A Question to the "Widows"

**Nada.Leona** · 09-29-2004, 10:34 AM

I often feel like a "video game" widow. Are there any other "widows" out there -- golf widows, car widows, hunting widows, etc? How do you handle this sort of situation? Because I'm slowly starting to go crazy

. Any suggestions?

Bright Blessings!
Rawiya

**KKCondrey** · 09-29-2004, 10:43 AM

Easy, make him a "widow" as well....lol

Joe likes riding his road bike (I call him Lance Armstrong nowadays) so I guess when we actually both have the same day off I turn into a bike widow. When we lived in the NC mountains and he worked at a private golf club, I was a golf widow. If I was working I didn't mind, but if it was my day off and he left me, I would be so mad.

Find a hobby to take up the extra alone time. Do a cross stitch or latch hook pattern or relax on the sofa with a good book or a chick flick. Those are the things I would do.

**lucy979** · 09-29-2004, 01:35 PM

Oh yes! I'm an Everquest widow here. (it's an online role playing game) Honestly most of the time I don't mind because if he wasnt playing a game he would be bothering me because he gets bored VERY easily. I just do whatever I want. I mean, he's here in the house but he's not always HERE. KWIM?

Anyway~ I hope you find something to occupy your time!

**canadian gardener** · 09-29-2004, 02:02 PM

I have my own life too. We have separate interests, and when we hang out together, it's a "date" time. But I don't try and push a "date" on him, or him on me when we are pursuing our separate passions.

We each need breathing room too, and as I've often pointed out to friends bothered by their husband's passions for golf or games or something

at least it isn't another woman.

**JUSTAMOM** · 09-29-2004, 02:16 PM

I'm both a WORK widow and a GOLF widow. When he's not working he's golfing! I actually look forward to the time alone (with 2 kids) We do our thing and he does his. We eventually get back together all of us for the better!

**DaisyLady** · 09-29-2004, 08:59 PM

Yup! I'm a car widow...more specifically a volkswagon widow. DH is restoring a bug a la Herbie. But I don't mind as it gives me a chance to work on my hobbies too. And I don't have to worry about him looking at other women... He'd rather look at cars

**forestdale** · 09-29-2004, 09:14 PM

Rawiya, I'm guessing you haven't been married very long. As time goes by, you'll look forward to your time alone and cherish it. Don't think of him being away from you as being a "widow", do as the other ladies have suggested and get yourself a hobby or some interest that occupies your time too. Don't be reliant on him to entertain you, develop your strength and inner self with your own interests. Then, when you two spend time together, it won't be out of habit or because you think you should spend time with each other, it will be because you find each other interesting, have lots to share and because you love being with each other. That, my friend, will keep those love fires burning for many many years.

**Goodwin17** · 10-01-2004, 02:00 PM

I'm not married yet, so it can't really be classified as a widow, LOL. He's a video game/golf/fishing/hunting freak. The only thing that really bothers me is when I don't have much to do, and he takes up the internet and television playing his playstation online. I don't mind as much as I used to. We've been dating 6 1/2 years now, and I like some alone time. I usually spend my time on the internet, reading, crocheting (new hobby/ teaching myself), and planning our wedding. I agree, find a hobby and you'll enjoy your time apart. It'll make your time together more magical.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 10-01-2004, 11:32 PM

I am a computer widow! I call Dell (our lap top) "The other woman"!! The big joke around here is that the only way I could get his attention would be to prance through his office wearing nothing...but a keyboard!!!

**pita1213** · 10-02-2004, 12:56 AM

if ya can't beat him, join him. that's how i ended up on the internet. dh used to play TFC, online wargame, and eventually i got into it. now i have a whole slew of people i chat with and such online. he still has his group of friends online and i have mine, but they overlap some.now he has discgolf all his own and i have scrapbooking all my own. find a hobby of your own or see if he'd want you to get involved in his. you wouldn't have to sit there with him all the time, just from time to time, it might be nice to do some of his hobby together, then maybe if you have one, you two can do your hobby together.