it but he was too tired. *sigh -- in the same boat at you!! If I do it myself it won't be good enough and who wants to hear that!
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