Oh thank God I'll never be 13 again!!

[kimmee]

Aimee's best friend (Lana) - I referred to her a few times before - ( her mom basically never knows what shes doing and figures just cuz Lana has a cell phone and is supposed to call her regularly that she has the whole parental handle on things) - Incidentally I took care of Lana all summer and her mom is one of the women starting rumors about me around town - that I'm a floozy and a drunk and now Lana is not supposed to come over here) Anyway - me and my digressions - Lana has a sixteen year old boyfriend tht she can only talk to me about because her mom thinks she is having sex with him but doesn't have the cajones to tell her she can't see him! How's that for a handle on parenting. Anyway - Lana and I talk about the whole sex thing and though I think she will break down with him (he pushes incessantly) I think she will have some self regard to hold off for awhile - I really wish she would juststart hanging out with the boys her own age but then I think what if MY seventh grade boy ran up against Lana (SHUDDER). Tonight evidently this dork told her she was getting fat and if she did he would dump her. She is a very thin maturely developed girl. so I have been online with her for the last hour discussing appropriate diets for healthiness and not for losing weight or appeasing some dorky boy. when we finally signed off she said - you're right mommee - you always know the right things to say to help me see what's happening...

God Love Her (and please look out for her)

[kaykwilts]

It's no wonder that young girls go the anorecic (sorry for spelling) route when boys make insensitive remarks like this. I'm thinking this remark is a ploy to get her to have sex with him. If she thinks she is losing him she may give in and have sex. I think this boy is too old for her and that her mother should develope a backbone and no longer permit her to see it. Also, I think the mother is speading stories about you because she is jealous of the relationship that you have with her daughter.

[DaisyLady]

There was a scientific study published a while back that showed that girls who do not have a close relationship with their mothers tend to have low self esteem and usually have sex at a young age whereas girls who do have a good mother/daughter relationship tend to have a healthy self esteem and usually waited to have sex until they were more mature.

Kimmee, keep being a friend to this young lady. It could just change her life.

[Ellise]

Oh kimmee, what a wonderful momma you are! I'm sure with your input she'll do the right thing.

Daniel will not date a girl that is too skinny. He says they are pretty and all but he wants a girl that will eat something when he takes her out to eat. He refused to date one girl because she would not eat!!! She came to the house on Sunday for lunch and ate like 5 Fries. Daniel said if you are afraid of eating then I'm afraid to date you, you might die in my car or something from Anorexia.

I agree there are ways to eat healthy and maintain a certain weight.

[guest2]

Kimmee, thank you for loving Lana and being there for her since her own mother will not.

Ellise about your son. That boy has a good head on his shoulders!

[Guest1]

HE does & HE will....

And how wonderful for Lana that HE has put you in her life to love her through it all.....

I remember one time a boy told me that if I wanted to keep him as my boyfriend, I'd need to lose weight - I looked him square in the eye & told him that if I lost weight I could find a more compassionate boyfriend and wouldn't need him anyway!

He's never mentioned weight again in 20 years!!

[KKCondrey]

Kimmee, I hope the mom realizes one day how good you are to her daughter and stops spreading rumors about you. I agree with Kay she probably is jealous that her daughter confides more in you than in her adn is trying to make you look like the bad guy instead of the caring individual that you are.

[fernykins]

Been there myself.all you can do is tell it to her straight. I have a little friend ( friend of my 2nd son Brandon she's 26 now) I use to feed her cause her mother's money went on drugs and alcohol. It got to the point that she would come over crying because there was no food. She was 16 when she moved out. and went to stay with a girl friend. I attended her graduation from high school. ans suported her decission to join the navy. Any time something good happened to her she would call me. She did her 4 years in the navy and is now doing the same job for the goverment as a cevilian. While she was in the navy her bothers exgirl was arrested for drugs. I picked up their 2 kids. She now has custody of both kids. The youngest has cerebal palsy caused by mothers drug abuse. She's doing great with those kids. she has had them for 4 years. Sometimes you have to help the kids out because the parents are worthless... Fern